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Medusa--
Why would you hate admitting that?
posted by
Julia.
on August 23, 2005 at 8:42 AM
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Isa--
Yes I agree--if I could choose the feeling to 'go out on', I would choose happiness over frustration too.
posted by
Julia.
on August 23, 2005 at 8:41 AM
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alexa--thanks.
I believe that giving thanks for what we have, is the surest way to draw more good to us.
posted by
Julia.
on August 23, 2005 at 8:36 AM
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Dave,
I agree--those are very wise words.
posted by
Julia.
on August 23, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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muser--
that's very nice--not that you'd want anything to happen while he was gone, but if it did, you'd be at peace knowing you had said 'I love you' that day.
posted by
Julia.
on August 23, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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Quirky...nicely done...
You gave me a tiny lump in my throat.....I hate admitting that, but it's true.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on August 23, 2005 at 7:52 AM
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in fact it is painful for us...
to realize that they ended up so badly, but both died happy and grateful to God...and if i could choose, i'd rather die happy and with a feeling of fulfillment than frustrated...
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 23, 2005 at 4:32 AM
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That was ironically sweet..
Hi! That was so touching. I am majorly in love, and I can honestly say at this moment that my life is perfect (for me). I also try to give thanks on a consistant basis for the love and the life that I have..That was a very thought provoking story..Thanks..Alexa
posted by
Schree
on August 23, 2005 at 2:05 AM
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A sad story. But, as you say, the greatest of thoughts to go out on. Never sleep on a harsh word. Not to anyone, family, friend or foe.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
on August 23, 2005 at 1:22 AM
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Life is so fragile...I tell Max every morning how
much I love him as he leaves for work...
posted by
muser
on August 22, 2005 at 10:40 PM
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krisles--
yes I'm sure their loved ones really appreciated having it. Strange that they never released it to the media until a year later, though. Thanks much for reading.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 10:24 PM
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Quirky
Interesting story I wasn't familiar with....what a great gift for their loved ones to have, those words left to know how happy they were in their last hours......given such a horrible end. Thanks for sharing this.
posted by
Krisles
on August 22, 2005 at 10:12 PM
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Jacenta--
My pleasure...always enjoy your kitty pics...isn't it just like cats to sleep in the funniest places?
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 9:56 PM
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Hi Quirkyalone,
Life is fragile and precious. That is why we need to make the most of every minute. My Mom always says, "We are one breath away from eternity."
Thanks for checking out, my not contented cats. 
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posted by
jacentaOld
on August 22, 2005 at 9:45 PM
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dvmac--
thanks for the compliment.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 9:42 PM
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vane--thanks.
yes it is important to remember that, because we forget all the time.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 9:42 PM
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QA
Wow! Very powerful
posted by
dvmac
on August 22, 2005 at 9:23 PM
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thanx, i needed that. A reality check. It's important to remember how fleeting everything in life is, including life itself.
posted by
Vanidad
on August 22, 2005 at 9:10 PM
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Taps--me, too.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 8:59 PM
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Rabbit--
yes, I understand that feeling. Thanks for reading.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 8:58 PM
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BrightIrish--
Yes it is sad, and doesn't look as though they are very close to solving the case. I hope they do some day, though.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 8:43 PM
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Wiley One--
You are too cute. I'll take that under advisement.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 8:42 PM
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What a tale, Quirkyalone. I'm glad that they did have a time of happiness.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 22, 2005 at 8:32 PM
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we recently went to a wake
for an elderly lady who had a heart attack in the car on the way back from a dinner outing with her gal pals. It made me think about so many things, and I felt for her family, yet there was comfort in knowing that she had been, in her last moments, in a happy state in the company of her friends.
posted by
wiserabbit
on August 22, 2005 at 8:30 PM
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Quirkyalone
I have read about this and can remember thinking how sad it was for these young people to die in such a tragic way.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 22, 2005 at 8:23 PM
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Quirkyalone
Alone I understand but writing as you do the last thing you are luv is "Quirky". How about QuietAlone? QuteAlone?QualityAlone? Ya know luv?
