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jacenta
I will give a hug from you to my mother...it will make her smile.
She lost James when he was a day old, Mariah was stillborn, and my brother Christopher died in Jan.
I'm sure she grieves for them all, but I like to think they are all in heaven catching up for lost time, and waiting for us!
Oh, and I needed a good cry. =)
posted by
MiaElla
on September 28, 2005 at 11:13 AM
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Mia,
Could it be you are missing Christopher? My father has been gone for years now but, I have dreams about him being right next to me, wearing the special smile that was all mine. Those dreams are so real. It comforts me and I love them.
Thanks for reading my poetry. I feel for your mother. Time passes, but the heart never forgets the infant we could have held in our arms and raised to adulthood. Give your mother a hug for me. Sometimes, life can be just too sad. But, there is too much joy, to dwell on the bad things. I wrote the poem, because I loved the little man and it was and is all I can give him now. 
Sorry, I made you feel like crying.
posted by
jacentaOld
on September 28, 2005 at 8:01 AM
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I haven't actually physically felt my mother around, but I know she is there. I can feel her presence sometimes. But I wouldn't tell most people this because they just wouldn't believe me.
posted by
Ca88andra
on September 28, 2005 at 1:38 AM
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I Can Relate
My step-dad died in June and I gave, by everyone's account, a very moving eulogy for him.
Recently my Mom, his widow, said something about how rough it was without him around. I told her that she'll never get over losing him. It's going to be a very difficult time for all of us for quite a while.
"It's difficult for me, but how is it difficult for you? You didn't even like him."
I just shrugged and just got away. I've learned that reasoning with my Mom as of late is a total waste of time. Excuse yourself and just get away. I mean if she doesn't realize how much I loved him after hearing the eulogy, and even before then, then something's very wrong. But I have to accept the fact that something is indeed very wrong. Her soul mate of 30 years died and she just can't handle it.
The thing is, I've lost the love of my life in a way too. Not my step-dad, my Mom. No, not in a perverted way, people. But we could always be serious with each other and then be hysterical, making each other laugh for hours. That's not happening anymore and it may return in the point. But unfortunately, through some events I'd rather not share right now, I now will always know in the back of my mind that I can't count on her when times are at their worst. So our relationship will be both stronger (for having gotten through this) and also weaker, because certain flaws in our relationships have been exposed, and they'll always be in the back of my mind.
posted by
GaelicLostSoul
on September 27, 2005 at 10:14 PM
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This is not that unusual ...
I sometimes get the feeling that Better Half's father is watching over us, or that this old man I befriended still reminds me he's hanging around.
posted by
fwmystic
on September 27, 2005 at 7:40 PM
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Mia
I've had similar experiences to what you described. I'm absolutely certain that was your brother coming to let you know he's there with you, ready to be the prankster he always was. Try and find some joy in that, it means he's ok and loving you.
I can't imagine why your Mom would say what she said. The only thing you can do is focus on the wonder of being able to connect with your brother, that's all that is important.
posted by
DivineDiva
on September 27, 2005 at 5:44 PM
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Mia
Our brains sure were tuned to the same frequency this morning.
*Great Big Bearhugs*
I don't have the smiley thingies, so astericks will have to work =P
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on September 27, 2005 at 4:52 PM
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Mia, I think it's lucid dreaming at work, or what Unidentified Hacker
talked about in his post today...I've had similar experiences...still, I'm sorry your mom said what she did (though it was funny to read) and forgive me if my explanation isn't welcome.
posted by
Ariala
on September 27, 2005 at 4:30 PM
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Pretty heartless thing for her to say....
Upon waking I often hear voices that are strikingly clear...startling, really. I believe you...he's still up to his old tricks.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on September 27, 2005 at 1:32 PM
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I think he is still with you!
I know my dad is still with me. I heard him talk to me once, too.
posted by
Jemmie211
on September 27, 2005 at 11:38 AM
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You know Mia...
...my mother has been telling me that she hears her late husband's voice all the time. He calls to her when she's fallen asleep in front of the TV...she feels him in bed with her at night...she swears she can hear him breathing. I don't think it's strange at all..comforting in a way, yes?
posted by
ginnieb
on September 27, 2005 at 11:34 AM
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MiaElla
I totally believe it could be your brother from the other side. Hey, my sons got to fish with their father during spring break, and often my youngest sees a mans shadow...that was shortly after his passing. Think he's finally figured out how to check on them without scaring the crap out of them.
Not everyone believes in that stuff, so don't let them get to you. Believe what you wish...no one truly has the answer on that one. If it's worth anything, I think it's cool that your brother would come by to visit.
posted by
LifeByLisa
on September 27, 2005 at 11:04 AM
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Mia,
Is she jealous or something?
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on September 27, 2005 at 11:01 AM
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Mia
I tend to think it is your brother telling you that he is OK.
posted by
Bel_
on September 27, 2005 at 10:47 AM
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Wow Miaella...
I do believe it may well be the case...God knows I've had my share of experiences...don't listen to your mother...she's just bitter now and probably grieving still...love Cosy
posted by
cosy
on September 27, 2005 at 10:09 AM
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Yep, I would say it's Christopher
posted by
jojostar
on September 27, 2005 at 9:35 AM
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Miaella...uh oh. So Ma didn't like your interpretation of your brother.
Honestly, did you laugh when your mother said that or did you get mad? I think Christopher is teasing you.
posted by
Masky
on September 27, 2005 at 9:32 AM
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