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Dang! The doctors are soooo quick to diagnose ADD/Hyperactivity these days! You kind of have to wonder how we ever grew up as kids ourselves without the discovery all of our little friends needed to be put on a drug or something! *sigh*
posted by
Joe_Love
on October 9, 2005 at 7:29 AM
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Well, Symphony....
I do hope he can outgrow it and you don't have too many problems with him.
posted by
MaggieMae
on October 1, 2005 at 11:30 AM
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Thank you very much Military_Wife
for your advice and for your warning and explaining...I certainly will do more research....thank you for everything...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 7:13 AM
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Symphony
From my own experience I would not put a child that young on these medications. Ritalin is one of the most popular and what many do not realize is that is what is know on the street as an "Upper". Kids take it to get high in their teens.
Everyone of those medications literally effect the brain in one way or another. My suggestion is do ALOT of research and when you think you have done all the research you can, do some more.
I actually take medication for my ADD right now but my body and brain are also fully developed and I am very active in my own treatment, the doctor was all too willing to just "up" my dosage when I was doing just fine at the dosage I was taking. Be very wary, I will email you in the next few days with some info.
posted by
Bel_
on October 1, 2005 at 7:03 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing OFFBEATS
you are so wonderful...thank you for commenting.
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 6:57 AM
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DivineDiva
Thank you ever so much for this great comment...I have never thought about food being a problem...yes I must really think on what he eats now. I am now worried about finding out if Jamie has it or not now and what to do for the best if he has..I really need some quiet thinking space.LOL....thank you so much...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 6:54 AM
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Symphony
Sweet girl, I can't imagine raising a child again, the 3 I had kept me so busy I didn't half the stuff done I wanted to. I didn't have a Mother, so that was out, but now I am a Mother of 3 grown children who have little ones. I love to take them ( one at a time ) and have them all to myself. I sure hope the doctor is doing the right thing, probably knows a lot about such matters, and you get some sleep! You just can't live without it girl, and your too young and beautiful for burn out!!
posted by
Offy
on October 1, 2005 at 4:46 AM
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Little ones
Symph, your friends here are giving you some good advice about Jamie. Be very, very careful with what the doctor's say about ADHD. It is epidemic here for doctor's to diagnose and medicate children saying that they are ADHD where in fact they're just a handful. A huge handful sometimes though ! 
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My daughter was very, very sensitive to what she ate when she was young. If she had anything that was pre-made, like frozen chicken fingers or pizza that was bought at the grocery she would just SPIN ! Any kind of soft drink or bottled drink that wasn't 100% natural juice (no sugar or additives) would do the same thing. She was so sensitives to additives I had to make all her meals from scratch. A pain sometimes since it's so handy to make the little ones a quick meal but I had no choice. I ended up making my own "quick meals" for the freezer. Every so often I would cook up a batch of chicken fingers using my own breading and fresh chicken, then freeze them. I'd buy pitas and make my own pizza without the pepperoni and bacon though, too many additives in the processing. Maybe try something like that with Jamie, and keep a notebook of what he eats every day, and his behaviour each day to see if there is any connection? It would usually take a few days for my daughter to get back on track if she'd had a bunch of food she was sensitive to.
I'm glad that your Mum could take Jamie for a bit so you can relax. Having him run off some energy at the nursery a few mornings a week is a great idea too.
Hang in there Symph !
posted by
DivineDiva
on October 1, 2005 at 4:36 AM
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ooooh.....Hammock_Noweilz ...sounds painful...
Hope your day(s) get better
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:20 AM
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Dude, I hope your day(s) are better then mine
my last THREE days have been like riding a horse on a thumb tack saddle, with no underwear on.
posted by
Hammock_Noweilz
on October 1, 2005 at 4:18 AM
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Thank you anthony1wiley
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:16 AM
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Justsouno
I am not sure if she can because she does shift work, but I will ask her or at least hint...LOL.....thank you for your comment
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:15 AM
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Thanks for reading and commenting, Ca88andra
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:14 AM
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hahaha SillySoul88
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:14 AM
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hehehe yes please...MidnightToker
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:14 AM
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hehehe Lensman...thanks for your comment..
I wont know anything properly, until next week.
