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Julia
Perhaps you should just re decorate the cave and sell it. I heard Batman's looking for somewhere to live...
posted by
chris2303
on September 16, 2006 at 5:36 AM
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Hope you feel better and come out of you cave soon!
posted by
Whacky
on September 16, 2006 at 12:56 AM
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Julia
Hope you will return soon.
posted by
BrightIrish
on September 15, 2006 at 9:13 PM
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I know exactly what you mean!
When I started taking meds for depression and started feeling happier, it scared the daylights out of me. I didn't know how to handle being happy. And even though depression sucked, I yearned for it since it was what was familiar.
posted by
Jemmie211
on September 15, 2006 at 8:58 PM
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Julia
When the doors of happiness closes, another opens. But often we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has just opened for us and we miss the moment.
We all love you. Feel blessed, because depression too can and does have its own blessings. I know it'll be difficult for one to understand when one is in depression, but it is so. The lower you go in your feelings, the higher you emerge in life , as more polished, more mature. That is the unbreakable law. It is as refreshing a feeling as taking a bath after days of traveling in the desert
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on September 15, 2006 at 7:40 PM
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But we love you...
Everyone goes through it sometimes...we're here for you...always :) (: Or at least I am :)
posted by
SincerityAnna
on September 15, 2006 at 7:21 PM
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Yeah, been there...
but at number 1 it is not cost effective... I have been catching up on the drama...
feel better soon!
posted by
FactorFiction
on September 15, 2006 at 5:14 PM
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Julia, Don't slay it, embrace it. If you are going to be depressed, be the best depressed that you can be and you'll soon be bored with it and wanting out into the world again.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 15, 2006 at 4:39 PM
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Julia, I'm sorry you're feeling down, but if it's any comfort, you are not the only one. There seems to be a lot of us who are just tired. I'm not sure leaving Blogit is the answer, but perhaps people need to learn how the oldtimers here on Blogit stick together and don't have any time for foolishness. They need to learn that if they show up on our blogs with intention to make trouble, then they can just are not welcome.
Please don't leave, Julia. Maybe things will get better.
posted by
MaggieMae
on September 15, 2006 at 3:46 PM
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My answers are
remember that you have just moved and all of that. Rebalance, a lot of blogging can suck the life out of you
posted by
Azur
on September 15, 2006 at 3:31 PM
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There are wonderful suggestions here. I hope you can feel happier soon.
(A)
posted by
A-and-B
on September 15, 2006 at 3:22 PM
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blanche is right
medication and talk therapy were my first steps climbing out of my depression. then i went back to school for a refresher course on mangement/culinary. my support WAS NOT my family unfortunately but the new people I met along the way. my family didn't understand what was happening to me - mostly because my husband was a dolt and my kids were too young. My OCD left forever because i am a slob now - but the anxiety is still there. I always carry a xanax in my bra wherever I go.
But I was a serious case of post-partum depression - then clinical depression - then almost suicidal. My 16 year old (at the time) drove me to the psych ward. Whatever path you choose - please feel free to talk to me about anything. I've been there. Kathy
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 15, 2006 at 2:15 PM
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Julia,
I know that cave myself, been down the rabbit hole, and it's been a hike to get out there. As you said, thinking happy thoughts and diversions only work to an extent. I do take medication, but overall, I think the biggest part of a long, long rebirth from the cave, is not only accepting that it has it's upside, but finding my love (which I am so lucky and grateful to have done, he's a huge help). He had no patience for depression and despair, he'd had a hard life, and he was always a "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" kind of person until it happened to him, he couldn't function after the whole country seemed to go into a downward spiral in 2002. We've been helping each other get on our feet since then.
For me, it's a combined package: having him as a sounding board and support, having the blog, having friends who are kind souls and kindred spirits and a spiritual rebirth in Christianity (which is not at all something I want to push down anyone's throat, I'm just saying, believing n a larger, loving presence in my life makes it easier to let go of the fears, worries, doubts and obsessions, it makes it all so much more manageable).
