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If he is married, I would forget about it!
posted by
Offy
on August 20, 2006 at 10:00 PM
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lovelyone , No one goes for any other person unless there is really
some shortcoming and the spouse is not in the mood of correcting . Your suggestion is really good if the situation is normal and cordial otherwise it is impossible to make up.
posted by
afzal50
on August 14, 2006 at 9:04 AM
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hmm ...
Well, IF I was married ... I'd break it off with the other person, and try to reconnect with my spouse.
Try to really find out what it was I was missing in my marriage that led me to fall in love with another person. If necessary, I would attend marriage counseling and really work on putting the romance and mystique back in my own marriage.
posted by
lovelyone
on August 14, 2006 at 8:59 AM
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Katray, Thanks for stopping by!
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 8:26 PM
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lilane
I'm not reading all of this right now.
Just keep doing it. You wanna think you know it all, when it's clear that you don't, fine.
Just go ahead and keep playing God and judging people with your "opinion".
Nough said.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 7:53 PM
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and he didn't bother to find out about me, but talk about controlling you are his mouth piece, I am not bugging him I have a right to my opinion and all I said is people shouldn't get involved with someone until they are free to be involved. Many marriages have broke up because of the internet. You have assumed so much about me and you don't know a thing really about me. I have gone thru a lot in my life and did he send me emails to check on me? He just sent me emails asking me to hurry back. And the main reason I don't comment on a lot of blogs is because its hard for me to find the time I need to even read them. The last 3 weeks I have been away from my house for more than 10 hrs a day and when I am here he isn't here. We were never on line at the same time. He is a man searching to find anyone to listen to him and you are a woman who will do it for him, so be it, but come on this isn't reality, that is one of the main reason I didn't return his love because we are in different worlds. We didn't have anything in common other then our loneliness, our cultures aren't not even close to being the same. The same for you and I we are in different worlds here too. I have been involved with men in different countries but knew there wasn't a thing we could do. Love is developed out of time and sharing with each other, not just from a few comments on a blog. I am a mature woman who has lived a long life and have had a lot of love in my life but when I don't get it in return the man I am involved with always knows how much I care for them, never do they have to ask as I give my heart and soul to them, in this case I couldn't do that to him. I wouldn't want to lead him on thinking there could be anything but friendship, he seemed to understand that but still continued on and he told me in a blog, I had nothing to worry about when it came to a cheating man as he would never do that to me, haha
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 7:49 PM
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Interesting post Afzal..Time and Soaring Hearts...
"A" should never be an option, imho, because the joys of love are the reason for our existence...I think Time is needed in the early days of an attraction. Time for yourself and the other person to discover if it really is love or perhaps emotions that are meant to stay on a warm friendship level. If it is indeed a surging of two hearts into one, patience won't be difficult - a period of twinning flight and revealing of many buried pieces within yourself. If Love's designs are true, those pieces merge snugly with your beloved's. What follows after this should happen as it is meant to...a joined heart as one hope and strength will lead and provide the answers. My two cents.
Best of Luck and Light to you both.
posted by
Katray2
on August 13, 2006 at 7:44 PM
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lilane....
You are, just face it. I'm not saying you're a total all around jerk in life. I'm saying the way you have been treating afzal is uncaring, and un-necisary. You've had enough time to make several posts accusing him of various things, when you don't even know much about his life.
Why don't you just wish him well and let it drop. Why is that so hard? I mean come on..if you hate him that much, even just tell him to go to hell and leave it at that? Why keep comming back for more?
He's leaving you alone, he would really appriceate it if you leave him alone. And
I, would REALLY appreciate it, because I wouldn't have to keep writing these comments anymore
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 7:23 PM
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no one can say I am un caring selfish peson, if that was so I would of never raised my daughter by myself giving up the love of any man to protect her, and I wouldn't of helped my 3 kids buy cars, taking a chance of messing up my credit, and I wouldn't of paid a couples gas bill so their house would be heated for their new born baby, and I wouldn't of lent money to friends of my daughters to help them out. Almost everything I do is for my kids, even this move, I could of kicked my kids out so I could move into a smaller cheaper place, but no instead I have allowed them to remain with me. I wouldt be paying most my daughters bills until she gets on her feet so she will be able to help me, so I can retire. I have to put off my retirement until she can help me out. So you see there isnt anything selfish about me. In the past 8 months I have suffered a lot with the illness of my mom and now hre death and the sale of my house after spending 20 years there. I dont feel I have harassed him in anyway, I work more than 40 hours a week and dont have the time to be on line that much to have taken the time to send him emails and help him with problems that I too have myself.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 7:15 PM
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A-B, Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 5:41 PM
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This is a very tough position. Consider the possibilities before you decide. Good luck.