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:13 AM
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Thank you MaggieMae
I know what you are saying, and I would believe that for some cases, but this is not recently...its been going on a while...after reading the leaflets the signs show that he may......he hardly sleeps, I dred taking him out to places (he plays up rotton) he deos not sit still for one minute...he gets very frustrated...and he is very intelligent for his age...the list goes on...my daughter will be 7 in novmenber and I have not had any problems with her...she did go through the terrible twos but not like this....but thank you ever so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:12 AM
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Yes, ARGUS
I know....but soemtimes.............
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:09 AM
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Thank you ever so much for your comment Hemlocker
and for sharing...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:09 AM
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Thanks cosy
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:07 AM
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Thanks scriber ...but I am ok.
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:07 AM
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Military_Wife
Thank you ever so much for this comment, I was hoping by writing about this that others would come forward and offer advice or know somebody that has it. I have read the leaflets but still not really in the know....if he is diagnosed are you saying I should not accept any medications? what would be the harm if he didn't? sorry to ask many questions, but I would love to get an email from you.....Thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:07 AM
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UsualSuspect
Thank you ever so muh for your comment.....great advice!...I would love to do yoga...I must find more out about that, and yes my doctor has given me a new diet plan to try (because I have put on weight from wrong foods and wrong time of day) so I am sure that will kick in soon, and as for vitimins....I do need them as I am always tired...thank you ever so much, you are wonderful....I know I must slow down.
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 1, 2005 at 4:04 AM
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SYMPHONY
I am sorry life is so stressful for you sweetie, good that your mum came and helped out. Maybe you could get that more often, and do more for yourself luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on September 30, 2005 at 8:07 PM
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Symphony
Do you think your Mum could take Jamie for one day a week to allow you to really relax, read do what you want? It would be very good for you, that is unless you use that day to catch up on work. Use it for you, don't let friends eat it up, in fact don't tell them. Do what you want if it is getting a manicure, go for a walk, sleep all day or what ever do that once a week. You will be an easier mum. Those little sweeties can wear you to a nub girl. BB
posted by
Justi
on September 30, 2005 at 7:29 PM
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Ca88,
That's the God's honest truth !!!
posted by
SincerityAnna
on September 30, 2005 at 7:11 PM
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Sometimes kids just drive you to distraction and mothers really do need some time to themselves!
posted by
Ca88andra
on September 30, 2005 at 6:58 PM
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yeah sometimes it gets like that
I know when the world is moving to fast for me, I just need to scream and say Calgon take me away. lol. ~Silly
posted by
SillySoul88
on September 30, 2005 at 4:16 PM
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Hey Symphony,
Want some of my invisible time in a bottle? ...lol.........I'm sorry things have been so hetic for you....
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 30, 2005 at 2:55 PM
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Hi Symphony
I'm no health expert, but I'm an uncle of five (yeah, I know...feeling sorry for me yet?
) and the older ones all seemed to be like this when they were two-ish. Then they settled down. Hopefully it'll be the same for your child. If not, then you'll just have to provide him with a sibling so they can wrestle around together and tire each other out! Okay, I'd better go now......
posted by
Lensman
on September 30, 2005 at 12:45 PM
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Sweet Symphony........
Please don't be so quick to believe this Health Care Provider about this disorder she believes your baby to have - it just sounds to me as though, excuse me, but I think he is just spoiled. He's used to your time and your doing what he wants of you. Granted, you're busy and you've less time for him and he misses you, but I don't believe it's anything more than that and he's just throwing a tantrum to get your attention. It will pass, just give him some time.
Give him time, I think he will outgrow it. I'm glad your mother gave you a chance to breathe. You'll get better too.
posted by
MaggieMae
on September 30, 2005 at 11:33 AM
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Symph, many of us have gone thru stuff like you describe --
and most of us survive.
posted by
ARGUS
on September 30, 2005 at 11:15 AM
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Symphony--
All this sounds very familiar. There was a famous German pediatrician who said when your kids' behaviors are overwhelming you and you want to cry or lash out, "go to the bathroom", i.e. literally hide for a while in the bathroom, or find a place where you can shut the door for a little while. ADD whatever is not a phase. Some scientists are not sure there is even such a thing, but I think brains are wired differently, and it does exist. My son had similar problems. He once nearly ripped the dress off a teacher in third grade, and the shool administrators called the cops. You are fortunate that your boy can get into nursery school a couple of days a week; respite can work wonders, and that you have a loving family support system. Hang in there! Hemlocker
p.s.--Thanks for your welcome comment on my journal blog.
posted by
Hemlocker
on September 30, 2005 at 10:31 AM
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Symphony
Trust that everything will be fine...
