The last I'll say about it...
(I was going to email this, but thought I'd post instead) Policies: Yes, I have a suggestion. Too many people have been banned and baffled. I feel that Whammie did intend to comply with your policies. The problem lies in how vague your warnings are. I understand that you wish to protect he person complaining. I appreciate that also. I also understand that this is a private site and you can ignore us if you wish. However, we do not feel appreciated when you do this, and without us, there would be no Blogit.
In warning someone, rather than just mentioning the post or providing a link to the rules, why can't you specifically state what rule was violated? This is standard procedure in any other organization or institution where privacy is a concern and violations are enforced. You need not mention the specific person that complained. Not to mention, you were not clear with Whammie (from my perspective) that she could not remove the offending material and repost the post.
The reason this happens each time someone is banned, or most times, is because we don't understand your reasoning. If we don't understand it, we cannot avoid it. It feels all very "big brother" to us. She made an honest mistake. I don't know the blogger to which she referred because she never mentioned his name (and I have emailed her privately). Additionally, the rules do not state what she says in her private email is subject to your rules as well. In fact, it cannot legally be a reason to ban her from the network.
We want you to be clearer. We want warnings to be more specific so we CAN avoid being banned. We want you to stop responding to us like robots and act like humans. You used to do that. People have left over this issue, as they do when people are banned. This is a great space, and I have enjoyed it here. My writing has improved, I've made friends, even met my boyfriend who lives relatively close to me. But, I will leave also if it continues to be a tone of "big brother" just has the final say.
I make every attempt to be thoughtful and considerate in my communications here, with you and everyone else. Like others, I occasionally fail. My biggest concern is that your lack of warmth and concern for the people that make up your successful network and our honest desire to understand and follow your rules will ultimately ruin the experience for us here.
Please, be more specific in warnings. Allow for mistakes. And, follow your own advise when dealing with us....we are people, not computers. Whammie deserves an honest mistake, a second chance. She was not a habitual offender before, it was just recently that something happened (I know this because she posted when she got warned). Thanks for listening. Please do not post a link to the rules in response. I took time and effort in writing this. If you cannot do the same, ignore me altogether.