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Root05, that's right thing to do .
posted by
afzal50
on August 29, 2006 at 7:46 AM
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smack him, then leave him!! If your suspecting someone , you're feeling
guilty of something.
posted by
Root05
on August 29, 2006 at 7:43 AM
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Redheadboss, I agree with you , you are absolutely correct. Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 29, 2006 at 3:22 AM
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Odysseus, It is too late now to take a break from Blogit. Blogit has become
my life , You should have advised me earlier.
posted by
afzal50
on August 29, 2006 at 3:21 AM
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lustorlove, thanks for your practical advise .
posted by
afzal50
on August 29, 2006 at 3:20 AM
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abuse and love don't go together for me
It is just an odd mix. It reminds me of punishment and parenting, they don't mix for me either. Violence and religion seem to be an odd couple for me as well. I know that when someone is in love, there is no aubse. I think aubse is a funtion of self centered thinking.
Makes you wonder what is love?
posted by
Redheadboss
on August 28, 2006 at 9:34 PM
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There has way too much public show of affection to please most of us
posted by
Lanetay
on August 28, 2006 at 8:03 PM
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Afzal….The blogit can a very distracting and addictive thing.
It takes a bit of time to get used to it. You have to take it in measured increments. My advice to you is to take a break from it for a bit. Give yourself some time to think and connect fully with your family, at least for a few days, and especially before you make any rash decisions.
posted by
telemachus
on August 28, 2006 at 8:00 PM
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what would I do
my husband got upset with me when I found him doing indiscreet actions, it wasn't me cheating. But you need to be more under control of your wants and desires. I am afraid I agree with Shelly and many others. You aren't a free man to make any kind of decision except to face up to your mistake and either go on with the farce of a marriage or get out of it.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 28, 2006 at 8:00 PM
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afzal
I will talk to you then.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 7:37 PM
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I am unable to agree on this point , any way we will discuss this issue
later . I am going to reach my daughter to school and I shall return after two hours.Good bye and thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:34 PM
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afzal, I think this is true for the most part, but insecurity
and low self-esteem can cause people to act out in control and anger in order to "guard" their true feelings. Does that make sense?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 7:30 PM
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I don't think that any one who loves anybody will ever abuse that
person. Love is not a self seeking emotion.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:27 PM
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afzal
Yes, but no. The person who was abusive in my circumstances did actually love me, unlike in your own situation.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 7:25 PM
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Sweetie, you know my problem as you have experience such situation.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:21 PM
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shellyb, plz don't misunderstand me . I appreciate your advise but I am in
a worst kind of situation. Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:20 PM
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afzal
I think it's best. But like I said....just make sure that you're sure it's what you want.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 7:17 PM
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afzal....I will stay out of this now...
posted by
shelly_b
on August 28, 2006 at 7:09 PM
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Sweetie, you are absolutely correct , I must take a decision and walk out.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:06 PM
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shellyb, You need to know the complete background before passing
any judgment. Usually people blame the partner who is finding options out of the matrimonial bond to find peace and not the partner who is responsible for such emotional deviation.
posted by
afzal50
on August 28, 2006 at 7:04 PM
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Shelly, I however apreciate your concern for me.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 6:57 PM
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afzal
I had been in this situation for the first year and a half at least of my relationship with my son's father.
I never cheated or had plans to, but he was a freak and always accusing anyway.
He used it for control and to force me to do things with him that I wouldn't otherwise do.
In your own situation, I have told you. You need to get out of the loveless situation, however long it takes, no matter what else will happen, or you will spend the rest of your life living this pain.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 6:56 PM
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Thanks Sunny, I did tell myself to stay out of this...
but I don't listen very well...
posted by
shelly_b
on August 28, 2006 at 6:54 PM
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Shelly...no worries, you're entitled to your opinion.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 28, 2006 at 6:53 PM
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I don't blame your spouse, do you?
My apologies to Sunny, because she is my friend and I like her. But geez, dude...call me old fashion but, you need to concentrate on your marriage. Are you kidding me? Please.
posted by
shelly_b
on August 28, 2006 at 6:44 PM
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