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my parents didn't approve of my ex-girlfriend
and it was out in the open. i fought for her but she left me, for other reasons, anyway. it does make life more simple when you have the approval of certain people without having to struggle for it.
posted by
kyle510
on May 11, 2004 at 5:35 AM
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Yeah, it's important.
Moondawg said it!! You want to be liked and like the in-laws. That's a rough one. But, you won't please her, so go on with your bad self.
posted by
EccentricShock
on May 10, 2004 at 10:58 PM
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Schatz,
sounds a little bit that you want that persons appoval not for you well being, but for the well being of your husband and kids. It can really strain relationships when one of the spouses has family that doesn't like or approve of of the other one. I know a woman here who refused to go to her daughters second weding because she was mad a them for living together befor they got married. Now her daughter at the time was in her late 30s. And the woman had done the same thing for several years after her husband had died. The man that married her daughter was so upset because he felt it was his fault. No some people just enjoy cut their noses of to spite their faces and no matter what you do it wont change. But who do you think it hurt the most, the daughter and the man she married or the mother who missed the opportunity to witness an important step in her daughters life. Some people purposefully try to make their own life's miserable then expect everyone eslse to follow their lead.
posted by
Moondawg
on May 10, 2004 at 10:06 PM
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I wish I could give you an answer
I am the same way. I feel the need for the approval of certain people in my life. And when I don't always get this approval, I often feel down on myself.
My boyfriend's dad is an example. He doesn't disapprove of me. He just doesn't really talk to me much. I always thought this was because he didn't like me. I tried and tried to do things I thought he'd like, but to no avail.
When my bf told me that his dad was just the quiet type, I thought he was just trying to make me feel better.
But this past Saturday I saw my bf's dad after not seeing him for months, and he seemed genuinely happy to see me. It made me feel really good--but at the same time it made me feel really stupid for putting so much weight on his liking me in the first place.
posted by
Jemmie211
on May 10, 2004 at 9:51 PM
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