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 22, 2005 at 8:00 PM
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Hi Alexa--
I'm not sure what word you really meant to type, but prolific doesn't make sense to me.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:29 PM
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Ariala--
It was ironic. Thanks for reading!
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:28 PM
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bettyboop--
yes to both of your statements.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:27 PM
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hemlocker--
maybe they didn't think their life was perfect, so much as that they thought it was perfect "in that moment."
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:26 PM
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lostboy--
that's sad about the diabetes person. Well, we never know when our number will be up, nor how it will happen.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:25 PM
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Jollyjeff-
thanks for visiting today.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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MysticG--
Hopefully I do too!
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:23 PM
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crazytrain--
sorry you think I'm delusional but there have been plenty of newspaper stories about this murder.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:23 PM
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thanks Katray!
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:18 PM
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Meringue--
yeah, certainly for their families it's a nightmare.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:17 PM
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renigade--
Crap Dinner is pretty good isn't it?
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:17 PM
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MW--
Yeah...I understand how you feel. Maybe they didn't have it "all" but they were excited about their upcoming wedding and new life together.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 7:16 PM
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Great, now I'm craving mac and cheese...Damn you! lol
Great post. Hey, at least they were happy when they died. That's all any of us can ask for...
posted by
Renigade
on August 22, 2005 at 7:15 PM
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Quirky
As awful as this is...it made me smile. These two people were happy and it sounds to me like they did have it all. It's a shame someone had to come and take so many more perfect days away from them.
posted by
Bel_
on August 22, 2005 at 7:12 PM
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Personally,I would not be averse to such a death,I have always wanted to
die in my sleep.And to die the day you were in prfect contentment with life, that would be ideal.The tragedy remains for those who have to live on, despite the loss of the dear ones.
posted by
Meringue
on August 22, 2005 at 6:41 PM
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Tragically beautiful post Quirky
posted by
Katray2
on August 22, 2005 at 6:31 PM
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Interesting
this seems like a fantasy in your own mind and you are willing to do anything to get attention. You must live a sad life..........
posted by
crazytrain
on August 22, 2005 at 6:27 PM
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Quirky
Amen! I think I remember that. Didn't know they still hadn't found teh killer tho. Thats an irony all right, but I sure agree, I would like that to be my last thought too....but not any time too soon, I still have some miles to go before i sleep
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on August 22, 2005 at 5:41 PM
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Sad and uplifting at the same time
posted by
jollyjeff
on August 22, 2005 at 4:30 PM
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Been known to happen
If you want to talk about irony, I remember hearing in science class that the first diabetes sufferer ever to receive successful insulin treatment was killed in a car accident - from miracle cure to spinning wheels in a heartbeat.
This is one of the reasons why its important to never hold back in life - they were happy right up until the end, and I would say that's the best way to go.
As for those who killed them...no matter where they go and what they do, the emptiness that drove them to that act will follow them to their end too. Which will hopefully be a messy scene involving dirty needles or a rival gang.
posted by
lostboy
on August 22, 2005 at 3:21 PM
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Quirky
How fortunate that they were so young and happy together, that they thought life could be no better. We jaded individuals who suffer the imperfections of a world and our stewardship of it, that could be so much better, will not die leaving a message that everything was perfect. Nevertheless, if we live a positive life doing what we need to do, showing love, helpfulness and compassion, and hopefully meeting some of our family and creative goals, we can die knowing that we did our best for ourselves and others, and that we lived a reasonably positive and productive life. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on August 22, 2005 at 3:14 PM
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Better than dying miserable and depressed I say.
Sad either way for the surviving family, of course.
posted by
bettyboop1967
on August 22, 2005 at 3:06 PM
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Wow! I hadn't heard of this story, and what an ironic ending.
posted by
Ariala
on August 22, 2005 at 2:20 PM
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THAT'S PRETTY PROLIFIC..
I agreee that we tend to take life for granted.. Like I always say..We've GOT to stop and smell the roses sometimes....Alexa
posted by
Schree
on August 22, 2005 at 2:19 PM
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avant--
thanks for reading.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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quirky
we do take our lives for granted. it's sad. good post.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 22, 2005 at 2:09 PM
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OMG MayB--
Don't even think such a thing!!
