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I would tend to see it your way. Maybe he will come around and find something they can both do and enjoy themselves. I have often had a childish streak to have to have things and then find out they were not all that great when something was off about them (like her not going!)
posted by
mariss9
on February 27, 2012 at 12:43 PM
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A wonderful part of this website is the ability to vent, I feel.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 27, 2012 at 10:25 AM
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Ha Ha
I love venting. One of my daughters belongs to AA, she has twenty years already. One can vent alot there, but they are not allowed to vent too long, they must find an answer. Always remember the "answer" is in the problem. I started believing this about 15 years ago, and it is true.
posted by
Amanda6
on February 27, 2012 at 9:03 AM
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wow I can imagine going anywhere for 34 days and turn around and do another couple weeks
posted by
Lanetay
on February 27, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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One would think he would have a little more compassion for her circumstanc
es but alas that is not to be! I could see it if she were unable to make cruises but to not wait until she is well again is just rude! Perhaps she may enjoy the peace and quiet while he is away! sam 
posted by
sam444
on February 27, 2012 at 7:46 AM
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always here for ya
to vent,, Lord I do it often enough!!!
posted by
jesse_jean
on February 27, 2012 at 7:37 AM
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I, too, think that if he does it once, he'll expect to be able to do it again and I don't think that's right. But each one's marriage is different so if they have never had problems in their marriage as I or you have, and they "both" agree to this, then it is their choice. But you can have your own opinion (just can't express it sometimes). From my own experience, selfishness can tear a marriage apart if the other person feels that way but if they don't mind this (in your sister's case,) maybe, there might be some good things that will come out of it ??? It's all in the perspective of the way a person looks at it. You must ask her how she feels and if she has not agreed with his actions, then be there for her when she needs you through calls/emails or visits.
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on February 27, 2012 at 6:48 AM
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I guess you would know better than anyone how she would feel about that, Kabu. Maybe she can find something she would love to do (such as visit her sis in Canada) - she must not feel the martyr!!
posted by
adnohr
on February 27, 2012 at 5:14 AM
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That seems somewhat selfish... I am glad he has a daughter there to keep an eye on him though
posted by
lionreign
on February 27, 2012 at 4:37 AM
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I think your sis is probably like you, a loving and generous soul.
It may give her a good feeling to encourage her hubby to do his own thing. And like Naut said, maybe she enjoys having the house to herself for a while. They'll have a lot to talk about when he returns. :)
posted by
Pat_B
on February 27, 2012 at 4:10 AM
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Hm. Can't resist the cheese. No it does not seem fair Kabu, but what is fair in life. You must look after yourself and Wiley. Perhaps she does not resent this like you would.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 26, 2012 at 11:37 PM
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Kabu
Maybe she's happy that he's out of the house for a while...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 26, 2012 at 8:17 PM
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well if that is the case then she should come visit with you or find something that she loves to do that he doesnt and then she is out enjoying herself too
posted by
Annicita
on February 26, 2012 at 8:09 PM
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