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Re: adnohr,
I always think of you when I think of pets and loving them, and losing them. I don't know how you hold up, except... really, I do! But it is so, so hard to be the one who seems to have been chosen to help them find their way to the Bridge!
posted by
Ciel
on February 21, 2015 at 6:05 AM
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I still miss each and every pet I have had, and each and every person who was dear to me but has moved on. When it's recent, I remember them with tears. After a bit, I remember them with smiles. A warm hug to you, Ciel.
posted by
adnohr
on February 20, 2015 at 7:29 PM
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Re: CCT,
I agree, it is healthy pain, to grieve for a lost loved one, part of being wholly human. And, yes, it's also healthy to find our ways to let it go. In a previous comment, you said that we are really grieving for ourselves, and that is also true: we got left behind someone else's journey, and that is very hard for some of us; our happiness was greater in their company, and we have lost that. Spirit may know that it isn't forever, but as a human being, emphasis on the 'human,' death is a real and permanent loss. I think we have pets to love, practicing for harder seperations.
posted by
Ciel
on February 20, 2015 at 4:05 AM
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Yes at times we do wish we could go fast forward away from memories that haunt us.
Perhaps this pain is somehow therapeutic . Love for a pet or anyone for that matter has to be dealt with or one would be in a perpetual state of grief..I try not to love too deeply sounds callous perhaps, but folk have different ways of dealing with things,
posted by
C_C_T
on February 20, 2015 at 12:25 AM
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Re: Annicita,
I did notice there was one floor given over to books... the real ones, where you turn pages with your fingers!
posted by
Ciel
on February 19, 2015 at 5:21 PM
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Re: Krisles, thanks--
I appreciate your caring, and I understand that dread. Soak in the good times, the funny and warm and loving moments, because the stronger they are, the sooner they drown out the loss and sadness of the memories of last days.
posted by
Ciel
on February 19, 2015 at 5:20 PM
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the libraries of today have drastically changed since I was a child. No more index racks that take up one or more walls, less magazines, less books...now there is a teen lounge, meeting rooms, recurring events, movie night, computer rooms, puppets, games, movie and games to borrow
posted by
Annicita
on February 19, 2015 at 4:18 PM
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That sounds like a great library to visit. To the best of my knowledge, there are no such libraries near me.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 19, 2015 at 4:09 PM
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Ciel
I have been catching up, reading about your loss...I am so very sorry. I tell myself not to, but I have already started dreading the day Bliss leaves me as my heart will break. It is the price we must pay for all the love we soak in, and return, during their dear short lives - and it is worth every tear.
posted by
Krisles
on February 19, 2015 at 3:49 PM
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it is true, one does eventually remember better days. It took me years to be able to think of the Mother I had when I was young. In my twenties she was my best friend...before Alzheimer disease took her from me. and I could not get those pictures from my mind.
posted by
Kabu
on February 19, 2015 at 3:17 PM
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Obviously, the wound is still fresh, and the pain of absence lingers. But going to that library and experiencing what sounds like a fantastic view ( besides the ones you've told us about from your home ) may help a little. Give it time . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on February 19, 2015 at 2:03 PM
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The library sounds wonderful. Even moreso than most.
posted by
Pat_B
on February 19, 2015 at 1:44 PM
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Ciel
It's sunny here as well, very sunny, but currently at -16C and dropping...And yes, I know it well - those memories will linger, and though they will soften over time, they will probably never lose that tinge of regret...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 19, 2015 at 12:43 PM
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