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Bhaskar.ing, I shall do it . Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 9:59 PM
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Me? Welcome?
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 9:55 PM
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Dear afzal, you have raised a very pertinent point.
If you can please go to my write-up of 13th August, "Vilificatory Innuendoes on the Blog". It addresses this very question. I hope you find it meaningful.
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on August 20, 2006 at 9:54 PM
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You are always welcome .
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 9:51 PM
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I'm happy to hear that.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 9:45 PM
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Yes, Sweetie. It was really very nice , I liked it .
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 9:42 PM
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afzal...read what I said to blanche....
I am not embarrased. What do I have to be embarrased over?
Someone put out there personal things that you had said to them over time. They were in the wrong to do so.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 7:39 PM
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I am really very sorry to have put you to all that emnarrassment and
mental agony which you went through only to defend somebody who is so far away from you.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 7:38 PM
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want...not what...LOL
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 7:37 PM
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No problem. It was only the truth, it had to be said.
You know as well as I have that we have not gone into any "sex talk" in the comments here, etc.
Just some what to make others believe this is so.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 7:35 PM
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Sweetie , Thanks for all that you have done to defend my position and
respect.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 7:32 PM
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Blanche01 and Shelly
There is a certain party that afzal should have blocked sooner, and none of this mess would have taken place last night.
I finally coaxed him into blocking her, so this shouldn't happen again. However, it won't stop her from sending harrasing emails to him. But I know he can handle it.
So there shouldn't be a repeat of this again.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:39 PM
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Sunny
posted by
shelly_b
on August 20, 2006 at 6:34 PM
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Blanche01...It's alright, I wasn't and am not embarrased.
I am aware of the things that were put out there. It was an attempt by someone to hurt afzal and myself....an act of jealousy. Others were dragged in by association. Thanks
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:34 PM
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I meant, "so don't be embarrasssed on my account", because if anything, like you said, I'd want to spare you or anyone else more embarrassment, you know?
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 6:32 PM
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(((Shelly))) I know that. I took no offense, don't worry.
I'm not sure why you think I may be hurt? If it's about afzal and myself...we are both very aware of the realities of our situation. We don't hold delusions, so to speak.
If you ever have questions or anything to say, you are always free to come to me. I don't take offense easily and am non judgemental.
A lot of lies have been going around here, ya know. So I can see where some might get the wrong impression.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:32 PM
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Sunnybeach, I can tell your embarrassed, and I would be, too
if I were in your shoes, to have someone else air your personal stuff without your permission.
I felt like I needed to say something so there wouldn't be a repeat of last night's show. I didn't really get into the details or read enough to know what was really going on, it embarrassed on my account, I kind of went "lalallala, I"m out of here", before I learned too much.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 6:31 PM
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Sunny, I wasn't trying to be mean by saying "toning it down"
I hope you know that. I like you, and I just don't want to see you hurt.
posted by
shelly_b
on August 20, 2006 at 6:27 PM
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Blanche01
Yes...I know what you're saying, absolutely.
That wasn't between afzal and myself. I just want people to realize that. I didn't and don't want arguments with anyone. I checked out early because of all that negativity and crap last night.
Personal things were posted, that shouldn't have been posted, or even brought up...in my opinion.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:27 PM
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shellyb, I appreciate your advise in the matter. Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:24 PM
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Shelly, I understand what you're saying. And I got your
message about "toning it down" and I think afzal has also.
However I must add, a few things were said last and I'm not real sure where it started. But it ended up in a suggestion that we should "get a room" so to speak.
That was quite upsetting, considering that the most me and afzal have done here is pass pet names, nothing "sexual" between us has been put out there in the comments. Ya know. Maybe people just assume that much I don't know. But I got your message about "toning it down" and haven't been using many of those mushy words. At least not in the parts of the comments that would show on the comment page.
Thanks
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:23 PM
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Sunny, and Afzal...if you guys keep this just to yourselves...
then there wouldn't be any problems, you know?
posted by
shelly_b
on August 20, 2006 at 6:18 PM
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Sunnybeach, that's cool
I don't want or need to know the details. It's just that the comments section was a little icky last night, if you know what I mean. Beyond that, like I said, I don't want or need to know.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 6:18 PM
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Sure Shelly
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:16 PM
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Umm, can I suggest something??
posted by
shelly_b
on August 20, 2006 at 6:15 PM
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Blanche01
You're welcome....anytime
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:14 PM
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Sunnybeach, sorry, I didn't stick around to get the whole story,
I assumed that Afzal was the subject, who instigated the gooey talk. Thanks for the heads up.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 6:13 PM
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Blanche01
Afzal wasn't even here at the time....it was someone else that kept posting that stuff last night, ....and it was from months ago.
Didn't mean to be rude and butt in, but I thought you should know.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 6:11 PM
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Sweetie , thanks for your wonderful observation .