What a nightmare that would be...
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 2:01 PM
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Arianna--
I know, me too. Thanks, and you're welcome.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 2:01 PM
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Shadow--
very true--had one lived and not the other, that would have really been difficult.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 2:00 PM
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Can you imagine if a post about blogging was your last word? It puts things in perspective
posted by
Azur
on August 22, 2005 at 1:29 PM
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When I die...
I'd like to be feeling what they felt. I'd like to be feeling that as I live, too. Thanks. And thanks for the comments about Robin's Egg Blue. I see what you mean about the font.
posted by
Arianna
on August 22, 2005 at 1:15 PM
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Quirky,
How horrible, but they at least felt the peace and joy around them. In a way its good they went together. How much more pain they would have endured had one of them lived? Personally, I hope to go quick and not linger to constantly mull over the past issues that challenged me throughout my life like my mom did. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 22, 2005 at 12:28 PM
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Lisa--
It's interesting that you fear reaching certain points for fear that then it will be time for you to go. I'd never really thought about it that way. As for some going too soon, I don't really think so...too soon maybe for the loved ones left here on earth, but I have to believe that everything happens in divine timing.
Thanks for your comment!
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:19 PM
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cat--
OMG, wouldn't that be awful--to have all the contents of our blogs given to our families?
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:15 PM
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Sandra--
me too. Thanks for your poetically beautiful comment!
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:14 PM
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Some slip away too soon...
Wow, that seems to happen so often, you often hear of musicians making a comeback, getting themselves on track, and then so quickly lost. I had never heard about the journal left behind, although I remember the case in the news.
For the longest time I worried about hitting various milestones, due to the fact that it seemed once people got their lives together, found true happiness, they were called home. This year was difficult because I hit the milestone of being the age of my birth mother when she passed on...it freaked me out. I've finally come to accept the fact, and would much rather have my final entry of this life be that things were utterly perfect. It is most sad for those who leave this earth without learning the lessons, not striving to grow and be all they can, and it is true that some slip away too soon.
posted by
LifeByLisa
on August 22, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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LOL... with that said, I hope no one releases my blog if I die...
posted by
-blackcat
on August 22, 2005 at 12:11 PM
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Isa--
I am glad they were happy on that last night...it's just, that to think they felt so blessed, and then...
But really, it was a good thing that they felt blessed.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:03 PM
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Quirky,
Yeah, me too...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on August 22, 2005 at 12:02 PM
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Anna--
Yeah, I think so too...that would certainly be what I would want to be thinking on my last night.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:01 PM
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jillian--
thank you for reading...
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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What a bitter sweet tale. I'm so glad they experienced pure joy and perfection as they drifted into endless sleep... eternal love. Rare for many among the living! Sandi
posted by
Sandra_Harris
on August 22, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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as tragical as it can be...
it is better to die with a feeling of plain satisfaction then dying with the feeling that the world is imperfect...which makes death even worst...
great article:)
posted by
Marshallengraved
on August 22, 2005 at 11:55 AM
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Quirky,
It is very ironic...but really, I think that's the best way...to be so happy until the last moment...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on August 22, 2005 at 11:55 AM
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"Can life ever be so perfect" AMEN!
posted by
Jillians.New-Beginning
on August 22, 2005 at 11:50 AM
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mmm-w,
well, it does appear totally random, but they don't really know for sure. I do hope they find out who killed them, though.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 11:50 AM
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Anna--
I just found it ironic that they were so happy and feeling so blessed, and then....just like that, they are gone.
posted by
Julia.
on August 22, 2005 at 11:48 AM
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i remember that story of their murders.... it was so horrible... we talked about the randomness of it for days... what a sadly beautiful close to their story though....
posted by
mmm-w
on August 22, 2005 at 11:45 AM
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Quirky,
Wow...what a story...that really does leave one thinking...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on August 22, 2005 at 11:44 AM
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