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sassy,
nor I!
posted by
Julia.
on November 5, 2004 at 8:41 AM
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I have always found
that we are our own worst critics, and I am no exception to this rule.
posted by
Sherri_G
on November 5, 2004 at 8:37 AM
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Jemmie,
I sure hope so. Here is an affirmation to help: " I AM the person I want to be, right now, today."
posted by
Julia.
on November 5, 2004 at 8:37 AM
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spitfire,
nor physical
imperfections, as the case may be. And what's outside does not reveal what's inside.
posted by
Julia.
on November 5, 2004 at 8:34 AM
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Hollee,
back away from that mirror before you crack it!
posted by
Julia.
on November 5, 2004 at 8:31 AM
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IR,
I appreciate your thoughtful comments.
(never mind that Hollee!!).
posted by
Julia.
on November 5, 2004 at 8:30 AM
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I used to hate looking in the mirror
I remember in college that I'd look in the mirror and I honestly did not recognize the face looking back at me. I'd sit there forever trying to figure out who this young woman was staring back at me. It scared me to death!
Today I recognize the face, but I'm still not always sure who she is. I tend to do a lot of soul searching these days, so I find something new about the person each day, but it's a long and slow process.
I often find the woman looking back at me ugly and unrefined.
Maybe someday I will find her to be the person I've always wanted her to be.
posted by
Jemmie211
on November 5, 2004 at 12:34 AM
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Q-A, being raised as a dancer and gymnast from age 3 takes a toll
on one's self image; for we are still forming our personality during that time. I was trained in the mindset that looks and grace was key if I wanted to "make it" in the world. Nowadays, after being forced to quit those arts and dreams due to multiple injuries, I still am way too hard on myself even if I have a little pimple. I know it's not the real "me" but one can't help feel that stab for the rest of life. At least I feel my soul is evolved enough to know (on the inside) that it's not always my looks or physical perfections that really matter or make up who I really am.
posted by
SpitFire70
on November 5, 2004 at 12:15 AM
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Oh, okay then, no worries
posted by
InherentRights
on November 4, 2004 at 9:16 PM
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I was spitting at you..................
posted by
Hollee
on November 4, 2004 at 9:15 PM
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Whoa Hollee, back that tongue up!
Don't you be stickin no wraithlike animated smiley tongue at me! Uh-uh!
posted by
InherentRights
on November 4, 2004 at 9:13 PM
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Inherent
posted by
Hollee
on November 4, 2004 at 9:10 PM
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Well then Hollee
My job here is done
posted by
InherentRights
on November 4, 2004 at 9:03 PM
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And again Inherent - WHAT?
Sorry Quirky - that brainiac kid gives me cramps.
xo Inherent - hehe
posted by
Hollee
on November 4, 2004 at 8:58 PM
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Okay Quirky - have been looking at myself all day - can I stop now? My eyes
are bleeding.
posted by
Hollee
on November 4, 2004 at 8:57 PM
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Great post Quirky..
it should be done daily I think.
posted by
A_Norseman
on November 4, 2004 at 8:56 PM
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beachbelle, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 8:50 PM
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ariala,
so true about the reflection appearing in your writing and art. It's there whether we want to see it or not, so it's much better to look, imo.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 8:49 PM
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Quirky, great post!
I think you're right, many people hide their "mirrors". I hid from myself too for a long time, whether from a concerted effort to avoid the truth or from a subconcious desire to leave it beyond consideration, I am uncertain. I've spent many hard years forcing myself to look in that mirror and accept what I see there - not resign to it by any means, but to see it, to understand it, and to care about it enough to start to make of it what I wish.
I think there are two mirrors that need constant attention. Who we are - which, as you have said, means accepting what we are right now and not in some vague future, and being able to care about that person adn so have self-esteem - and who we want to be, which means: what we would choose ourselves to become in an ideal world. I have found that one of the hardest things in life is to care about something, deeply and without reservation, and to follow through with what it requires; to hold a value so passionately that nothing can sway you, and that you stay focused on.
I'm still working on both of those.
posted by
InherentRights
on November 4, 2004 at 8:11 PM
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but of course I am always making improvements too
posted by
beachbelle
on November 4, 2004 at 8:08 PM
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I look just great..................;-)
No really I am doing OK
posted by
beachbelle
on November 4, 2004 at 8:07 PM
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I've been doing a lot of self examination lately and I'm not too
happy with what I see at times...I could destroy the mirror, but the reflection appears in my writing, my art and my life, so I can't escape myself. Therefore, I am trying to make peace with myself day by day. Good post.
posted by
Ariala
on November 4, 2004 at 8:07 PM
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loan lady,
actually, my personal belief is that it is self love first, which then begets acceptance. But I guess it could work the other way as well.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 11:19 AM
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I am very hard on myself. It's not the physical appearance that I work on, though maybe I ought to do that as well. Acceptance of what you can't change- Holle made that observant comment- acceptance and then self love.
posted by
the-loanlady
on November 4, 2004 at 10:57 AM
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mary x,
absolutely, I agree with you 100%. You've learned some very important things. Some people go their whole lives without realizations like that.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:55 AM
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I think the two are inextricably linked. I didn't start accepting my mother and others until I took a hard look at myself, the role I played in our drama and, ironcially, the hardest thing is forgiving myself.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:53 AM
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mary x,
thanks. I see through typos to the wisdom underneath. What you said is absolutely true, and I would add, ...that those three things are also the key to not judging ourselves.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:51 AM
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Hollee.
I'm still working on that, too. Lifelong project, hehe. Well, a girls gotta have something to occupy her time.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:48 AM
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MiaElla,
And so, how much can you see in the dark?
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:47 AM
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Melody,
very good observation.
posted by
Julia.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:47 AM
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And typing without typos that's another thing I need to learn.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:42 AM
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Quirky,
I think self-acceptanc, love and awarness may be the first step to not judging others. A hard lesson it has taken me a while to learn. Beautifully said.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 4, 2004 at 10:42 AM
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Quirkaroni - learned a few years back, via therapy I admit, to look at
the true me and change what I didn't like - or, if I couldn't, accept myself. Learning to love myself? Still working on it.
posted by
Hollee
on November 4, 2004 at 10:40 AM
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Quirky,
I always look into the mirror, just never with the light on.
posted by
MiaElla
on November 4, 2004 at 9:59 AM
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Sometime I am afraid of what I have done to my life and other times I realize it brought me to the place I am now.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 4, 2004 at 9:55 AM
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