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BrightIrish, I do not know if what she has sad about her work is true .
I am thinking I will take some time one day and find out if somebody by that name is working in the office she indicated . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 6:25 PM
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You may have tried this also .. maybe someone at her work would be able to assist you after a brief explanation. I feel sorry for her too but there is only so much you can do without co-operation.
posted by
BrightIrish
on October 16, 2006 at 6:17 PM
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BrightIrish ,I have done all that but miserably failed to get any response.
May be she will disclose the address on her death bed or when it will be too late . I really feel very sorry for her . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 6:02 PM
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Afzal
Perhaps she needs to know that strangers will not be at her door seeking access unless there is a emergency. She has been through much grief and maybe if you explain to her how importent her address is in case of emergency she will comply.
posted by
BrightIrish
on October 16, 2006 at 5:59 PM
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Frankenkitty , Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 5:16 PM
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Afzal50, I'm sure she
is desperately lonely, but at the same time, afraid of the consequences of getting attached to someone again and then possibly losing them. On my mother's side of the family there is a woman who had eleven husbands, and she outlived them all. I don't know how they died, but it was in the early 1800's so it could have been a number of common reasons. I would say, give the lady some time to let herself trust you. Take care
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on October 16, 2006 at 4:26 PM
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Troosha, I agree with you and there is wisdom in your comment.Thanks
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 3:20 PM
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star4you, You are partially right but it does not happen in every
community in West Bengal . She comes from an advance community and she herself is a working lady and she mixes with many outsiders . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 3:18 PM
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I think at this point she just wants some reassurance
that she would not be entirely alone in a time of need. These two recent tragedies have left her feeling extemely vulnerable and fearful. In good time, she will provide you with her address. For now, my suggestion is to simply reaffirm that you would be pleased to fill this roll because that's probably all she requires.
posted by
Troosha
on October 16, 2006 at 2:55 PM
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afzal, remember in India it's not easy for a single woman to give her name
and address. The society is always interested in others case. Believe me she is not alone. If she trust you, she will give you address orname, beware of the consequences in the community when you try to help out.
posted by
star4sky5
on October 16, 2006 at 1:46 PM
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lionladroar, Thanks for your wonderful suggestion.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 11:38 AM
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Hi afzal
I believe if she works people there would know her address, though she could be untrusting towards them, maybe she has given them a false address ? Only slow steps can be taken on this road I fear. Good luck afzal. Mike
posted by
lionladroar
on October 16, 2006 at 11:30 AM
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TAPS, She is still working . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 10:56 AM
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Afzal, It sounds as if her grief has made her not think clearly or has skewed her reasoning. Does she still work?
posted by
TAPS.
on October 16, 2006 at 10:38 AM
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Sweetie, I know that . I can only pray for her well being . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 9:02 AM
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afzal
Then there is nothing else you can really do for her.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 16, 2006 at 8:56 AM
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Sweetie, I told her this but she does not understand . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on October 16, 2006 at 8:55 AM
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Afzal...That's strange.
I would tell her that if an emergency should arise, there is nothing you could do to help her if you don't have her location, etc.
I'm not sure what would be her reasons for wanting to keep this from you.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on October 16, 2006 at 8:53 AM
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