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posted by
dimondj2
on October 1, 2006 at 12:21 PM
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All or nothing at all.
posted by
Moxie_Maven
on September 24, 2006 at 10:42 PM
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if a guy has to try to be chivalrous
to "his" woman, if he's playing a part -- then he's just plain trying. I'd like to meet a guy who simply respects himself and a woman he's with enough to be generous and kind, but doesn't have to put on a chivalrous act. Good manners are not an act.
posted by
Pat_B
on August 28, 2006 at 4:27 PM
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It seems to me...
that true chivalry has to be based on respect and that respect in part means supporting the other person in being as independent as they choose to be, man or woman. So I see the values as reinforcing each other, not in conflict.
posted by
HsanNedgo_
on August 17, 2006 at 3:34 PM
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Good ideas
posted by
Rosetree
on August 7, 2006 at 8:13 PM
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a good balance is best.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 6, 2006 at 6:57 PM
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Are you neena?
posted by
star4sky5
on July 24, 2006 at 6:37 PM
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He must be a mixture, so it can be fun,
posted by
star4sky5
on July 24, 2006 at 6:35 PM
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Hi
Personally, I've been raised in a society where chivalry is just good manners and I don't feel any less independent because of it. JUst 'cos I can do something doesn't mean I have to all the time.
posted by
fionajean
on July 18, 2006 at 11:54 AM
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I guess it would be someone who has a little bit of both....Prince Charming and the modern-day Mr. Right in one body....who knows? What do you prefer?
posted by
Tandra
on July 15, 2006 at 7:22 AM
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A balance of both!
posted by
Amanda__
on July 14, 2006 at 3:33 PM
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I think that both can be accomplished :) I love good manners!
posted by
VickieJean
on July 12, 2006 at 9:29 AM
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I want it all!
Just like Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman "I want it all......I want the fairy tale".....I'm sorry to say but having both of those traits maybe only exists in our time in fairy tales.......even a decent man......sorry to say.........I'm sorry for generalizing, but that is what I have encountered for so long.....I can't remember a decent.....guy....I know they are out there somewhere....hopefully not in fairy tale land.
posted by
BlondeAmbition007
on July 9, 2006 at 5:18 AM
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they need not be mutually exclusive
posted by
Azur
on July 8, 2006 at 6:02 AM
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I like the idea of having a combination of those two types of guys...
Maybe wishful thinking, but that's my own preference. Thanks. :)
posted by
BlackPearl1
on July 7, 2006 at 7:38 PM
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Hi, interesting question....
whatever about chivalry, which does seem just a tiny little bit outdated (though personally I love it), I think better than average manners, and respect (as previously mentioned) are essential.
posted by
Cringe
on July 7, 2006 at 12:29 PM
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You havent posted in a while-
What's up?
posted by
Passionflower
on July 7, 2006 at 12:23 PM
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Straightforward - regardless of the independence factor any man should
be respectful and helpful. The man needs to be the man at all times and when the woman needs to be independent she should go out for dinner or a drink with one of her friends.
posted by
FreeManWalking
on July 6, 2006 at 10:17 AM
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Hey, all, those were interesting perspectives so far
posted by
Straightforward
on July 6, 2006 at 9:27 AM
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I like the chivalry
Its not that I can't do things for myself. I mean, for God's sake, I really can open my own car door.
But, chivalry is part of the way that a man shows me he cares about me, that he's looking out for me, and that he wants to make me happy.
Chivalry is not taking over someone's life, i.e. giving them a curfew. But, chivarly would involve calling my cellphone if I'm not home by midnight and I haven't said I'm going to be out late. This is not to keep track of me, but to make sure that I'm not dead in an alley somewhere.
posted by
lovelyone
on July 5, 2006 at 11:51 AM
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I think they can go hand in hand.
In South Africa, especially in the rural towns, chivalry is expected - a man is considered rude if he doesn't step aside for a lady, etc. I remember one of my colleagues giving my brother grief because he did not help me carry my shopping. This colleague and my brother then proceeded to carry the bags. I look at it this way - Just because I can do something, doesn't mean I want to do it all the time. Chivalry has saved me many a sore shoulder.
posted by
fionajean
on July 4, 2006 at 1:23 AM
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I also believe they can go hand in hand.
posted by
BrightIrish
on July 3, 2006 at 4:57 PM
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My husband encourages my independence all the time. The more
independent I become, the less work for him. 
I want to thank you for visiting my blog and for the nice comment you left. Thanks.
posted by
MaggieMae
on July 3, 2006 at 3:36 PM
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I believe they can go hand in hand
both in moderation. When one joins with another in a relationship there are many reasons. But if I wanted to be 100% independent I would not be married. I do not want someone who fights my battles when I can handle them myself, but it is nice to know I have back up when I need it.
posted by
bel_1965
on July 2, 2006 at 10:30 PM
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It is indeed possible to achieve a balance between both traits.. I know
plenty of men that are chivalrous and yet gently encouraging of a woman's independence. Of course these same men feel that a man can not truly be chivalrous unless he does gently encourage such. So yes, it is possible for both to exsist in the same peron. I've seen it.
darkmuser
posted by
darkmuser
on July 1, 2006 at 5:27 AM
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I'd hate to be
so independent that I couldn't graciously accept a little chivalry now and then.
posted by
mneme
on July 1, 2006 at 5:12 AM
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Maybe there an be a balance of both traits?
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posted by
A-and-B
on June 29, 2006 at 4:03 PM
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