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Marriage therapy / counselling may help. Or get used to the idea that men do not help out in a marriage. Try to work it out. Are you that mad at him to contemplate a separation / divorce? You'll have to start all over again with dating & etc. Can you survive financially without his income? How much can you get from alimony / child support? What assurance is there that he won't abscond from making regular payments?
There are all sorts of irresponsible men. Which is the worst evil? There are many awful stories to tell about others but I hate to digress.
Turning away from this marriage is not the solution yet. Not until you've exhausted all revenues of hope.
Think long and hard.
God bless.
posted by
mariantonia
on June 28, 2004 at 2:39 AM
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hmmmm...beer and pub?
Symphony...sounds like the beer and the pub are a problem. Is he drinking while he watches football?
posted by
ksurah
on June 27, 2004 at 9:41 PM
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I sorry I don't have any advice to give you. My relationship never lasted past two weeks let a lone resulted in marriage. Hang in there.
posted by
Shavonne
on June 26, 2004 at 9:52 PM
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kraken
thank you ...................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 1:50 PM
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Talk therapy is effective...and cheap.
posted by
Engram
on June 26, 2004 at 1:43 PM
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tbgroucho
thank you very much...you are very kind to offer your concern, my children are 5 years old and 1 years old.
we have forgot what it was like to be a couple...............I will try and get a babysitter..even if it is for a couple of hours, because we never have time for ourselfs, he always to busy at the pub, or watching TV and drinking beer, thats why he bought me a computer to stop me moaning that im bored.
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 1:22 PM
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maxine --
how old are the children? shadow's babysitter suggestion is very good. You forget that you were once a couple. Dates help to remind you of that. It's not easy for me, either, and you're much younger than us with kids about the same age as ours if I'm correct. No promises of what can happen but you just have to see.
tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on June 26, 2004 at 1:15 PM
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Symphony,
If there's the will, then there's the way. love shadow
posted by
Keshet
on June 26, 2004 at 1:08 PM
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myddrin
thank you that does make perfect sense it really does..........I would love to get a babysitter and do that, but it is pretty hard................but thank you all the same..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 1:06 PM
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scriber
thanks scriber...............I have not forgotten...............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 12:50 PM
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Symphony,
How about this. Find out if you can let the kids stay with a trusted person for a few days and you two spend some time away from the house. Things have been pretty hectic for what the last month now. You both need private time with each other and really air out the differences. Doesn't have to be expensive to talk, probably cheaper in the long run. You've been under a lot lately and I imagine so has he about all this, but just like a typical man is being closed mouth and defensive. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
on June 26, 2004 at 12:50 PM
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Symphony--remember what I said about being cheerful, sexy and intelligent
acting; and eventually you'll have that sucker begging for more symphony, as I do.
posted by
scriber
on June 26, 2004 at 12:41 PM
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scriber
thank you ever so much, you are so kind......I just don't know what to do...............maybe I should do what I always do and thats carry on day after day like there is nothing wrong...............thanks take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 12:38 PM
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archiew
thank you so much for your advice...I have asked him about councelling for us, but he just laughed and said....we are ok....he knows how I feel I wrote him a letter but he don't listen..........thanks anyway take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 26, 2004 at 12:36 PM
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symphony--you write from deep emotions and are never boring in my
experience; as for your problem; try to think of the good things as well as his poor qualities; later, after deliberation on a possible future without him, then would be time to began a plan to that effect. love you, scriber
posted by
scriber
on June 26, 2004 at 12:33 PM
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Talking sometimes helps . . .
Does he know how you feel? Does he communicate his feelings back to you as you express yours?
Is he open to counseling, either professional from a therapist or from clergy?
Those two things, honest conversation between the two of you and counseling may well save your marriage. But, in my opinion, if all else fails, a miserable marriagte is worse than no marriage. But first you should try to fix it. Again, this is all my opinion and worth about the cost of the paper this is written on (I know, I know!).
posted by
archiew
on June 26, 2004 at 12:08 PM
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