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Be patient!
If you're going to be sharing your house with this person, I think you're better off without someone so unreliable and inconsiderate. Give it a bit of time and I'm sure you'll find a tenant who's just right for you! 
posted by
Mia890
on June 27, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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I think it was a blessing he didn't show the next day..there is a very good reason for it and I'm thinking you are better off not having him there.
posted by
MsJudy
on June 27, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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look at it this way...if they are late or dont show for their appt consider yourself lucky...they are the same way when it comes to paying the rent and utilities!
posted by
Annicita
on June 26, 2013 at 5:35 PM
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I understand completely. My mantra in life has always been "hope for the best but expect the worse." I would always rather be pleasantly surprised than greatly disappointed! 
posted by
JimmyA
on June 26, 2013 at 1:55 PM
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I do not deal with disappointment well either...The poem well-captures the pain of disappointment.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on June 26, 2013 at 10:42 AM
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Ciel
So sorry for your disappointment, though I'm sure you'll get someone acceptable if you keep trying.
As to your poem - it had me enthralled, and my mind turned away from my small quotidian cares...
posted by
Nautikos
on June 26, 2013 at 7:55 AM
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Re: Pat,
I do interview both over the phone and in person, and have Charlie come over to meet and greet, so they are aware I am not isolated here, exactly. I have printed up a simple rental agreement/receipt which is also a contract. They pay up front and in cash, and we discuss all that is both benefit and drawback about the place. I explain the arrangement as a house-sharing, not a room rental only: they are entitled to full use of the common areas, but also have to keep their bathroom in good order as it is the guest bathroom for any visitors.
The situation here is that neither of them got to the signing/paying stage. And that is the first hazard: the chicken counting bit.
People don't keep promises. People change their minds. Not all... but sometimes it's the one you were counting on. Lesson: no more counting.
That poem was written after about three days of fury and ranting, when Big Bush committed us to war in Iraq. One can only sustain fruitless rage for a while.
posted by
Ciel
on June 26, 2013 at 7:42 AM
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Re: TAPS, don't be sad...
I was down when the first guy didn't show up... but now I am taking encouragement that at least I am getting calls, and sooner or later, someone will actually commit and mean it.
posted by
Ciel
on June 26, 2013 at 7:30 AM
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Re: Dr JPT
No, I'm not giving up, just reminded not to count chickens while their shells are still on.
posted by
Ciel
on June 26, 2013 at 7:24 AM
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Re: CCT,
Heh.. before I got to the end of the comment, I was thinking you meant I should meet someone coming out of the clink, who's sure to be wanting a room!
As to my own criminal past... I'm sure they have forgotten all about that...
posted by
Ciel
on June 26, 2013 at 7:23 AM
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It seems risky to be bringing in guys you don't know to rent a room
but then landladies have been taking in roomers since heck was a pup. Can't you run some kind of credit check/background check on them, maybe have them fill out an application and sign a rental agreement? Maybe I've been watching too much Judge Judy, but those verbal agreements aren't worth the paper they're printed on.
The poem is so apt, an everywoman song of innocence and experience. 
posted by
Pat_B
on June 26, 2013 at 6:12 AM
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It makes me sad to think of you being down in the dumps (disappointed) and a little in need of TLC companionship and the other benefits of sharing your place. You have so much going for you, and so much to offer someone else.
posted by
TAPS.
on June 26, 2013 at 12:18 AM
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Keep trying. Do not give up or in to quickly. Patience.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on June 26, 2013 at 12:18 AM
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Ciel
A well written poem , but come on, you have only just advertised for a house mate. Your applicants did not sound all that reliable. I think I would try the police station or what ever it is called and see if any young policemen or women needed digs. Don't get put in the can though if you are on the wanted list.
posted by
C_C_T
on June 25, 2013 at 11:52 PM
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