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StrickGold
thank you........take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 14, 2004 at 1:20 AM | link to this | reply

ThomasFranklin
thank you for reading and commenting..........take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 14, 2004 at 1:20 AM | link to this | reply

Without trust
there really is no friendship.  A friend will keep a secret especially when your safety is of concern

posted by StrickGold on July 13, 2004 at 7:43 PM | link to this | reply

It hurts at first, to say good by, but remember the good things and quietly leave.

posted by ThomasFranklin on July 13, 2004 at 7:19 PM | link to this | reply

AngieK
thank you very much you are right..........take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 12:04 PM | link to this | reply

When the safety of your child and yourself are at stake,
trust no one.  If she hasn't proven herself worthy of your trust after all of these years, there is no reason for you to risk the consequences of poor judgement.  Just my opinion.  Stay safe Symphony 

posted by Flumpystalls3000 on July 13, 2004 at 11:11 AM | link to this | reply

tremacc
thank you so much tremacc you are so right,because I have given up a lot of friends because of her, and gave up quite a lot of other things too, she always gossips about me too, and puts me down constantly, so why was I her friend I have no answer only that we go a long way back and I hold on to memories that are long gone. thank you so much for commenting and sharing and given me the best advice ever, it really means alot to me, I am so glad I got you guys, ..............I must let her go for good........................an end of an era or something like that lol

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 11:00 AM | link to this | reply

Oh, I had a friend like that.   I was the center of some vicious,  nasty gossip that was not true and I couldn't figure out where it was coming from or why it was happening to me.   Whenever other people tried to befriend me, my "best" friend would tell me unkind things about these people and told me that I should stay away from them,  and told me they were only trying to split us up as friends and keep us apart.    Because we were friends for 12 years and because she was about five years older,  I believed her.   As it turns out, the rumor spreader was her and those people really wanted to be close to me!   They wanted to tell me, but they knew that I would go straight to her and she would put her own spin on things.    The reason I know it's true now is because it happened way too often.   I was just in denial.   I lost a lot of would-be-friends because I believed they weren't sincere, but really she was the one who wasn't sincere.     The so-called best friend.    Let her go.  She has some issues that you can't work around as much as you want to and she will only hurt you again.    It stems from a type of  twisted resentment and jealousy that you will never comprehend and do not need.   There's something that you have that she wants that you don't even realize that you have that exists only in her mind.   It may be about your family or something else.   Anyway, it's  not worth it.   Let her go.

posted by Tremac on July 13, 2004 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply

myddrin
thank you so much, it seems that you can really relate, it sounds so simular it is scary, although I did keep talking to her throughout everything like the idiot I am, and now I suppose I am caught in her web, that I am going to get myself out of, I hate the way she has behaved in the past, yet I forgive her eachtime,  but not this time, there is only so much someone can take.........thank you so much

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 6:00 AM | link to this | reply

Symphony,

I had the sweetest and best friend I could find in the world. We were like sisters, so close. Last year she stood encouraging and watching her boyfriend beat me for touching his newspaper. He constantly beats her and she allows it because she thinks it is right. I've only talked to her one time since then and that was to tell her I was having surgery. She seemed happy to talk to me at the time, but never made contact again after she promised to come to hospital to be with me. I can't always understand why people act as they do. What drives a person to be cruel, cold, and callus? I feel for you so much and it scares me that you have to deal with this kind of behavior at all. You sure as hell don't deserve this. love shadow 

posted by Keshet on July 13, 2004 at 5:56 AM | link to this | reply

Original_Influence

thank you so much for taking the softer approach lol............I really do know I have to leave her behind, but I feel so bad, and I really don't understand why, because I owe her nothing.......but I am going to do this..I must

thank you take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 5:41 AM | link to this | reply

Symphony,
I feel so badly for you...I can see that you already know what you need to do-and beachbelle put it so clearly...but I know also that it is difficult...you are strong though and that will get you thru. Take care of yourself darling!

posted by Original_Influence on July 13, 2004 at 5:36 AM | link to this | reply

beachbelle
I know you are so right..............I am annoyed with myself for putting up with her for so long...I cant understand the hold............thanks take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 5:14 AM | link to this | reply

Cut the ties that bind you.
With friends like her who needs enemies

posted by beachbelle on July 13, 2004 at 5:10 AM | link to this | reply

Ca88andra
thank you, it looks like I am going to do just that...............this is going to be a real challenge, but I will do it.......argh

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 5:06 AM | link to this | reply

Get rid of her - if not for you then for your daughters.

posted by Ca88andra on July 13, 2004 at 5:04 AM | link to this | reply

inkwell
thank you so much for your commenting and advice, thank you for reading, you are wonderful, take care

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 5:03 AM | link to this | reply

By admitting the evil she has done to you; the harm she has caused you, it might help in cutting her loose...  God's protection on your life.  I know what it's like to be a crime victim.  Be careful, but don't live in fear... if at all possible.  Prayers are with you. 

posted by cmoe on July 13, 2004 at 5:00 AM | link to this | reply

PoeticDewdrop

thank you so much for commenting and relating..........I so want to cut her out my life, I really do, but how do I stand strong and not let her talk me round........she is so good at that, and I am so a ware of it..yet I let her do it............I need to get firm, I do not want her in my life any more...............I mean that but I feel so guilty

argh

posted by _Symphony_ on July 13, 2004 at 4:11 AM | link to this | reply

Cut her the FK out of your life NOW

I've had friends like that... and I look back and wonder why I didn't ditch them at the first sign of trouble. I know the type, though fortunately it has never gotten so bad for me as it is for u. U should tell her that 'someone' must have told where u live and now u have to move to a city .. pick the city-- *shrug

U need her to think u live somewhere else now

And then cut her off...

PLEASE

posted by JustJilly on July 13, 2004 at 4:09 AM | link to this | reply