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- Go to IT BREAKS MY HEART..............TOO MUCH GUILT......HURTS LIKE HELL........
jamryn
thank you ever so much. reading and coometing and sharing and.................for your wonderful advice..........thats a brilliant idea about the picture and so on..............thank you so much for everything...........have a lovely weekend..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 7:24 AM
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I agree with ca88andra ... Children remember a lot. Don't lie to them. They also understand a lot more than we think they do at that age. Answer their questions as simpely as you can. Tell them that they have two parents that love them. Explain ( in simple terms) that it's not ok for people to be hurtful toward one another. That the problem is between Daddy and mommie - not them. Tell them that daddy needs to work out some problems of his own and as soon as he can he will be around to see them. Maybe they can draw him some pictures and or dictate a note that you can send to his mother - for him. Be firm and include ( in a positive way ) what behaviors that you will and will not tolerate. You've got 10 to 12 more years for the both of you to rase these children. Children are very resorceful and will know who has there best intrest at heart. It won't be easy but you know where to go for support. We're on your side.
posted by
jamryn
on August 13, 2004 at 7:20 AM
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Symphony - anytime... and...good luck!
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 13, 2004 at 3:40 AM
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Ca88andra
thank you so much for taking your time out to read and comment me and share with me.......you are wonderful, I think this part is harder than the splitting up...........I will think of something but your first lines of how to start has helped me a great deal..........thank you so much.......take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 3:37 AM
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Symphony - my youngest son was 7 when I separated from his father. I have always been honest with them and what I told them was that sometimes people have problems and have to get away from each other. I said sometimes people can work through their problems and sometimes they can't. But that no matter what happened, they would always have two parents who loved them. Now, the last bit might not work in your case, but I'm sure you can sort out your own words. Just remember, children are worse than elephants - they remember every word you ever say to them! Five years later, I'm still in awe of just how much my youngest son has remembered about that time and what I said to him.
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 13, 2004 at 3:04 AM
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Laughlines
thank you so much for your wonderful comment..............you are so kind
what would I do without you all
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:15 AM
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Original_Influence
I hope so..................thank you
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:14 AM
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Quirkyalone
thank you ever so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:14 AM
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Gheeghee
thank you...................I am trying.................
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:13 AM
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tbgroucho
they certainly are hard questions................especially when I don't know the answers..........
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:13 AM
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man-boy
thank you so much................sweet heart
.................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 13, 2004 at 2:12 AM
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Symphony,
You had the courage to leave. And I know you'll get through this next phase of your life, too. You are very brave, and I admire you so much. As always, I'll be praying for you.
posted by
Laughlines
on August 12, 2004 at 8:27 PM
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Symphony,
Ah, hang in there...time will bring clearer thoughts.
posted by
Original_Influence
on August 12, 2004 at 7:03 PM
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symphony,
What Whammie said. And hang in there, this too shall pass, and you will get through it.
posted by
Julia.
on August 12, 2004 at 6:43 PM
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that is a toughy, girlie...they are pretty smart though....
hang in there, mama~ Love, Gina
posted by
Gheeghee
on August 12, 2004 at 6:26 PM
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symphony
the hard questions.... tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on August 12, 2004 at 4:42 PM
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I second Whammie's points !!!!
R.E.S.P.E.C.T
posted by
man-boy
on August 12, 2004 at 4:38 PM
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man-boy
thank you.......................good night...................
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:38 PM
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..........................catch up with you tomorrow.................
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:37 PM
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I'm listening...
and keeping good thoughts for you.
posted by
man-boy
on August 12, 2004 at 4:36 PM
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WHAMENATOR
yeah thats a good point...............thank you.................I would hate her take the shit I have...............thank you
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:34 PM
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Symphony,
Get some rest little sister and sweet dreams. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 4:33 PM
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On the other hand, you are setting a good example by teaching her not to
accept and tolerate abuse, something she may not recognize until many years to come. But you are planting a seed of self-respect!!!!
It hurts now, but in the long run it is a good thing.
Hang in there, Dear!!!!!
