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I agree with one thing
That's that it wouldn't be a good idea to be indiscriminate in telling your family. What I mean is that maybe your family is so affected by the alcoholism in your mom that they can't handle the idea of it being made public. That's no excuse to avoid doing the book, but a reason to do the book and not worry so much about your family. Your story can help others, a good enough reason to just go ahead and do the book without your family being necessarily aware that you're doing it until it's out there on the market. (I'm always surprised at how my domestic-violence blog has helped others, and my ex-boyfriend has no idea I'm writing it.)
posted by
kidnykid
on June 1, 2004 at 11:41 AM
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Thank you all!
I think I'll do it!
posted by
Jemmie211
on June 1, 2004 at 11:29 AM
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Jemmie
Good for you. Others have sage advice here, so I'm just here for encouragement.
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on June 1, 2004 at 9:59 AM
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Go ahead with the book. Do you have to tell her? Not using pseudonyms? Do it now as the later stages of your life will be busy with other aspects................like starting new family etc
posted by
mariantonia
on May 30, 2004 at 7:13 PM
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Start writing and if yiu feel it's something you want to publish then
let people know. If it ends up as something to use as a healing process then keep it until it helps you with the issues.
posted by
littlemspickles
on May 28, 2004 at 6:45 PM
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jems, if writing to hurt your mom, then don't. If writing to heal yourself,
then do. Either way, don't tell her about it until it has been picked up by a publisher and is about to hit the bookstores. Otherwise, you will get so caught up in the repercussions and recriminations, that you won't have time to write. When people write unauthorized biographies, they only tell the person written about just before finalizing the whole thing, to get their input. You don't need your mom's input, so write on your own. Telling her will just cause her misery. Until the book is in your computer and submitted, it doesn't exist. So, you would just be torturing her with the idea of a book.
Consult Wiley Coyote on this as it's what he has written about and published previously. Let him mentor your ideas.
posted by
benzinha
on May 28, 2004 at 12:34 AM
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I agree with Schatz, let bygones be bygones
posted by
SUGARBABY
on May 28, 2004 at 12:11 AM
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Nah, you don't. You take care of you, and let the chips fall where they may. I don't know how my mom got a hold of it, but apparently she's been peruuuusing my poetry. I nearly bit my tongue off. But, hey, the truth of the matter is I've always taken care of myself, and I will continue to. You'll be better off in the end, right?
GO FOR IT!!
posted by
Schatz
on May 27, 2004 at 10:35 PM
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