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Yes,Jaahda ,
You are right .
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 11:03 PM
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afzal. all the answers you seek are in the oriah poem
posted by
Jaahda
on February 20, 2007 at 10:59 PM
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afzal
my answer would be D possessiveness I am sorry but I might fall under that, but because of the treatment I have suffer from men
posted by
Lanetay
on February 20, 2007 at 7:02 PM
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I will send the link after half an hour , I am leaving in a hurry to reach
My daughter to school . I have not read your comment . I shall come back and read . Thanks for the sweet sms. I love you.
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 6:39 PM
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Afzal
It depends a lot on the circumstances, I think.
There's a big difference between someone not liking it and someone not allowing it. My son's father, in the beginning of our relationship, although he never said I couldn't talk to anyone, became quite abusive if I did.
He became quite abusive just for the fact that a guy that was in front of us in line at a Walmart had turned around and commented to me that, that particualar Walmart was rated the busiest one in the nation, after I had said to B. that the sign says that if there are more than 3 customers in line, they will open a new register, but they didn't.
The only thing that I had replied to the guy, was "Wow, really?"
When we got out of there, B. flipped out on me, totally.
That is serious possesiveness. I think for most non-possesive people, they don't like to see it because thoughts run through their mind that it is possible for them to lose their love to someone else and it causes fear or insecurity at times.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on February 20, 2007 at 6:35 PM
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OFFBEATS,
It is great of you and highly commendable for a lady to do that . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 6:28 PM
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Justi,
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 6:27 PM
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It never bothered
Me if my spouse chose to speak to anyone..
posted by
Offy
on February 20, 2007 at 6:23 PM
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Afzal
It would appear to me if one choose to be possessive and control the freedom of another then he/she the controller is responsible for the actions of the person they are possing. I would not want the responsibility of another, I hardly can assume it fully for myself. IMHO
posted by
Justi
on February 20, 2007 at 6:18 PM
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Fortunesfool,
Thank for stopping by !
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 6:03 PM
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Not really to be honest, in fact I have often got in trouble for seeking advice elsewhere but never really been against a partner doing it. I think its natural and can be very helpful - a outside perspective is always helpful.
posted by
Fortunesfool
on February 20, 2007 at 6:02 PM
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Justi,
You have a strong reason to chose , it could be one strong reason for the spouse not to allow their partner freedom at all .
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 5:48 PM
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Ariala,
Thanks for sharing your valuable views .I agree with you .
posted by
afzal50
on February 20, 2007 at 5:46 PM
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Afzal
I choose d- I believe if one does not want their spouse to speak with or talk with others it has to be because of possessivness. Why in the world would one want their beloved to be stuffed back in a corner without freedoms? Just my opinion.
posted by
Justi
on February 20, 2007 at 5:43 PM
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I think it's fear, but I also believe we need accountability to keep
ourselves honest. If you love someone you don't mind being emotionally naked with them. Insecurity can do a lot of harm...love is patient and helps the insecurity to heal.
posted by
Ariala
on February 20, 2007 at 5:33 PM
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