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Thank-you everyone
I really appreciate responses to my posts. And, your thoughts are important to me. Fahalo..... as for the "bed", I don't think it's the actual bed itself I'm having the problem with. It's more the idea he could have brought another woman into our home, our bedroom, our bed. We were separated at the time. But, that is no consolation to me. The thoughts of her haunt me several times throughout the day. Chili.....I need a permanent peace basket! Thanks everyone!
posted by
Cindy7
on December 29, 2006 at 2:21 PM
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Hi Cindy! I was hoping your Christmas would be a little
better than it apparently was. I did not think earlier about your bed and suggest you replace it ASAP. As others have told you forgiving is one thing and forgetting is another. If you cannot ask Rick to purchase a new bed then do it yourself and let him deal with it! He has stepped on your rights and you have the right to refuse to attempt to sleep with him in the bed he violated. If you can switch bedrooms that too would help! Living with Rick and proving your love for him and God, to God and Rick is one thing, but God does not expect the impossible of you. As others said here, take care of yourself first, then you can take care of your relationship with Rick! Blessings and prayers I offer to you Cindy and I will keep in touch!
faholo
posted by
faholo
on December 27, 2006 at 3:56 PM
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Taps and Cindy
enigma is exactly right. My experiences - any of many - are grounds for divorce, in my home country. I am not living in my home country and things are different. Cindy, I agree with Taps - you do forgive, but can't always forget the hurt. But one piece of advice I have had (that I struggle with), is to make the decision for yourself, and be sure it's what you want. I wish you strength, and clarity.
posted by
mneme
on December 27, 2006 at 1:59 PM
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Cindy
I think it is much easier to forgive that it is to forget. Forgiving and forgetting are not the same thing. Even though you forgive things will always happen in your life (like Christmas) that will bring back sudden memories of ruined hopes and shattered dreams. You have to decide whether it is worth the effort of going on with what you have left. It is an enigma.
I
f I am not for myself, who is for me?
When I am for myself, what am I?
posted by
TAPS.
on December 26, 2006 at 12:17 AM
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Cindy, I hope this works out for you both ... it is hard to get over being hurt by someone so close to you, and I can only say from my experiences (admittedly not of exactly the same nature, but still hurtful) that you will know when and if you are 'ok' again; for my part I am finding it hard to live with a lot of past problems and some days are better than others. Family times like Christmas are often the most difficult times for many people and for many reasons. I hope you are looking after yourself, first. I wonder too if you could remodel the room in the New Year if you haven't already, to remove the associations - anything that would help
you.
posted by
mneme
on December 25, 2006 at 11:53 PM
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Hello cindy... This one is dedicated to you. Best wishes.
God’s peace basket
Contains many things
My shortcomings
My sin and my
Regrets…my foolishness
His great peace offering
Still ringing and calling
Soothing The
Hurting man
So, be still
O my pain
Cease to throb
O my wound
For I have laid
You in God’s
Peace basket
Which stands
On the rock of
Forgiveness
As for you
Sad memories
You are allowed
Still to cut
But you will have to
Do it in God’s
Peace basket.
posted by
Chilitree
on December 25, 2006 at 11:44 PM
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