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Moxie,
no chance of that happening ... it's with me to greater or lesser degrees, depending on a lot of things, but it never leaves altogether
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 3:20 AM
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Hi, Mneme.
Home sickness sucks. What's worse is when you quit feeling it. Don't let it get away if you can help it.
posted by
Moxie_Maven
on October 25, 2006 at 2:24 AM
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Hey Smartdog
Hope you are over it again for a while..
thanks for commenting. It isn't simple homesickness, it's more a question of the next years unfolding I-don't-know-how... bouncing back slowly.
posted by
mneme
on October 25, 2006 at 12:42 AM
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Mneme
I have had similar experiences of homesickness as of late; not as powerful as yours seems to have been, but palpable none the less.
be well,
-smartdog
posted by
smartdog_670
on October 24, 2006 at 11:48 AM
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Symphony,
nice to hear from you.
posted by
mneme
on October 24, 2006 at 2:53 AM
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Azur,
that can be hard too, and I can relate to that, having lived elsewhere and closer to home for a few years. I settled in to life very well, and it was really, really hard to tear myself away again. Lots of material for reflection, though, and I do spend a lot of time on my own. It's true that others never know just how much you can miss something, unless you've been through a similar experience. Thank you for commenting.
posted by
mneme
on October 24, 2006 at 2:52 AM
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You're right there, Ypunday
the same with everything else... big changes are always worse for the generation going through it, and the children are either young enough that they don't remember, or are born into what's already there. I have less bad days than I used to in the beginning. Thank you for the picture..!
posted by
mneme
on October 24, 2006 at 2:46 AM
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I am sorry......
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 24, 2006 at 2:30 AM
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Mneme
I lived in another place for many years and made it my home. Now I am back where I started and miss my old new life more than anyone knows. I too don't care about weather.
posted by
Azur
on October 23, 2006 at 9:51 PM
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I might say I understand...could we see migration as death? But creative in
the best way that Eastern philosophers suggested: something dies for life anew. I lost so much by leaving South Africa and my profession. But I gained a new world here, and the American Dream for my daughters. I do pray they will realise these dreams, because I can barely touch any. First generation rarely enjoy being alien.
Creation
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on October 23, 2006 at 4:26 PM
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Hello afzal50, Mademoiselle
Thank you for your comments; I think all of us are guilty to some degree, of not realising how what we say and do can come across to others. I am one of those people who takes most things in their stride, and when I can't do that I still look as though I am managing, so I don't wonder sometimes that those close to me don't always realise they are being insensitive. What I don't like is not being able to talk about some things because it rocks the boat.
posted by
mneme
on October 23, 2006 at 3:37 PM
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Tonyzonit, thanks for your comments.
neither of us are locals. He knows, just doesn't go there. On purpose. I never do miss here when I go home, and I don't care about the weather. It's more a state of mind, a kind of stagnation. I've had enough now, and I want to go home, but there are a great number of reasons why that isn't happening - not for some years anyway, if at all. So I muddle along, mostly ok and occasionally not. I was ok when we were in the US - different mindset there. They actually like the old dart.
posted by
mneme
on October 23, 2006 at 3:31 PM
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Twistie,
I agree - if they don't notice, they can't make you feel worse! This isn't something that cripples me but it is quiet unsettling at times.
posted by
mneme
on October 23, 2006 at 3:27 PM
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Hello Mneme
Is he a local? If so, maybe he just isn't as sensitive to that feeling of being out of place as you. If not - then it's surprising he didn't notice. I bet though that if you did go back to England, you'd start to m iss NSW! I went to America a s a student and while there I missed England and idealised it, but when I came back, I definitely missed America more! England can be so drab and grey sometimes, and it often seems messier than other places.
In reality, all these places have their good points, don't they? The best thing is to enjoy the memories but appreciate the present as well, if possible.
posted by
Antonionioni
on October 23, 2006 at 1:52 PM
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Yeah, elderly people say such stupid things sometimes.
It's easy to sit and scoff at an old man's folly.
But also, check out his Adam's apple!
posted by
Mademoiselle
on October 23, 2006 at 8:12 AM
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Both are worse.
posted by
afzal50
on October 23, 2006 at 7:17 AM
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Actually sometimes it is better when they don't notice...then they can't imly--or say out-right--that what you are feeling is silly. But I understand how you are feeling...I just spent an hour on the phone with my dad getting the news on the family...I really wanted to be there...
posted by
twisted_mom
on October 23, 2006 at 6:54 AM
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