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Ciel
I'm so touched by your words. I still have a piece of my blanket from childhood. Don't tell anybody? --Joy!Mary
posted by
FoliageGold
on April 4, 2007 at 5:00 PM
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I understand! I had a man in my life for a while that did those little
things like listening, like noticing and saying something when I was looking good, or feeling bad... Even though the relationship was impossible for many reasons, only one of which was his relationship with alcohol, he was one of the few people in my life who has ever given me the feeling of being loved.
Once, at a moment of great loneliness and uncertainty, I had that very distinct feeling of being embraced as I laid in bed alone. I don't think it was the new bedspread, but 35 years later, I still have it, just in case...
posted by
Ciel
on April 4, 2007 at 4:57 PM
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I suppose it could be the drugs...
or just that the bigger consciousness gets, the more we realize we can't really be alone!
posted by
Ciel
on April 4, 2007 at 4:51 PM
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Ciel
Terrific post. For me, feeling loved is in the tiny details. A fellow I dated did the most interesting things at times. Simple, little things like fastening my seatbelt in the car. May sound weird, but that gesture was loaded. To me, anyway. Best way I feel loved by God when I'm thinking myself unloved is getting into bed with a good book and feeling as though the blankets around me are His hands. --Joy!Mary
posted by
FoliageGold
on April 4, 2007 at 4:44 PM
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Ciel -
I've been lucky in that I haven't felt unloved in a few years. I attribute it to my spiritual growht, but I guess it could be the drugs . . .
posted by
sannhet
on April 3, 2007 at 3:40 PM
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I think it's one of those things we are in this schoolhouse to learn about,
Whacky--and why we have pets, too: for both to learn about what love is.
posted by
Ciel
on April 2, 2007 at 11:55 PM
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But, Gepruitt, what do you mean by "love?"
posted by
Ciel
on April 2, 2007 at 11:54 PM
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Thanks for the great comment, Greenfields! You're right, it is harder to
be hurt if we know the difference between our own feelings and other people's intentions. Rudeness, real or perceived, offends us not because of the thing itself, but because of the intent or willingness , or sheer disregard on the part of the other to cause us pain or inconvenence.
posted by
Ciel
on April 2, 2007 at 11:53 PM
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It is sometimes a puzzle.
A smile
from Bo =^..^= and a rose
from me!
posted by
Whacky
on April 2, 2007 at 8:39 PM
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Ciel
Quite a thesis! I "love" it.
posted by
GEPRUITT
on April 1, 2007 at 10:55 PM
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Very thoughtful
and profound. I like what you write about feeling excluded or doing something for someone and not being appreciated. But like yo, I am discovered and grown to accept the fact that people show and accept love in many ways and we may need to be open to all of them. And often, people we love do things that hurt us. But this is more about us than them. And in a deep way we need to get in touch with this, the inner core of oursleves.
posted by
Greenfields
on April 1, 2007 at 10:52 PM
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