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posted by
afzal50
on October 19, 2006 at 1:25 AM
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In all fairness, different things make
different people tick. I wouldn't marry someone I was not in love with, but some cultures give you no choice. It is acceptable to have affairs outside of a marriage in some cultures, for whatever the reason, but not in mine. Words are only words, but what a persons eyes tell me, what the body language says, how that person behaves in public in contrast to being alone with me, along with so many other crucial signs, all adds up to fitting in to the comfort zone.
posted by
Moxie_Maven
on October 19, 2006 at 12:31 AM
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teddypoet , thanks .
posted by
afzal50
on October 18, 2006 at 11:56 PM
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Profound, my friend...
posted by
teddypoet_TheGoodByeFade
on October 18, 2006 at 10:04 PM
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I never follow him around, he may be on the sam blogs as I am but I dont care what he says to you
posted by
Lanetay
on October 18, 2006 at 8:25 PM
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I come on your question blogs only and put my responses on them like everyone else that writes but for some reason you like to tear my response apart, I don't care what the heck you do its your life, I am only give you my opinion in the emails you asked for my thoughts and since you didnt like what I said you tore them apart
posted by
Lanetay
on October 18, 2006 at 8:24 PM
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lustorlove
We all know that they are NOT "way to long" to read. You are just trying to avoid reality as usual.
It's not too burdensome for you to follow Afzal around when he comments to my blogs to read what he says to me.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 18, 2006 at 8:23 PM
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these comments are way too long to read but I guess 21 emails from you doesnt count in the last 3 days
posted by
Lanetay
on October 18, 2006 at 8:21 PM
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lustorlove
No, it doesn't make him a cheater. And about the other comment...if you have something to say to me, just say it. As I know it was my comment you were refering to, as Afzal had not mentioned sex at all in this post.
He, myself, and a bunch of other bloggers all know why you continue to come here and use these kinds of comments here. It's a little too obvious.
And for the record...he's replied to your emails telling you how he feels. Why keep sending him emails trying to cut me down? If you have something to say about me, why not email me?
I haven't bothered you, have I? I've only commented to a couple of your posts, trying to be of assistance in some areas of knowledge I have.
Why start up again? If you truely have no interest in him, like you imply, why are you so worried about what he does, and with whom?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 18, 2006 at 8:12 PM
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lustorlove , Let me tell you that everyone's perception of things can't be
same . You are talking of things according to your experiences in life may be you have cheated or must have been cheated by some one . Falling in love and marrying someone other than your spouse is not cheating . People love their families and chidren it doesn't mean that they can't love someone else . You have been hankering after men who have neve loved you so you have lost all faith in love . Believe me , if you ever really fall in love with anybody you will never feel that you want to know more than what you already know .
Love is something different from marriage and family ties it may take the form of marriage to be able to live together because society does not recognise living together without legal bond a healthy way of social living .
I have all respect for you but I can't understand why are you after my life and why do want me to stop thinking what I want to think and believe in . Its my wish to feel how I want to feel why would it bother you unless you have something playing in your mind and you are actually not able to come out with it . I think it would be better for you to stop thinking about my welfare and leave me alone .
I wish you all the best .
posted by
afzal50
on October 18, 2006 at 8:12 PM
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Oh by the way does that make you a cheater?
posted by
Lanetay
on October 18, 2006 at 7:44 PM
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Isn't this a repeat of one other question you asked? Truly knowing someone is truly knowing them, face to face, arm and arm, heart to heart, knowing their bad and good faults. Knowing what they are willing to sacrafice to make it work, if there are children, think about them what is best for them. You don't expect them to understand a stranger, especially one that English is not their main language. I have known a lot of men and after meeting them the excitement was gone as they were not the person I thought I was in love with. Actions speak louder than words and there are a lot of phoney words being tossed around trying to snag that one person. Also financial consideration has to be taken into consideration. I am sure most of us dont want to live in proverty and raise our kids that way There is so much that makes up love and no where in this did I mention sex. I have been with men that couldn't perform sexually in the traditional ways, but they could please me in other ways and just the closeness of them was what was important. It helps if you believe in the same things and have somewhat the same amount of education. There is so much that makes up love not just some fancy mushy words.
You need to just be open to dissapointment as it isnt all wine and roses. I know I was married to one man for 20 years and have raised 3 kids
posted by
Lanetay
on October 18, 2006 at 7:42 PM
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Sweetie, Many many thanks for your constant moral and emotional
support . I appreciate your wisdom .
posted by
afzal50
on October 18, 2006 at 7:08 PM
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Afzal
It's not true. You can love someone in all different kinds of circumstances.
Yes, you should "know" someone to love them. There are many ways of getting to know someone, and to say you can't know someone because you haven't been with them "physically"....or even more expressly "sexually" as one such person was implying is simply ridiculous.
My God, I've had my share of bad lovers...but my love NEVER depended on that.
Truth is, that if someone is that bad in bed, they are either lacking dedication, or they are selfish. Both of which could have been avoided by "knowing" the person to begin with.
So you shouldn't do A-E...and I know that you know this is not true anyway.
Yes, there are more things to learn and experience being physically near someone, but the same goes with someone local.
I know someone who was dating someone local and it took some time before she found out he was married. So saying that being with someone local is knowing someone more, is simply not true.
I'd rather have someone from a distance that is truthful with me than someone local who is deceitful and a liar.
You have 
, my love. 
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 18, 2006 at 7:03 PM
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