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Sunny,
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on March 14, 2007 at 6:54 PM
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Afzal
That shouldn't happen, unless a person is causing harm in some way with the relationship..... hurting you.... consuming a valuable amount of your time, etc.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on March 14, 2007 at 6:52 PM
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JBird79,
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on March 14, 2007 at 5:43 PM
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Cameraeye ,
Thanks .
posted by
afzal50
on March 14, 2007 at 5:43 PM
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Afzal,That's an interesting question...
That's an interesting question...I suppose the answer would depend on how deep the connection with the spouse is. If it is someone you see yourself spending the rest of your days with as a partner, it'd seem that making certain sacrifices to keep things moving forward with that person would be your #1 priority, but it would also depend on your spouse's reasoning for wanting you to let certain connections go, too. If the reasons were that the person or persons are a bad influence on you who are causing you to do things that bely who you really are, then it'd be fully justified, but if your spouse just wanted you to give up longtime friends because of a personal distaste for them, or a want/need to have you all to herself, that'd be a bit unjust. I agree with Cameraeye that honesty is the best policy, and sneaking around behind your spouse's back is never a wise choice, for anything. I think, for me, the answer would be some combination of a, c, and d. I'd listen to my spouse's reasons for not wanting me to continue my relationship with the person(s) she finds I should move on from, and then I'd really examine my relationship(s) with that person (/them) to decide if I agree that they aren't good for me, or to say that they are going to be my friends and that she'll have to learn to deal with it, or perhaps the problem is not that I need to bump people from my life, but maybe she needs to learn to be more accepting of others.
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JBird79
on March 14, 2007 at 5:12 PM
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Well, negotation
would be my first step. Honest, open and direct to say it is important for you to haave this connection. Spouse should respond with understanding,,,then hopefully both can agree on a middle road.
Lou 
posted by
Cameraeye
on March 14, 2007 at 4:40 PM
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