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marieclaire66, Thanks for stopping by and leaving a thought provoking
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posted by
afzal50
on September 14, 2006 at 3:07 AM
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if you truly love someone you should be prepared to take the risk
of spending a lifetime with that person. True, marriage is hard work and commitment, and such commitment should never be taken lightly but temporary contract don't say a lot about how much you trust the future. A way out always hurts, and the out clause does not guarantee a painfree ending. It is good to be realistic, but short term contracts smack of pessimism and fear to me. Why base a relationship on fear, it is a shaky way to start if you ask me.
posted by
marieclaire66
on September 13, 2006 at 11:59 PM
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Troosha, yes you are right that too many people marry blindly . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 5:36 PM
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I prefer to think of marriage not as a contract (particularly one that can be renegotiated at a later date) but rather a commitment to walk life’s journey together. The journey will not always be smooth. I would hope that before anyone enters into marriage – a vow of lifelong devotion – they would discuss a myriad of potential obstacles and establish a baseline as to how (as a team) they might overcome those challenges. Too many people marry blindly.
posted by
Troosha
on September 13, 2006 at 11:56 AM
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star4you, You have made many of my points clear in one sentence . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 10:09 AM
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Sincerityanna, You have an ideal view of marriage . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 9:47 AM
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posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 9:22 AM
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marriage means a lot of dowry like money, gold and a jasmine like bride
to follow the heriditary of loyaty
posted by
star4sky5
on September 13, 2006 at 9:11 AM
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Afzal,
I think that couples should realize and understand what they're getting into before the marry. Marriage isn't always a walk in the park...the two people involved have to work to keep it a successful marriage. No documents can equal that, or protect people from their own choices...
I personally think marriage should be treated as it was hundreds of years ago. Sacred. People did not divorce unless a spouse committed adultery. It was a sacred thing though...not a technical thing...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on September 13, 2006 at 8:30 AM
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afzal
I'm here, if you want to talk.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 8:20 AM
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Straightforward, your comment is straightcut and nice .Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 8:04 AM
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I'd opt for d) others - i.e. a marriage contract where
we agree that we will always attempt to work at a consensus on whatever emerges at the time, and if consensus building is becoming really difficult, then it just maybe time to say quits
posted by
Straightforward
on September 13, 2006 at 7:38 AM
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redifined
how about that I agree with Sunny, marriage shouldn't be entered into lightly but you must enter marriage knowing you want it to last forever, however long that is. Marriage comes from love of two people and not just a contract on paper, but from care and concern for that other person. You can be married in your heart and not with paper, but for those in the traditional sense chose to add the paper to the love they feel.
posted by
Lanetay
on September 13, 2006 at 7:34 AM
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afzal
Ok
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 7:14 AM
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I am trying to get the link .
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 7:11 AM
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afzal
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 7:05 AM
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Lionladroar, Thanks for stopping by with a praiseworthy comment.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 7:02 AM
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Excellent food for thought, I do believe you have a point afzal. As humans move on in ever changing roles played by the male and female in todays societys, this kind of bond in agreement may materialize. I enjoyed Mike
posted by
lionladroar
on September 13, 2006 at 6:59 AM
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Sunny, I am grateful that you responded at length on my post
with deep analysis of the pros and cons of marriage issues .
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2006 at 6:54 AM
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afzal
By the way....I'd really like to talk to you about some of this later.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 6:37 AM
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afzal
Marriage is not something that can be defined, and limited. There is too much insecurity in the world already. You can't go in with preset conditions, hoping it would work out in unforseen circumstances.
People who don't want to be commited, just don't get married. They do what they want, with whom they want, whenever they want, whether it be a day, a week, a month...etc.
Why get married under such conditions? I don't think the relationship would work out under such, no matter how much love or whatever else was involved. It would create too much insecurity.
Would you feel secure in a marriage, knowing that at the end of the year, the person could just up and walk away from you? I wouldn't.
During that year, the person could already be seeking out someone to spend their next year with. And the other person then would have no say in the matter, and end up lost and hurt, and have wasted a year of their life....and for what?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on September 13, 2006 at 5:49 AM
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