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I cant believe what is going on here at Blogit I spell check this and it changed the corrections back, I know I am not a good speller but itsnt that why we have spell check
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 6:54 PM
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star
thank you for the flower
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 6:53 PM
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reflection
I emailed you
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 6:51 PM
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TAPS
they may be a good assocation and it wasn't possible for me to be there with her and my brother made sure that I knew as little as possible. He probably gave them permission to put her on Hospice. I will probably always feel it was a form of erunthinasia to quiet her down
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 6:49 PM
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FoliageGold
as I mentioned the therapist try to tell me her body gave out and hospice was there to make her more comfortable, but she never did seem like she was in pain, not anymore than normal. She just went fast when they brought her in and told me they druged her to make it easier for her. I dont believe this and never will.
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 6:46 PM
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posted by
star4sky5
on May 21, 2007 at 5:13 PM
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HI LUSTOR
I WILL EMAIL YOU
posted by
Charnell_Lanay
on May 21, 2007 at 4:41 PM
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lustorlove
I can only speak for myself and for my own experiences with hospice. Hospice is a generic word which involves many different Agencies. I have only good to say about the four different ones with whom I have been involved in the care of my loved ones. The closer that one is involved with the care of the loved one, the more one notices all the ways their care is manifest in the life and death of the patient and in help to the family.
Perhaps it was your lot to be involved with one that was not up to the standards that I have experienced. It definitely would hurt terribly to feel the way that you do. I have noticed from my years as a nurse that family members with the least involvement in the care of their loved one usually have the most questions, complaints and accusations. It helps so much to be right in there on a daily basis giving care and observing what the hospice nurses and aides do for the loved one. Everyone can not do that for various reasons and what a pity that is. Dying is a family thing just as much as living is.
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TAPS.
on May 21, 2007 at 1:37 PM
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Lilane
Personal feelings aren't wrong, their yours. I don't know much about Hospice care but from what I've heard they care for those of whom are dying, yes? You're right, you'll never know for certain the answers. Who knows, your mom may have asked for help. I know my Nana gave up near the end. Very sad watching your mom like that and not being able to do anything.
posted by
FoliageGold
on May 21, 2007 at 12:46 PM
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Troosha
the therapist tried to tell me they did what they could to make her comfortable but it was so fast after they took over, she seemed ok body wise, but suffered Dementia. I guess I just believe if they hadn't drugged her so much she would of lasted longer, and of course I didn't have much time to do anything about it or express my feelings she was gone within a week or so after they took her case. Dont worry about overstepping the boundries I wanted to hear what others thought
posted by
Lanetay
on May 21, 2007 at 12:18 PM
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Lustor
I'm hesitant to comment because this is a deeply personal story and something you obviously feel quite strongly about. The only thought I had was that Hospice, as I know, has a mandant to keep each patient as comfortable as possible - meaning no pain and this often translates into higher dosages of meds such as morphine. The increased meds is what could have caused the in/out sleeping state you witnessed and sometimes the meds can take their toll on already compromised organs. I'm sorry your mother's final months were so turbulent (health-wise) and I'm sure watching her slip from the woman you knew into a shadow was extremely painful for you. Forgive me if I over stepped any boundaries.
posted by
Troosha
on May 21, 2007 at 11:15 AM
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