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OK baby...
you need to write here again. Its been a year for heavens sake. I love you. Speak up please or I will be forced to write another fat girl post 
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on April 5, 2006 at 6:14 PM
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On the fat path
I know this is an oldish blog but I am a new blogger. If you do find your weight is getting you down, please read my blog. I am also rather overweight and this was written one day after the umpteenth "You'd be so pretty if you just lost some weight" - What, so I'm ugly now? I actually would love to start an anti-diet revolution at some stage but am still desperately attached to the fact that I was a size 34 in High School.
posted by
fionajean
on August 30, 2005 at 6:36 AM
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Thank you all for reading and commenting.
Darrke - I'm glad you're feeling better. Thin isn't everything, it's all about being the best you can be--for yourself, not others, not society, not the model/movie images. It's all relative. If this were an era in which only wealthy people had the money to buy fattening foods, everyone would envy fat people and despise thin people because it would be obvious they were poor. At least that's my theory. Good luck with your quest for better health.
Thomas - I'm so happy you worked this out. You don't have to feel responsible for her health, although I do believe in supporting people in their quest for health and weight loss (not continually offering food with empty calories, etc.). Each person knows their weight and their own issues. If you bite your fingernails, you are going to wear down your teeth eventually, and you may project a poor image that will influence how others feel about you, maybe it even has an effect on your stomach. Try to imagine how you would feel if your mom and other people in your life nagged you about biting your nails "for your own good." It's a similar thing. Glad your relationship with her is smoother now.
Goddess - Thank you for the kind words. Your posts never fail to make me think, and that is a great thing for a writer to accomplish. Whoa! It's a mutual admiration society! Seriously, thank you. 
posted by
Witchflower
on March 29, 2005 at 9:17 AM
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Bravo!!!
I am so honored that I inspired you to write this post. I hope others read this. As more people speak out ideas eventually change. This is beautiful
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on March 27, 2005 at 7:38 PM
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My mom is fat. I used to get after her because I don't want her to die. Its a selfish thing. And, she started getting mad at me so I exprerssed my concerns that if I said nothing, I felt guilty. She would die because I let her have one more candy. She told me that if she died- it was by her choice and she freed me off the hook. I don't say a word now. She enjoys life and I'm guilt free if she kicks the bucket.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on March 25, 2005 at 10:32 AM
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I like your attitude. I wish I could feel better about myself and my weight. I do know that my attitude is better now than when I was much thinner. You can never be thin enough if that is your goal...at least now I can focus on being healthy instead of being a certain size.
posted by
DarrkeThoughts
on March 24, 2005 at 2:47 PM
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