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Take revenge and than seperate.
posted by
8-ball
on September 20, 2006 at 7:41 PM
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insult is one thing but to tortue depends on what the tortue would be, one time is all for me
posted by
Lanetay
on September 19, 2006 at 8:10 PM
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cosy , thanks for your wonderful advise.
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 6:02 PM
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Afzal
The way I see it, if you allow them to insult once, they will insult you again. So one should set firmly the boundaries from the very start to avoid the followed "torturing".
posted by
cosy
on September 19, 2006 at 12:47 PM
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ladychardonnay, let's hope for the best . I think it will not be as worst
as than it used to be . Once they mature they will start understanding the realities of life .Thanks for share your thoughts and feelings.l
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 10:43 AM
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everything is fine now that they are all adults
at least on the surface
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 19, 2006 at 10:11 AM
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ladychardonnay, It is really a very sad experience on your part .
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 10:08 AM
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too many fights
my kids are included in that statement too - i only had a stepdaughter to deal with. stupid fights too - whose socks are these - isn't that my t-shirt - why is she getting that. My stepdaughter just told me this past summer how she hated my two older children when she was little. They lived with her dad and she didn't. See what I mean?
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 19, 2006 at 10:05 AM
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ladychardonnay, It is better you din't get into this marriage hoax .
Why are you against step children .
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 10:01 AM
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FactorFiction, you are lucky you havn't yet had such experience .
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 9:59 AM
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yes I am not a big fan of marriage
3 strikes and I am out!!! I just got tired of living someone else's life. Everything had to be discussed and decided. Don't get me started on the stepchildren thing!!!
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 19, 2006 at 9:56 AM
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Afzal
Yes, it has. You're very welcome, love.
I will be leaving here now in about 5-10 minutes. Have a good night.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 19, 2006 at 9:52 AM
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I would never marry such a person to begin with...
so it is hardr to say what I would do if I woke up one morning married to such a person
posted by
FactorFiction
on September 19, 2006 at 9:50 AM
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OFFBEATS, I must appreciate your courage and strength . Thanks for
guidelines.
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 9:48 AM
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So your life has been same like me . Thanks for sending me such nice
mail.
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 9:47 AM
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I have been married 4 times and each time I never did any of your options. The best revenge is success and that is what I strive for. If two people can't live together and love each other then they should not be married. Just my 2 cents...
posted by
Offy
on September 19, 2006 at 9:44 AM
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afzal
Depends on the person, and the relationship.
I am very forgiving, so I've put up with a lot of crap. I've put up with a lot of emotional pain, and some physical.
There are only a few things that can't be gotten away with, with me....one would be physical attempts to hurt me, the other, certain insulting language, although, that one, I've forgive too, but not right away.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 19, 2006 at 9:38 AM
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ladycharddonay, I like your comment . So you dislike marriage .
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 9:30 AM
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Ariala , You are really tough . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on September 19, 2006 at 9:29 AM
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just being married is torture in my book
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 19, 2006 at 9:13 AM
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Insulted? That's bound to happen at times...Tortured? As in real torture?
I'd send him to the catacombs in Rome for his turn at torture
posted by
Ariala
on September 19, 2006 at 9:05 AM
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