Have a great day, and remember to sit back and relax a bit
posted by
cosy
on September 30, 2005 at 10:17 AM
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Symp--feel for u gurl.
posted by
scriber
on September 30, 2005 at 9:40 AM
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Symphony
I have some concerns about a health care provider who claims they can diagnose ADD/ADHD at such a young age. Keep in mind the child's brain is still developing and using medications that alter it can have permanant effects. Most doctors will not diagnose until they are school age. I have experience with this and there are some natural options without the permant effects on the child. Both of my kids have ADHD and I have ADD, feel free to email me anytime and I'll be happy to give you what info I have. There is a good chance the child does have ADHD but you want to be very, very careful with any medication because all too often the doctors have to use a hit and miss method and in the meantime the child is run through several drugs.
As for being pissed off over lack of time. We must be on the same page this week.
posted by
Bel_
on September 30, 2005 at 9:35 AM
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Symph-
You HAVE to make time! This is the number one mistake that women make. We assume that by taking on the world and doing for others that we are being all we can be and that's just not true. If it helps, think of how much MORE you could be and give if you took a little time to relax, focus and readjust. Things that have helped me slow down in the past...Yoga (this is a great way to combine exercise and meditation and to sleep better at night), massage, pedicure, running, writing, etc. Please make sure your diet is helping to support your lifestyle as well...lots of b vitamins and c and calcium. If you want to be around for a long time and take care of the people you love you need to take better care of yourself. I say this as a friend and someone who knows just how much stress can wreck your life and your health.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on September 30, 2005 at 8:28 AM
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You are very welcome, Flame-thrower
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 8:04 AM
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Thank you very much for passing around.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on September 30, 2005 at 8:00 AM
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hahaha very very true...Masky
thank you ever so much for the laughs today...you are wonderful
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:58 AM
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hehehe thanks myddrin ...
thats what I want....a nice radox bath...with candles and peace....no actually a little soft music......but the best I get is....a quick bath, but...with the chilldren knocking on the door every few seconds....maybe I should wait until they are in bed...would be far better.
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:57 AM
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Symphony...well, again, tea stains spit from the mouth of gigglers are
better than urine stains...Why, I think you're getting a break from the insanity. Laugh harder! You'll feel better!
posted by
Masky
on September 30, 2005 at 7:56 AM
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I am so far...avant-garde
but I must go soon.....but hey its been nice having some time to myself..I am not working tonight...so I will try and get an early night..as I will be working tomorrow night.
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:55 AM
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LOFL.....Masky
hahaha that last comment you made about being pissed on...made me spit my tea out.....so funny thanks for making me laugh
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:54 AM
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Thank you ever so much for your comment ginnieb
well yes...I thought that too...thats why I presumed it was the "terrible twos" but apparantly in some cases children can be diagnosed at such a young age with this....but I wont know anything else until I see the doctor...then I will let you know.......thanks again.
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:52 AM
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Symphony,
Can we say "Calgon" in the bath tub here. Hope things calm down for you. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on September 30, 2005 at 7:51 AM
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I am sorry you can relate...MayB
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:50 AM
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I hope so...A-and-B
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:49 AM
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Thank you for reading jojostar
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 30, 2005 at 7:49 AM
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symphony
have a great day.
posted by
avant-garde
on September 30, 2005 at 7:13 AM
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Symphony...nope...you're not the only one who gets ticked off about
being busy. I feel your pain and wish you nothing but Peace and Sanity. And remember, it's better to be pissed off than pissed on!
posted by
Masky
on September 30, 2005 at 6:37 AM
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Your mum is a gem Symphony!
I am SURE you need some time to yourself. Being a single mum must be absolutely overwhelming at times and I'm happy to hear you have some time to yourself. Hang in there sweetie...you're doing a good job...that's why it's so stressful. I would have thought two years old was young to diagnose ADHD, though I admit, I know little about it. It's good they are following up though and maybe he's a kid with boundless energy who would benefit from nursery school...and you would too!!
posted by
ginnieb
on September 30, 2005 at 6:07 AM
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You're not the only one. I'm tired of it too
posted by
Azur
on September 30, 2005 at 6:06 AM
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Your hard work will pay off one day soon.
B.
posted by
A-and-B
on September 30, 2005 at 5:58 AM
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Symphony
I don't have kids yet so my life is pretty laid back. I see coworkers and friends go through what you're going through though. I'm glad you finally got a little time to yourself!
posted by
jojostar
on September 30, 2005 at 5:27 AM
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