You can only change yourself
Life is what it is, you cannot change it; but you can always change yourself. Bowl of Saki, August 4, by Hazrat Inayat Khan Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan: In Sufi terms the crushing of the ego is called Nafs Kushi. And how do we crush it? We crush it by sometimes taking ourselves to task. When the self says, 'O no, I must not be treated like this,' then we say, 'What does it matter?' When the self says, 'He ought to have done this, she ought to have said that,' we say, 'What does it... Sign in to see full entry.