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:09 PM
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I hope it was a suggestion that made my point, Afzal: keep your pants
zipped, virtually speaking. You made mroe than a few people naueeous with your sex talk.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 6:08 PM
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Blanche01, Good suggestion, thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:06 PM
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food4thought, Thanks for stopping by!
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:04 PM
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terpgirl30, Thanks for you good advise.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:03 PM
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marieclare66,Thanks for your support.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 6:01 PM
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MoonSpirit, You are absolute right. Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 5:57 PM
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More on my thoughts....
I don't think bloggers who have been here longer hold any special "senority" or anything like that. I know of quite a few newer writers who are comparable to anyone who's been here any length of time.
In my opinion, it doesn't matter how long you've been here. Other things are more important...like, are you interesting enough for people to read and/or comment? The ratings give us these answers.
About unwanted comments, as I'm sure I've told you....that's what the "block" feature is for.
Things wouldn't get so out of hand at times if people didn't take so long to block someone who is making disturbing comments.
It's not always easy for people to "bury the hatchet" as you have put it. People have tempers and such.
One of the reason's I checked out last night. I couldn't stand the name calling and the negativity.
I consider myself a good person to be able to say I'm checking out and ending my part in it.
Ideally without anyone here to listen....the crap should have stopped, but it didn't. Not for a while anyway.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 5:39 PM
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Afzal, all I know, is that last night, the entire comments section of the
blog was taken over by an absurd level of personal information, that should have best been kept private, between a number of parties. There was WAY too much gooey sex talk, to a point where it made it uncomfortable and I left.
I cannot believe that adults act like this. Please, take your fantasies elsewhere, in email or the Mature Audiences section. This is not the place. It's just too much information.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 20, 2006 at 4:31 PM
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Afzal...
I use the comments to let people know I have read their post. I usually comment when I agree with the post or a comment. I also generally leave a comment in response to a comment I have received.
posted by
food4thought
on August 20, 2006 at 4:26 PM
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My first thought is turning out to be my final thought.
Honestly, I think the premise is silly. I read it and read it several times to see if I had missing something. The thing I kept coming up with is that this Blogitworld is a fantasy. To even put it in terms that are attached to the real world is crazy to me. If a fight breaks out, it's because all parties are itching for a fight generally. It's like the censorship thing---you see a fight break out, stop reading that blog. There are definite cliques here at Blogit, and I think that says it all. It's rife with the people who like to kick sand in someone's face---as well as those who tend to get sand kicked in their faces.
This is purely entertainment and has absolutely nothing to do with intellectual property. There are very few real writers here. It's a hobby. Generally when the fights break out it has to do with deep seeded beliefs and has nothing to do with one's writing. To worry about how to get the various sides together is to give the whole thing credence, and I think that's what is wrong.
Now all that said, yes, I've had crazies attack me here and really kick and scream over nonsense points. And that's how I had to take it. In no way did it inhibit me as a writer or stop me from doing my job or leading my life.
posted by
terpgirl30
on August 20, 2006 at 3:14 PM
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I am blissfully unaware of such occurences, I hope it stays that way.
If i disagree with someone, or I get hurt, they will hear about it for sure! Some here know just how to wind me up. Sorry if some of us here have hurt you, I hope it was not me, perhaps deal with the people in question, otherwise, we all wonder, and if the cap fits, wear it. Luckily I don't think it is my size....
posted by
marieclaire66
on August 20, 2006 at 12:25 PM
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Afzal50, Nothing good ever comes when I lose my cool. Even if I 'score point' or a 'win', I always lose in the end. Words are like knives, they can cut away illusion, cut through obstacles, perform surgery that heals. They can all be used to strike out and wound. When our words injure another, the hurt eventually comes back to us. MoonSpirit 
posted by
syzygy
on August 20, 2006 at 9:58 AM
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RiFDaws, Thanks for your wise comment.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 9:21 AM
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Perhaps the answer lies in what is said.
A truly wise person will also posses tact and consideration because in their wisdom they realize they do not know everything.
In my short time here, I have seen instances of this behavior you describe. One blogger in particular comes to mind. I first enjoyed reading his posts, although I disagreed with much of what he said, I could respect his opinions and the thoughtfulness of his arguments. Then I stumbled across several comments and then posts where he basically lost his temper. He had a burr in his fur and was going to prove himself better/smarter/whatever that another blogger who clearly irritated him. I have lost resepct for this person and now have little interest in what he writes.
"A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered."
posted by
RiFDaws
on August 20, 2006 at 9:14 AM
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Ok...I'll think about this one and answer further when I return
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 9:04 AM
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Thanks for your brief comment. I shall wait for your full comment as you
said.
posted by
afzal50
on August 20, 2006 at 9:03 AM
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This is a tough one, and I may have to think further on
this and post a larger answer later.
But as far as comments and problems go. I think some are just outright rude, and I think others are not intended to be so. I also think that if someone has a problem with something, they could address it to the said party(s) personally, if it's such a big issue as not to be resolved just by making a simple comment.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 20, 2006 at 8:55 AM
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