(A)
posted by
A-and-B
on August 13, 2006 at 4:04 PM
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lilane, seems to be a little different than
what you have told me and afzal, time and time again. You obviously have no love for him as you have repeatedly told him, I and all of blogit, and you sure as hades don't have any caring for him.
So you're just continuing to harrass him by posting comments like the one's you made here to his comment section. Your view is uncaring and is fueled by jealousy.
Please keep posting this nonsense here....cause very soon....I'm making a post drawing direct attention to this comment section.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:46 AM
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he knew about it and I am free to love and care for whoever I want as I am a single lady, not commited to anyone.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 10:41 AM
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Lilane...oh, I let him express all the feeling he wants.
I'm not a controller like you.
Here's a prime example of his feelings incase you missed it
http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/afzal50/396555It was in response to my own feelings here...
http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/Sunnybeach75332/396553Enjoy
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:40 AM
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He knows how to express his feelings why dont you let him
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 10:37 AM
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And btw...lilane
How do you think your "So called love" that you continue to write about and post in MA about would feel about you accepting and longing for comments as such that afzal gave you?
Go ahead....tell me again about commitment. You know nothing.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:37 AM
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EVERYONE READ THIS...PRIME EXAMPLE OF HARASSMENT!
Lilane, you know nothing of the connection between us,don't even assume that you do.
All you know about is harrassment and threats.
What you just said to him proves that you are self-centered and have no concern for him as a friend or even a human being.
I don't even have to show anyone what you truely are. Your words speak loud enough.
Go ahead.....say something else, so all of Blogit can watch you make a fool of yourself.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:35 AM
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love hurts
I really don't care what you do because I would never go against my marriage vows or commitment to someone, so I wouldn't be in the this kind of predicament. I could never fall in love with words typed on a computer without a real connection with that person.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 10:29 AM
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Good Night, Love
Sweet Dreams
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:26 AM
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Thanks Sweetie, Good night my love.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 10:21 AM
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afzal, love....I know it is.
I also know you will find the answer you seek. You have suffered long enough.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:19 AM
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lilane...you know nothing of love or commitment. You only
know jealousy and greed. Somehow you weren't concerned with his infidelity when he commented on your posts.
Don't inpire me to make another post.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:18 AM
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love
first of all loyalty and fidelity is what is important, so you shouldn't of found yourself in that kind of predicament before you dissolved your marriage. You are breaking your marriage and commitment vows.
posted by
Lanetay
on August 13, 2006 at 10:13 AM
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nireo71, You have very good answer .Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 10:12 AM
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Passionflower, Thanks for stopping by!
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 10:10 AM
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Sweetie, I have no answer because it is a testing time for me .
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 10:08 AM
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Passion....How did I know that's what your answer would be?
LMAO
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 10:07 AM
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But what do I know...
seems to me that after situation A goes on long enough, b, c, d follow in that order anyway. It comes down to E, and I feel E is all about action.
posted by
rtrr06
on August 13, 2006 at 10:05 AM
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D) - I would tell my husband, get divorced and try to find
Happiness with the new guy.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 13, 2006 at 10:04 AM
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Though....I might add...
A) Should not be an option
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 9:56 AM
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Love, I think only you can answer that.
Follow your heart, I think in time you will know what to do.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 9:54 AM
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Sweetie, Imagine that you are already in that situation. What will be your
answer.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 9:51 AM
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Ariala, I am grateful to you for letting me read such a nice Story .
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 9:48 AM
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It would depend on the circumstances, the possabilities, the feelings
involved, and what is within my heart
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on August 13, 2006 at 9:40 AM
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afzal, here you go:
http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/blkblog/
posted by
Ariala
on August 13, 2006 at 9:35 AM
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Ariala, what is that story ? I have no idea as I have not heard or read.
Thanks.
posted by
afzal50
on August 13, 2006 at 9:34 AM
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Is there a Boatman and Assasin involved in your story too? LOL
posted by
Ariala
on August 13, 2006 at 9:30 AM
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