Go to MY PERCEPTIVE REFLECTION!!
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- Go to THE POLICE CAME AND ARRESTED HIM.......MY LIFE IS ONE BIG HORRID MESS!!!!!!
get away if you can
I was almost killed by my former roommate/boyfriend
I might spend the rest of my life in jail but it is better than being stabbed to death or having your neck broken/snapped.
don't stay with this guy. He could easily make you have an accident and the police are not trained as well as CSI
think of the children...he might hurt them next
posted by
wannarideher
on August 22, 2007 at 3:21 PM
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Thank you so very much
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 1, 2005 at 8:53 AM
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don't feel bad
maybe what you did discouraged him from further such actions
and further such actions can get worse.
and don't let what he did and said make you feel like such a loser
that's what people do -- they try to make others feel like losers to bolster their own low self-esteem.
build your own self-confidence and step forward standing tall.
posted by
Xeno-x
on March 1, 2005 at 8:38 AM
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You did the right thing. Keep a record of his bad behavior. Don't get into any discussions with him or his mum. If he contacts you drunk again call the cops right away. He probably spent the night in the drunk tank asleep. I would guess to say this is not going to be his last drunk and disorderly. It is not your job to save him or feel sorry for him. Can you get orders from Child Protective Services there? He should not have the kids unsupervised with his drinking and anger.
posted by
the-loanlady
on February 23, 2005 at 10:55 AM
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*hugs*
So sorry to hear what happened! That can be so traumatic. *big hugs* I hope he sees the error of his ways after being arrested. Maybe it's the jolt he needs.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
posted by
Jemmie211
on February 23, 2005 at 4:47 AM
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THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND SUPPORT!
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 23, 2005 at 3:22 AM
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Symphony, you did the right thing
no matter how he tries to make you feelguilty, he is the abuser and you have to do what is best for you and your kids. My thoughts are with you
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on February 22, 2005 at 9:46 PM
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Symphony
You're not alone, even though it feels like it. That's good you'll have some support. Maybe someone could come and stay with you until you feel safe again. My thoughts are with you, take care
posted by
ladyofshalott
on February 22, 2005 at 7:44 PM
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You are not alone
every one here will have you in their thoughts and prayers. Don't blame yourself for any of this. It is all his doing when he allowed the alcohol to take over.
posted by
Moondawg
on February 22, 2005 at 2:06 PM
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Oh, Symphony. I'm so sorry.
What a jerk he is. Please take care, be careful, will yah?
posted by
Oceandancer
on February 22, 2005 at 10:54 AM
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Symphony, I'm sorry for all your troubles...I hope now that he's arrested
you'll have some peace.
posted by
Ariala
on February 22, 2005 at 10:46 AM
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Thinking about you
posted by
TheBattler
on February 22, 2005 at 10:43 AM
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Symphony!
Are you okay? PLEASE Don't think of your self in anything but a positive light. Look at that beautiful photograph of you...You are an absolute angel. Really...! The world is a horrible place especially for angels. It is so unfair. But we have to hold on and be strong. This is what helps me. Thinking about people like you. My life has been one hellacious blow after another. Can you imagine? A little girl (me) being sexually abused for 5 years of my life and no one could help me? God Awful! So sad this world...hold tight symphony... my love and highest heart are with you and the same is true for everyone here I am sure...
posted by
mysteria
on February 22, 2005 at 10:30 AM
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Hey, where are you???
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on February 22, 2005 at 10:13 AM
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Symphony...
Your ex-husband has done this to himself. You must remember that! You are a wonderful person, who's done absolutely nothing to deserve the treatment this monster constantly doles out to you and your innocent children.
Is there anything the authorities can do to make certain he does not come back? I've only been to England once, but I know the laws are different there. Would you consider going to stay with your mum or cousin for a few days? I'm horrified for you to be alone with the children!
If you can, please accept my messenger invitation. I have to go offline for a little while, but I'd really like to talk to you. Please try to get some rest...Stay strong for yourself and for your beautiful children.
God bless you, Maxine...Remember, you are His child...He is with you always. I will pray for you.
God bless.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on February 22, 2005 at 9:55 AM
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Symphony,
Poor you...take care of yourself and the kids...
posted by
MiaElla
on February 22, 2005 at 9:50 AM
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you don't deserve what he did
and he doesn't deserve your sympathy
posted by
homegirl
on February 22, 2005 at 6:46 AM
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Symph...
Hope you're doing ok. I sent an email in regards to this and to answer yours. Talk to you later!
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on February 22, 2005 at 6:09 AM
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I'm so sorry for your troubles symphony. I think you have made enormous
improvement as a writer in the last year. Keep that up at least. I hope the authorities help protect you from your ex. Take care.
posted by
SlyCy
on February 22, 2005 at 5:23 AM
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:::hug:::
posted by
roofpig
on February 22, 2005 at 5:12 AM
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Symphony
Do not for one minute feel guilty for what you did. Why should you be the one to take all that sort of junk? I am sorry he is that way, but he is and you will have to be strong. You are raising those children and loving them you are a good person, do not help him beat up on you. I will pray for you.
posted by
Justi
on February 22, 2005 at 4:29 AM
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Maxine,
You poor dear!
