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Goodness, Julia, what a decision to have to make. I never had to make a decision like that because I always lived in the same city as my parents. When I had to care for them, the amount and degree of caregiving was a gradual thing. In the end, it was all consuming but my home awaited me and days when I had someone to spell me I could enjoy my house and yard. I have much respect for you and for the decision that you have made.
posted by
TAPS.
on May 20, 2006 at 8:39 AM
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I've avoided driving by my old house when I've had the chance because it didn't sell fast, and I'm sure all the landscaping died last summer. I hate to think about those plants I nurtured...but it's been worth it in terms of the closeness that's developing between me and my son. And as you say, I can always plant another garden someday.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on May 19, 2006 at 5:10 PM
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Doing the right thing is nearly always the toughest choice.
But you're right -- Mom needs you, and it sounds like if you grew roses from fields sown with salt, then you can do it anywhere.
Take care. You know it's the right thing if it hurts...
posted by
strat
on May 19, 2006 at 1:31 PM
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Julia....My Quirky friend, you...Lovely name--Julia...
You are a class act. I wanted to cry along with you, but I also feel your heart is in the right place. I can't imagine the stress and pain of moving away from your beautiful garden and life, but right now, your mom needs you. She is so blessed to have a daughter like you.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on May 19, 2006 at 1:27 PM
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Julia
You are a very special daughter, God bless ya luv. You will be fine in what you have chosen to do.It is a matter of having a loving heart, go with it girl.
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 19, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Julia.
I've had several great opportunities come knocking, but I didn't open the door because I knew they'd take me far away from home. Years ago, I knew my folks would eventually need me so I made the choice to stay in Memphis. I'd rather drive across town when something happens than fly across the country.
posted by
Talion
on May 19, 2006 at 10:25 AM
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A difficult move, but you know you are doing the right thing...
even if by "right" it means "the one you can live with making."
You never know what the future holds. You may be back. Bring one of your favorite plants with you!
Or some of their "children."
posted by
FactorFiction
on May 19, 2006 at 9:14 AM
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You made an excellent choice, though a heartbreaking one. Best of luck to you!
posted by
SilverMoon7
on May 18, 2006 at 3:27 PM
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Julia
I lost my dad to cancer, and we had a healing before he passed. I could've been stubborn and not given in, but I would have regretted it for the rest of my life.
posted by
avant-garde
on May 18, 2006 at 1:39 PM
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*ever*
posted by
Julia.
on May 18, 2006 at 12:54 PM
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Jemmie--thanks.
I'm also making it harder for me to come visit you in Hawaii!! But nothing is even impossible...
posted by
Julia.
on May 18, 2006 at 12:53 PM
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*big hugs*
Now I won't be able to visit you when I go to CA! 
posted by
Jemmie211
on May 18, 2006 at 12:40 AM
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MerryA--
yes, I am trying to trust that voice. Thanks for reading!
posted by
Julia.
on May 17, 2006 at 8:32 PM
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avant--
I know you are right, but it's going to be so hard...
posted by
Julia.
on May 17, 2006 at 8:31 PM
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Whacky--
Thank you, I appreciate your good wishes!
posted by
Julia.
on May 17, 2006 at 8:30 PM
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It's hard to leave a place you love
but your heart knows that this is the right choice for you. good luck with the details.
posted by
MerryAnne
on May 17, 2006 at 7:31 PM
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Julia
You will have no regrets about doing this. Trust me on this one. You're doing the right thing.
posted by
avant-garde
on May 17, 2006 at 5:16 PM
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Wishing you all the best!
posted by
Whacky
on May 17, 2006 at 3:41 PM
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