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I wish I would have read this
days ago, because I would have liked to help. I try to help when I can. I can. I don't know what it's like to be disabled, but one day this boy came to my house and tried to sell me a candle for ten bucks. He was about ten. I tried to get rid of him because I had just lost my job and my dad had just been put in jail for the incident. The kid was so persistent, and it was raining. I swear he was ten, he said, "you can buy a candle. Doesn't your husband have a job?". It was such an odd thing for a kid to say. The candles were homemade, they smelled like honeysuckle. I bought two, and offered him a ride home. I drove him and his bike about a mile and a half to his house, where I met his mom. She was laying on the couch. Maureen. Turns out we were born in the same hospital in Massachusetts, and here we were living in poverty in rural South Carolina. There was a teenager there, making dinner. She said he was slow. After speaking with him, it was obvious. He couldn't retain information, but he could learn by habit. It was odd.
She said she had MS, and a stroke. I could tell by her speech, her face, she did. She was stuck like a sack of potatoes. That ten year old boy had to help her go to the bathroom, cook, everything along with the slow teenager. I asked about disability, but they denied her because of her last years tax returns. Last year she had a husband and could walk and work. The husband took her 4 year old daughter and left her there sick with those two boys. It was going through the courts, she said. She said she did get 30.00 worth of food stamps. The teenager said they couldn't wipe there butts with 30.00/month in food stamps. I chuckled at his joke with him, but it really wasn't funny. I felt like every problem I had in the world was nothing compared to what I saw in Maureen. It was like a light bulb, but not the kind that makes you feel good. It was the kind that made me count my blessings. Anyway, I'm a helper, just like you. If you're like me, you hate to ask. I know. Take care Temple, let me know if you need something... :)
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on April 13, 2005 at 5:29 PM
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Just letting you know I clicked!
Wishing you the best of luck! I admire your strength and determination!
posted by
Jemmie211
on April 6, 2005 at 3:41 PM
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Ahem....
I think it's time for a new post, don't you?! :)
Just dropped in to let you know I'm thinking about ya!
posted by
RachelAnna
on April 4, 2005 at 3:10 PM
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Hey....
Haven't heard from you in a couple of days but I'm thinking of you all the time. I'm glad I could help, even in small ways, passing along crappy projects to keep a roof over your head, food in your belly, and all that other good stuff.
Just keep plugging along. You'll get there. I know it's hard.
I know the parents stuff sucks. Oh, how I can relate. The older I get, the more I realize I will probably never see eye to eye with my parents. I've finally gotten to a place where I don't need them to like me, but I wish I knew without a doubt that they loved and respected me. I know you understand what I'm saying...
Just keep going, one of these days we'll both look up and realize we're through the storm... It'll be sunshine and happiness. Damn, that's almost scarier than what we've got going...
posted by
RachelAnna
on March 28, 2005 at 3:04 PM
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Takes a long time, maybe, but there is a real freedom
the moment of realization that one's family is no more, no less than what it is, and that the people in it are just people who--because of their own limitations-- will probably never ever understand you or see you as you wish they would... But other people, better people, will be in your life, your 'found family' that knows how to love and to communicate, and can accept the same back from you... Perhaps Family should be sacred, but it isn't always...
posted by
Ciel
on March 27, 2005 at 1:42 AM
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It's all good now, Jimmy...
posted by
Temple
on March 26, 2005 at 9:56 PM
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Temple...
Sorry for fucking up your Petie button sweetie...
posted by
jimmy68
on March 26, 2005 at 8:54 PM
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Temple, its wonderful that things are looking better for you. I'm very confident that you will be successful with your writing too. Well done!
posted by
Ca88andra
on March 26, 2005 at 6:01 PM
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I'm so glad things are looking up for you! I wrote a post about interpreting dreams in DarrkeThoughts. It was about a dream I had about my mom. I you haven't seen it yet, you might appreciate it.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on March 26, 2005 at 7:24 AM
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Temple, I thought that your handwriting might resemble mine......
things go rollercoastering up and down in a wild ride and all that we can do is focus as best we can, and hang on tight. Friends, somehow, through help and prayer or whatever, warp the ride's highs and lows into more level rail rides, I think.
posted by
benzinha
on March 25, 2005 at 7:00 PM
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Temple
Glad things are looking up. I need to read you more often, your bridge is lovely and your cat's are adorable.
posted by
Offy
on March 25, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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temple
I am SOOO glad to hear that things may
finally be looking up for you!!! Ihope it just keeps getting better.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on March 25, 2005 at 6:35 PM
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Right On Baby!
That makes it possible...I knew something would break, Faith and perseverance will carry you far...
posted by
jimmy68
on March 25, 2005 at 8:37 AM
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Don't be afraid to say it. Enjoy it and take the positive energy from it to build on it but do pace yourself
posted by
Azur
on March 25, 2005 at 7:49 AM
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Temple
I'm so very glad that things are looking better for you. Don't run yourself into the ground though! Take care of yourself please.
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on March 25, 2005 at 7:41 AM
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