Whammie
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on August 12, 2004 at 4:31 PM
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myddrin sorry shadow
you sound a lot happier though...............I am ok.......................I am going to bed soon though..........very late here...................enjoy the rest of your day...................and give purr a kiss from me
take care and good night
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:27 PM
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Symphony,
Hey, I'm doing good, and Purr is trying to adjust. I'm homesick for some green grass and shade trees. And, I don't care about the hurricane that's fixing to hit, but life is proceeding. How's it going with you? shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 4:24 PM
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shadow
wow
good luck
hope everything is ok.......................and be careful..................look after yourself and purr...........all the best take care
I am here for you
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:18 PM
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Symphony,
I'm doing pretty good. Not crazy about having a hurricane coming toward me, but, that's Florida for you. Basically I'm waiting on my lawyer to get the ball rolling on this suit I have going. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 4:11 PM
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thanks shadow
how are you?
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:08 PM
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Symphony,
O.K. glad to help. Oh, by the way you can call me Shadow you know. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 4:07 PM
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myddrin
it made me think indeed
thanks
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 4:05 PM
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Symphony,
Your are more than welcomed. Just hope the words were my right choice there to give you some help. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 4:01 PM
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myddrin
thank you for putting that straight to me....................I needed that....................thank you.......take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 3:35 PM
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Symphony,
Feelings flop because you are a compassionate person and you were reacting to the confusion of your daughter. You know how much she misses her daddy and you don't know what to say to her right now. Tell you the truth I wouldn't know what to say to her right now with this situation. Its a damn if you do and a damn if you don't. love shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 3:24 PM
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Melodystar
thank you so much....................I have millions of friends here...............thats why I always turn to you guys when I am in need.......................thank you so much for everything...............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 3:22 PM
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EccentricShock
thank you so much....................I know that you can relate to me
yes thats a great idea....................I must get out a lot more..............just because I am home now......does not mean I have to be a recluse again....................thank you
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 3:20 PM
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myddrin
thank you so much for your lovely comment.................after I felt I was doing so well..............why does feelings have to flop....................
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 3:19 PM
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scriber
decisions decisions..................its all too hard
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 3:18 PM
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Sometimes those feeling overwhelm us. You are strong, smart and beautiful and you have lots of friends here. If you need us we will be here for you. I know you will get through this with flying colors! Take care and many hugs to you.
posted by
Melodystar
on August 12, 2004 at 3:11 PM
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symphony
It is probably the hardest part. my daughter drew a pic at daycare and I asked who it was and she said :daddy;( I didn't say much but I was quite surprised because she was 2 when he left, which I am grateful for because it does get harder the older they are. She also thought he was at work.
Wish I could give you advice....Go out a lot, even if just to the park or McDonalds (?) ... anything. Structure and good time management, keep smoking
take care maxine. I am here!! xoxo
posted by
EccentricShock
on August 12, 2004 at 3:10 PM
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Symphony,
We are all here for you whenever you need us to listen. You know we all love you and as mentioned by devon you are not alone as they are many who feel confused and angry and hurt that are in the same situation. Takes time to bounce back, and with the little ones, it just makes the emotions that much more stronger. shadow
posted by
Keshet
on August 12, 2004 at 3:05 PM
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Symp--there will be more decisions to make...love scriber
posted by
scriber
on August 12, 2004 at 3:01 PM
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hugz_n_kisses
you are so very kind to me, I am so glad I have you and everyone else.................you all mean so much to me
.....................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 2:59 PM
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devon_
thank you so much for your wonderful comment................you are so kind...........thank you for listening, and commenting.............you are great...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 12, 2004 at 2:58 PM
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dear symphony, feeling so good is wonderful and im so happy you enjoyed it, i really am, and now, a feeling perhaps changed, we're here for you, you deserve to be cherished and supported, so whenever you feel lonely please come here to write, you're never going to be lonely because we all appreciate each and every human feeling, you are very loved!
I wish you very sweet dream, lots of hugz 'n kisses
posted by
hugz_n_kisses
on August 12, 2004 at 2:56 PM
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I wish that also....
but don't worry yourself sick symphony... when you feel overwhelmed by pain or sadness just remember that there's a million other people in this world who are feeling somewhat the same things as you. There are people who have ben in your situation and survived, only to be smarter, wiser, and happier than what they were before. Hang in there. You'll look back on this in 5, maybe 10 years and laugh to yourself because everything turned out alright. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, and symphony, I know you will survive!
xxdevon
posted by
-BlueRoses
on August 12, 2004 at 2:52 PM
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