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kooka lives,
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:18 PM
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Kabu,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:18 PM
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Justi,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:17 PM
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Frankenkitty,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:17 PM
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Proc,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:16 PM
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Enigmatic68,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:16 PM
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strat,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:16 PM
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Offy,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 6:15 PM
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Kabu
I would not say it has been buried, just altered with the times. The morality of sex is not as needed today as it has been in the past. In the modern world if one acts responsibly, they can have a healthy sex life with multiple partners without causing health problems. Now the mental issue is a little different, but I do know of couples who have open marriages who seem to be happy. Some people can handle sex as being just physical and separate it from a relationship, some can't.
I've been faithful to my wife and I really cannot tell you if I could separate the two, since I have not had the chance to ever have casual sex myself. But that does not mean it is right or wrong for others to do such.
Morality is a set of ideas that has to be able to change with the times. What was moral yesterday does not have to be moral today. It all depends on just what the moral idea is really based on.
posted by
kooka_lives
on April 16, 2007 at 5:25 PM
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afzal this is a very good post. With all these so called celebrities living
together and having children and then swapping to some one else...... and it just seems to be accepted these days. I wonder where morality is buried.
posted by
Kabu
on April 16, 2007 at 5:05 PM
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Afzal
I can only speak to what I personally feel required to live by. I am a Christian and I made a covenant with my husband and God. That was a serious commitment and I feel that we, both of us, must be respectful of the other, be loving and kind to one another and never be unfaithful to one another, never hold sex as a bargaining tool. I don't expect that is what is required of everybody just of Christians. There is a clear mandate set out for it. I also don't think for one minute all Christians do this, thus far we have made it, I feel it is likely we will continue to do so. Very good post.
posted by
Justi
on April 16, 2007 at 4:54 PM
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The lady made a strange
and hypocritical request. Apparently she thought she could get away with making such a request. Sometimes societies justify "mistresses" and other extra-marital partners by wealth or social status. To me, this isn't so different from polygamy. I don't agree with it, but each to his own. Interesting blog
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on April 16, 2007 at 4:26 PM
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I have the belief that a relationship cannot survive without trust.
How can you trust someone who has let you down?
posted by
proc
on April 16, 2007 at 2:50 PM
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Afzal
If their marital loyalty is all a specific couple has to offer the world, in other words, if, in the other aspects of their lives - the husband beats the wife, and they both beat their children, and they are greedy and selfish - and you compare that to a couple where one or the other (or both) are committing adultey, but otherwise they are very giving, helpful people in their everyday lives, I would definitely say that the adulterous couple is the more noble. But if you compare a non-adulterous couple, who are also very decent parents, and giving and helpful to their community, then I would defititely say that that couple is the more noble - not to sound sarcastic, but couples like that do exist. I was fortunate enough to be raised by such parents - so no matter what problems us kids were having - and we had many: drug problems, mental breakdowns, etc..., there was always that comfort that our parents were loyal and loving, not only to us, but to each other - I'm not trying to sound preachy, I just call them like I see them!
posted by
Enigmatic68
on April 16, 2007 at 1:25 PM
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My view is simple:
If I am worthy of the title a "man" then I keep my promises. If I promise to be monogamous within the marriage, then I remain monogamous, because to break that promise, that commitment, means I am less than a man.
Actually, to break any promise is, to me, demeaning of myself and erosive of character. Consequently, I don't make many promises.
A little ascetic, maybe, but I am what I am. Pardon my penchant for pontification.
Interesting post, though. Thanks!
posted by
strat
on April 16, 2007 at 12:59 PM
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afzal
I believe marriage to be a sacred trust and infidelity has no place in it. Why get married if you are going to cheat either physically or emotionally? It is not fair to the spouse, the children, the family, the marriage..My 2 cents~
posted by
Offy
on April 16, 2007 at 12:50 PM
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you're welcome. Hey, I like this topic.
posted by
snubnose
on April 16, 2007 at 11:45 AM
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snubnose,
YOu have added another dimension to my post . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 11:39 AM
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Most people are greedy. This lady sounds like a horny toad who doesn't have the guts to tell hubby he sucks in bed. I'll tell him. Husband you suck. That's just my opinion.
Maybe he needs viagra.
posted by
snubnose
on April 16, 2007 at 11:31 AM
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Sunny,
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posted by
afzal50
on April 16, 2007 at 11:17 AM
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Afzal
Good post. I agree with you.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on April 16, 2007 at 11:15 AM
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