I don't know how much medication actually does to treat depression, or how much is a change in belief, loving support and an outlet in which to write, but I think it's not an "either/or" but a combined package.
Good wishes to you in your continued quest for health and happiness.
posted by
Blanche.
on September 15, 2006 at 2:05 PM
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Julia
Sending warm hugs your way....
Blogger friends stick together in the ups and downs...maybe you might enjoy "the man in the mirror". (post) Cosy
posted by
cosy
on September 15, 2006 at 1:33 PM
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Everyone gets the blues, so to speak, from time to time, but if it's bigger/deeper than that, there's treatment.
posted by
Talion
on September 15, 2006 at 1:27 PM
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sounds like clinical depression to me too
have you tried medication? Luvox helped me for years. I had OCD and panic attacks as well. What a happy little package I was. The first you must recognize is that if this truly is a chemical imbalance causing this depression - it will not cure itself.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 15, 2006 at 12:44 PM
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I have heard that there is clinical depression....
and ordinary depression. The difference being that with ordinary depression it's a thing everyone gets when bad things happen etc and in this case they know a reaon for it. When that thing is resolved they then get over it. This seems logical where as the other sort is illogical in that it will come on at random even when things in general seem to be ok. I have heard of various herbal remedies ie. Saint Johns Wort which no doubt you've been told about a thousand times but it would seem better than some of the drugs you hear of . Nevertheless it always seems getting to the root of the problem is better than masking the symtoms as they say. Is it an inherited thing do you think?
posted by
nonconformist
on September 15, 2006 at 12:33 PM
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Hmmm...
I don't know what to say. My mother suffers from this occasionally and I don't know what to say to her either. Depression is a subject I am ignorant on...so tell me, is there a known cause for it, like a little too much of this or not enough of that in the brain? I see advertisements for medicine that is supposed to help. Have you looked into this? It seems like a medicine that would irradicate depression could be dangerous or risky, wiping out your personality or something. Or, do you see your depression as different than clinical, or medical? Just trying to understand.
posted by
A_Norseman
on September 15, 2006 at 12:21 PM
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bhaskar--
thank you very much for your comment--always a pleasure!
posted by
Julia.
on September 15, 2006 at 12:11 PM
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Julia
On analyzing the beast :
I crawl back into my cave every so often because I am longing for the comfort of its familiarity. I know this place like none other. But it is not, by anyone's standards, a place ( NOT) nice to be in.. You could be searching for comfort at the wrong place, a place where you are familiar with, and that can be deceptive. "Familiarity breeds contempt", it is said.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on September 15, 2006 at 11:36 AM
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arty fact--
oh, NOW it all makes sense, lol. As long as the beast is a "bleeder," I can poke it to death with a thorn. LMAO.
posted by
Julia.
on September 15, 2006 at 11:13 AM
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blackcat--
OMG, the things people do to their pets--that cat looks like Mickey Mouse! thanks for the laugh.
posted by
Julia.
on September 15, 2006 at 11:11 AM
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You tell that beast, Julia
You just tell it, "look, I'll sting you with these rose thorns! I'll do it!"
posted by
Artifact
on September 15, 2006 at 11:10 AM
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artifact--
a rose is a weapon?? I'm soooooo confused. Obviously. LOL.
posted by
Julia.
on September 15, 2006 at 11:09 AM
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mason--
that is certainly food for thought--do I really "allow" it though, or is it simply something unavoidable. I'm not sure. Thanks for your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on September 15, 2006 at 11:08 AM
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I always try to snap myself out of it... I know what you mean...
posted by
-blackcat
on September 15, 2006 at 11:07 AM
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Julia, best weapon I have ever found
posted by
Artifact
on September 15, 2006 at 11:04 AM
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...maybe it's a matter of accepting it 'as is' ...and allowing it
now and then... as you do... and then too also allow the brighter sides of yourself and then choose to live those just as fully... just some thoughts your post evoke from me... well written! ...interesting self observation.... thanks for sharing...
posted by
MasonGarrett
on September 15, 2006 at 11:03 AM
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