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And then you also remember that somewhere and sometime your 'drinking daddy' in my case
was hurt or betrayed or neglected and messed up when he was just a child and took to drink to ease that pain or to avoid it....and you feel sorry for them instead of hating them. We all finally forgave my dad, his pain was enormous and we hadn't known. I'm still angry that he couldn't get help and stopped drinking only when it began to kill him outright....but, we had a good End Time.......
Avoidance works well, as well as can be expected.
posted by
benzinha
on August 26, 2003 at 9:39 PM
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Jemmie, I understand your feelings about your mother.
My mother verbally abused me for as long as I could remember. It took me many years of therapy to get rid of my bitterness and anger toward her.
posted by
msaries
on August 21, 2003 at 5:19 PM
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Make that EXTREMELY Big.
Sorry, self deprecating fat joke.
posted by
CatLadyintheAttic
on August 21, 2003 at 12:58 PM
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Horus
I think I understand now.
My mother, when she was sober, raised me well. I had a great education. I had a lot of extracurricular activities. I was pretty well-rounded.
It's her drinking that is the source of my hate. She turns into a monster when she drinks.
posted by
Jemmie211
on August 21, 2003 at 12:55 PM
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Jemmie
I hate my father when
I feel that he hasn't trasmitted to me that knowledge that I reckon he had, and it costed to me a lot to acquire by myself. I
feel as if he was keeping a secret, when he should have told me - I knew anyway, but I had to pay.
posted by
Luxbring
on August 21, 2003 at 12:37 PM
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Horus
I'm not sure I understand what you're trying to say.
posted by
Jemmie211
on August 21, 2003 at 12:34 PM
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Pecan
You can be my "big." Only you don't have to take me out for four hours each month.
posted by
Jemmie211
on August 21, 2003 at 12:33 PM
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Jemmie
Do you have the feeling that you Mummy told you "things"? That's when I hate my father, when I know he knew that what I discovered by paying myself.
posted by
Luxbring
on August 21, 2003 at 12:24 PM
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Crabby
Watch out! In your comment, J. started to show through!
posted by
Jemmie211
on August 21, 2003 at 12:21 PM
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Jemmie, if we weren't so close in age
I'd adopt you here and now and show you a mother's love with support and nuturing.
posted by
CatLadyintheAttic
on August 21, 2003 at 12:21 PM
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G'dang it!!!!
posted by
Crabby
on August 21, 2003 at 12:03 PM
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