You haven't done anything at all wrong, sweetie. Your ex-husband is obviously disturbed in the head.
I'm glad to hear that you have the domestic violence team on your side. I'm surprised they are only now getting involved! Use every resource they have to offer you. You're going to need it for your own protection and that of your children. Don't be ashamed - you did nothing wrong!
Your friends here are on your side. Lean on us as much as you need to. It'll be okay, I promise.
posted by
myrrhage_
on February 21, 2005 at 10:35 PM
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You hang in there tough Symphony. You did the right thing. Now there is a record of whats going down. Somebody gotta beat the crap out of your ex. Maybe, its not the right thing to do but I wonder if it would change him, if for once, he was the scared one.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on February 21, 2005 at 10:30 PM
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Symph--You be as strong as you can, honey. My father was this way--
only my mother never bothered to call the cops. You did the right thing and one day your kids will thank you for it. I'll pray for you and your family--let's hope God is open this late : ). Take care.
posted by
Renigade
on February 21, 2005 at 10:17 PM
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Symphony..HIS life is a big horrid mess!! You did the right thing for you and your children. You are doing what you have to do to get through this. YOU are not alone..Please let the people around you minister to you in this horrible time. You know in your heart that you are loved and your character through this will help your children. Lots of love.
posted by
MsOC
on February 21, 2005 at 10:03 PM
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SYMPHONY, what an awful thing for you to go through. Sometimes it seems like things that are bad will never end. I hope he comes to his senses one of these days and realizes what he is doing to those precious by traumatizing you.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 21, 2005 at 9:21 PM
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don't hate your life sweetheart!
it's
NOT ABOUT YOU!! I know it's tough to understand or accept it. He's the one with the problem. YOu are just caught in the cross fire. I know. I went through this a few years ago. I am slowly writing about it in my "the way life used to be" blog. I'll email you directly with my experience if you like. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. And here in CA. All forms of domestic abuse is illegal. It's a vicious cycle. And for some reason, we are built with the "why me" syndrome. But it's not our fault. You did nothing to deserve it. It's not even about you. He's just projecting on you, trying to get you to feel as bad as he does, to make himself feel better.. Cowards, they are.. those who prey on the innocent.
posted by
daisysface
on February 21, 2005 at 9:18 PM
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No mess. The mess had left ages ago. You are the new, strong, single mom. Don't let an incident get to you.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on February 21, 2005 at 9:08 PM
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OK--UK. I thought it was U.S.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 21, 2005 at 8:54 PM
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Whammy....where does she live?
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 21, 2005 at 8:48 PM
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JJ,
Their laws and our laws are very different! Their police do not even carry guns. DV became a crime on the books here around 1978, and now it is taken very seriously.
ALL abusers seem to act upon the same basic handook.
All of our Domestics, at least here, are either a Priority 1 or 2, which requires a 10 minute or less arrival time, and cannot be disregarded, even if the caller calls back.
And, to JJ and everyone else, a Restraining Order really and truly is just a piece of paper, not a force field.
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on February 21, 2005 at 8:43 PM
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symph,
I'm sorry this happened. Didn't someone tell you to get a restraining order? The police would have been there much more quickly and you would have had much less problem.
JJ
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 21, 2005 at 8:25 PM
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SYMPHONY
Don't you dare feel badly for what you did FOR him luv.
You did exactly the right thing and as an ex drunk I KNOW what I am talking about.
Trust me luv-one day he will either thank you-or stay the hell out of your life-but do not stop taking action whatever you do hear me? You may have to do it again so run it through your head and then take the action
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 21, 2005 at 8:20 PM
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Max,
Your laws sound very different from our laws.
But at least the asshole was arrested! I am sorry, Honey!
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on February 21, 2005 at 8:19 PM
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Oh God Symphony...
..I'm so sorry you've had such trauma...how horrible!
Wishing you all the best Symph..sorry..I know that sounds weak but I am rooting for you.
posted by
ginnieb
on February 21, 2005 at 8:15 PM
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How horrible and unfair. Be strong Symphony, he sounds cruel and mentally unwell. I know your sense of peace and well being is shattered; hoping and praying the authorities help you and your children regain it. You are a great person and wonderful mother who doesn't deserve this - life is such a bummer sometimes. Remember, your friends at Blogit are always here for you. Take care!
posted by
Katray2
on February 21, 2005 at 7:57 PM
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Symphony,
Poor dear...this will pass and when it does, you will still have your kids and you do deserve them for you are a good mother!!!!
posted by
Original_Influence
on February 21, 2005 at 7:38 PM
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