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Reflection of me
You said it best - he needs a life, and FAST! And even if he's probably thrilled that he's found the place where I blog, I would never dream for a second of changing my blog name - losers just need to be ignored!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 3:15 AM
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Straighforward
The first lines were in fact the exact recount of what had happened to my friend, but no names were mentioned - I'd never violate someone's privacy that way. What I DON'T understand however is how he managed to find me! He didn't know my pen name, let alone about my blogit account! All he managed to bark at me when I asked him how he found my Blogit page was "It's all there!" (which we all know is a complete and utter lie unless you pay to read what's in here!) I tired logging out and googling all sorts of combination keywords that would lead to my blogit account, but nothing. All I can guess at this point is that I'm dealing with a loser-come-stalker: this is not the first time he's tried to find "info" about me with excuse of "seeing if I've written any articles".
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 3:12 AM
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food4thought
you can bet I'll keep on writing - I don't care what he thinks! I have nothing to hide and he's not gonna find any "dirt" about me here or elsewhere!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 3:03 AM
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lustorlove
you wanna laugh? In one of the last conversations we had before this whole thing exploded, I brought up the subject of his divorce. He promised me in December that he'd be divorced by January. Now, since I am the type that does not nag BUT I am also the type that will remain silent to see how far you actually go in keeping your word, while he was reading off his whole list of "you did this, you did that" to me, I casually brought up "well, weren't you supposed to be divorced by now? You said January - it's April, in case you haven't realized." He had the audacity to say that
if he had known it was so important to me for him to get divorced he would have!
Good bye, good luck and good riddance - I can't have my intelligence insulted this way anymore!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:58 AM
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thank you Afzal
some people however just don't realize that - and send people running far away from them!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:49 AM
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proc again
What happened to LCM is just plain beneath contempt, vile and can ruin people's lives. I already warned my ex that if he tries anything funny with my pics I'll make sure his job will be at stake. It may sound downright viscious but I'd rather be safe today than be screwed over tomorrow. You can't trust anyone anymore!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:46 AM
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proc
I sometimes get the feeling - and I hope I'm wrong! - that he was more into the idea of being in a relationship just to show his ex-wife that he had moved on than for the sake of being in a relationship at all. I always had to hear things from him like, I've been hurt in the past, women have used me, etc. Apart from the fact that I can bottle and sell the hurt I've been subjected to in the past, I told him more than once that I can't pay the price for his past hurt. There's no worse deaf man than one who won't listen, apparently.....
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:41 AM
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Sunnybeach...
Controlling? In comparison he makes Chinese newpapers look like Mad magazine! Just think that we are both members of a message forum of an artist we both like. It turns out that on this forum I befriended (so to speak) two guys who like me are form NY and grew up not very far from where I did. Every so often we'd laugh (PUBLICLY!) about the good ol' times in NY in the 70s and reminsce about the pop culture going on....good, clean HARMLESS fun....but he'd always have a fit when I did that - apart from his insecurites that made him see everything as flirting, it was as if I had to pay a price
for having had a life before meeting him! I warned him time and time again that I would not tolarate this sort of behavior from him. He chose not to listen!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:28 AM
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Kasthu
I still don't know how he managed to track me down. I never told him about my Blogit page (cause it's my beeswax!). I even tried logging out to see if I could "find myself" with all sorts of related keywords, but it turned up nothing - unless there is a way of doing it that I don't know about. He once gave me the third degree cause he found me as an author on Constant-Content - without even knowing what the hell it was about! I've not heard from him since...though I get the feeling he'll turn up again in some shape or form!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on April 11, 2007 at 2:19 AM
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THAT AINT COOL
HOWEVER, YOU CAN WRITE WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO WRITE. YOU DIDN'T USE NAMES SO YOU ARE FINE. THAT IS WHAT WRITING IS FOR VENTING. I BELIEVE HE SAW SOMETHING YOU WROTE YOU NICK NAME ON. THERES NO WAY HE COULD HAVE ASSOCIATED YOUR NICK NAME WITH YOUR NAME. HE NEEDS A LIFE. I WISH YOU COULD CHANGE YOUR NAME IN A WAY THAT WE COULD ID YOU SO THAT WE COULD POST KNOWING THAT IT YOU. GOOD LUCK. PEACE AND LOVE
posted by
Charnell_Lanay
on April 8, 2007 at 7:11 PM
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Was the story about your friend -the first four lines that is-one of a kind
that he could identify you? Otherwise it's simply strange as there is no clue at blogit about identities otherwise
posted by
Straightforward
on April 6, 2007 at 1:47 AM
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It is odd to meet a fellow blogger...
Then you realize how much freedom Blogit allows since we are all incognito. Then you meet someone who has read what you wrote with your gaurd down and feel self conscious!
All the more reason to keep writing!
posted by
food4thought
on April 5, 2007 at 10:25 PM
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ny
sounds like you are better off without him
posted by
Lanetay
on April 5, 2007 at 6:10 PM
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YOu have a right to express what you want to express and it's no body's
busniness to control you .
posted by
afzal50
on April 5, 2007 at 5:43 PM
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I dont know if you have ever read LadyCeeMaree.
but she writes in a recent post of how she got many hits on one of her internet sites,wondered why and went there to find all these married men had left messages.On looking for her picture she found someone had tampered with her picture putting pornographic style pictures with her face and the caption"I f....k married men".As expected it upset and mystified her.But as she has revealed in her posts she had an affair which ended badly.I suggested that maybe it was the man or his wife.She realised he is pretty good with computers because of his job.Yes,internet stalkers do exist.
posted by
proc
on April 5, 2007 at 5:27 PM
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You go girl!!!
After going through the hands of black-frocked nazis why does he think he can mess with you?Seriously though Im so glad you popped in at my site.Im going to enjoy some of your previous posts.I just hate it when exes dont move on and out.
posted by
proc
on April 5, 2007 at 5:15 PM
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Wow....sorry to hear all this.
It's not like anyone here would know who you are, let alone, who your friend(s) might be.
I hate controlling people!
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on April 5, 2007 at 5:04 PM
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No offense, but your ex is behaving a little strangely
Your feelings about the situation are YOUR feelings, and yes, blogit is a place to vent if need be. I would be a little bit freaked out if an ex Googled me, just to keep tabs on me. Hope the situation gets resolved!
posted by
Kasthu
on April 5, 2007 at 5:03 PM
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