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mneme
No, it's not all you can do. You can leave, make sure you take God with you to talk with before and after the event luv.
I did it after a 20 year marriage, Catholic guilt, 5 children, recovered alcoholic of 10 years at that time.
I found a love that was so great, I can't stop grieving the loss of her to brain cancer. She became my whole life. In the end, I lost my relationship with some of my siblings, my children, my friends.
Ahhhh, but I'd do it all over again to have had the love I still have, but now she's over there and I'm still here.
Bon courage cher.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 31, 2006 at 9:25 AM
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mneme
its very good post thanks
posted by
Rosetree
on August 31, 2006 at 4:57 AM
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posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 31, 2006 at 3:21 AM
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I read this some days ago but was in
a non-commenting phase. You are in a difficult phase - eventually something will give I hope. Take care. It must be less than 3 weeks to go now
posted by
Azur
on August 31, 2006 at 2:35 AM
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Thank you friends, for your kind comments
just hopping in quickly to say hello, hoping to get more time another day. It's fairly quiet as long as I don't make waves, and I still struggle with that. Nice to be back in Europe for a while, and I'm teaching myself to download my digital photos; positve steps.
posted by
mneme
on August 30, 2006 at 10:17 AM
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Can understand the dilemmas in these situations
posted by
Straightforward
on August 28, 2006 at 8:55 AM
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Missing your presence--make your absence from Blogit absent with r presence
Shalom--we are focusing on
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 24, 2006 at 3:57 PM
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Change the last line...
My heart ached as I read this entry. I would change the last line. This doesn't make it any less difficult but it may give you a bit more power. "For me, it's all I can do." Try thinking of it as "For me, it's all I choose to do."
posted by
DepTLC
on August 23, 2006 at 12:57 PM
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So...it's his way...this is so painful to read, mneme. In a vey basic way
I have seen myself in your posts... I will only make a few comments on my choices...you have yours to make.
It was very important to me that love be mutual...the centerpoint of my relationship... I decided that I was important enough to have my feelings, wishes, and desires considered..and I decided that the following(not in order of importance) were not only what I desired in marriage, but that they were non-negotiable:
1)I must be half of a marriage in which I truly loved and valued my spouse, and be truly loved and valued in return.
2)I would like and respect my spouse, reciprocity required, and my spouse would be my friend.
3) I wanted to receive flowers once in a while...for no reason.
4) Kissing and lovemaking had to be passion filled...not wooden...or one-sided.
5) Verbal intercourse would be mutual and stimulating as well as satisfying.
6)My opinions were valuable, and that they should be considered!
Looking back all these years later...I realize just how important #s 2, 3,and 5 are! I can honestly say I would rather be alone than live without the above in marriage! And...I can honestly say I have all of the above in my marriage with Max...life is unpredictable, and much too short to live without love!
posted by
muser
on August 22, 2006 at 11:25 PM
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I have a dandelion pic for you-a beautiful boy blowing dandelion "feathers"
I was tempted to make it large--really nice--but thought I'd wait for your response first. Shalom--think kids and dandelions--live in the NOW (when the past or future is/are too ambiguous to set on paper/plans)
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 22, 2006 at 3:51 PM
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When all else fails return to prayer-tell Parent-Sustainer "I have no one"
Your situation is very hard, almost unique and yet so common especially for unfortunate spouses. I wish you to keep your strengths, depen your joys---know His timetable is not of this earth. Find solace wherever you can---someone said (PASSIONFLOWER??) that when we go sour one hope, we create depression. That is what depression entails--hope and Faith in God gone sour." You R stronger than your probelsm, Mneme. Your haiku were very skyful---plane rides and plane raids invade our world. Shalom
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on August 22, 2006 at 3:39 PM
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