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Re: FSI
Sometimes I suspect people are just looking for an opening to talk about their feelings and situation.
posted by
Ciel
on April 22, 2019 at 9:03 AM
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Re: RPresta,
Yes, I have to agree that sometimes one has to determine more of the situation before jumping in with accusations or assumptions. The problem with 'why' questions is that they are terribly open-ended. Close-ended questions ask for specifics, and steer the conversation. Instead of Why...? one could ask, What were you thinking? or What were you feeling?
posted by
Ciel
on April 22, 2019 at 9:02 AM
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I thought about this for a long time. It seems at times one should first consider asking questions that set the stage or lay the groundwork for the "real" question for which we wish to know the answer. An example could be to not jump right in with, say, an accusatory question, such as Why did you do this or that? but to first establish if indeed the person was even present to have participated in whatever it was we want to know about in the first place. By choosing this method of asking, I have sometimes saved myself embarrassment or cleared up misunderstandings. And it worked well when my children were small also.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on April 19, 2019 at 1:52 PM
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Often, when people are asked how they're doing, they'll go into why they feel the way they do without answering the direct question.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 18, 2019 at 6:17 AM
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I have several. 
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on April 17, 2019 at 12:35 PM
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