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Thank you ever so much for all your comments......much appreciated.
it is so nice that I am not alone.
the house is back to a mad house today....not quiet anymore....I even have my little girls friends in....I might moan when it is loud...but, I do secretly like it noisy.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 29, 2006 at 7:04 AM
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It is funny that as parents
one longs for a break from the kids, but when they are not around one always thinks and is concerned about them. Kids are a parent's world and bring enough excitement into a parent's world that we become content in the world that may be boring to outsiders, but not to a parent.
posted by
Tanga
on December 28, 2006 at 10:32 PM
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Symphony...
Chilren...we have them, they become our life. All consuming, tiring, frustrating, sometimes a bloody struggle, then suddenly they fly the nest and then, and then the emptiness is all consuming. I find myself thinking, "I know I raised them to go out on their own, but did they have to do it so soon?" I must stress, enjoy them while you can, because all too soon, they will be gone and you won't believe how much you miss them.
posted by
food4thought
on December 28, 2006 at 7:05 PM
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Well Symphony
My children are all grown and I still check on them everyday. Yep even when I lived a thousand miles away everyday I talked to each of my kids...I will say when they were all little there were times when I thought I would lose my ever lovin mind. Then they grew up and I did....I don't know anyone who fought the empty nest more then me. I would sit on the floor and listen to Pink Floyd and cry my eyes out. Some people (husbands) said it wasn't normal...Being a Mother is an honor and one in which you do so very well...
posted by
Offy
on December 28, 2006 at 7:04 PM
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Guys don't talk about that, Symphony.
posted by
Joe_Love
on December 28, 2006 at 6:56 PM
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I would finish my chores first, then choose something I like to do.
posted by
A-and-B
on December 28, 2006 at 3:14 PM
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I would finish my chores first, then choose something I like to do.
posted by
A-and-B
on December 28, 2006 at 3:12 PM
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hehehe I guess you are right....Julia.
and thank you so much for telling me that you post again, in that blog....I will save it in my favs so I don't miss any....be straight over.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 12:24 PM
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It's only sad and boring if you choose to view it as such...
maybe you've forgotten the old positive thinking Quirky drilled into your head? LOL. I am pretty much free to do whatever, whenever and I've gotten quite used to it! BTW, you used to read my Seeing Beyond blog and so I wanted to let you know I'm posting there again. No obligation though. Take care.
posted by
Julia.
on December 28, 2006 at 9:55 AM
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You have made me feel suddenly calm and relaxed!...Pat_B
You know what?, I must have a really short memory...Last night I was reading a book about truly listening and feeling the world - something about quietness lets us recharge our batteries, and not many people get to do that as their lives are so crammed...etc.....you saying that reminded me of what I was reading (bear in mind it was very late last night when I was reading it, very sleepy) - maybe I should go meditate.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 8:03 AM
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What I'd do - walk up to the coffee shop, order a latte and a pastry...
sit there quietly, looking at new artwork on the walls, doing a little people watching without incessant demands and sibling squabbles. I'd take a deep breath, let it out, and realize I deserve this island of calm in the midst of my stormy seas. It may be true that life is boring -- but considering the alternatives, this is a good thing. :)
posted by
Pat_B
on December 28, 2006 at 7:56 AM
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Funny you should say that - lovelyladymonk ...
I have just finished a laminated poem card I created.....I might also finish a picture DVD that I have been meaning too.
I might read a few more blogs first ...
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 7:41 AM
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Lol...I don't have children, so they don't get in my way and I don't wonder what to do with myself when they aren't with me!!
Maybe you could draw out some nice cards or pictures or write a poem or a story?
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on December 28, 2006 at 7:30 AM
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I write too...afzal50
But, I can do that just as easily when the children are here.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 5:56 AM
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I write poem.
posted by
afzal50
on December 28, 2006 at 5:54 AM
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Yes, Presley....I think you are totally right.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 5:44 AM
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Symphony
What is it about us mothers? We ache for a moment to ourselves (or so we think) and when we get it we feel completely out of our element! I relate to your feelings. I guess what we REALLY want is to have the kids around, but to be able to get done what needs to be done without interruption. Do you think?
posted by
Presley
on December 28, 2006 at 4:59 AM
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it is nice to know that I am not alone, avant-garde...
I find it strange that we as parents want and need a break - then when we have it - we don't know what to do with the time.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 4:35 AM
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SYMPHONY
I know exactly what you're feeling. We don't have anyone watching our boys. I try to give my wife time off to be with herself, and she does with me. It's probably the only way we've survived.
When I'm around here and they are unusually quiet, I find myself twiddling my thumbs. I start this way, then that, and finally just give up and lay down with them or read a book.
posted by
avant-garde
on December 28, 2006 at 4:06 AM
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Thanks so much TAPS- .....
Yes it will be really hard when they leave the nest....I want them to stay small and dependent on me forever...but, not in a selfish way....in away of protecting them from the horrible world we live in....it is so unsafe now.
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 3:49 AM
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Thank you for making me feel a little better....mneme.
it's only been a few hours since they went out... it's now 11.50am...I have ages yet until they come back - ages until my friends come over!
posted by
_Symphony_
on December 28, 2006 at 3:46 AM
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SYMPHONY
You are conditioned to be a Mom. And, you have chosen to be a great one. You have given your whole self to being the best mom that you can be. You will have a difficult time going through the empty nest syndrome when that time comes. But, you do not really have it in you to mope around so you will find interesting and positive things to do with yourself.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 28, 2006 at 3:46 AM
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Symphony,
if you do, then so do I..! I have too much time on my own now that mine are grown - so blogging it is for me this evening too. I loved my children's company when they were small, and they were my world.. it's natural.
posted by
mneme
on December 28, 2006 at 3:42 AM
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