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I grew up an only child with 12 half brothers and sisters who all were just like you Son and his wife. I remember my folks fighting for days after one of their visits, so I know the pain, but I know Wiley too and he will always be there for you.
posted by
UtahJay
on February 21, 2012 at 9:47 PM
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Kabu
I guess the other comments have pretty well covered it, so let me just say that I am very sorry about that situation, and I do hope that some day your Son and DIL will come to their senses...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 21, 2012 at 4:38 PM
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Kabuiepie!!!!!!!
Great blog about an ugly e-mail love, 'Let Go and Let God' is all one can do over some things and people like her. We know that Karma will get to her eventually, I shudder for her.
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 21, 2012 at 3:00 PM
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Kabu
That is so terribly wrong. I am so sorry. Nothing anyone else can say or anything said can hurt so much as your children. This is totally unacceptable. Forgive them for you not for them, then cut them off, even the children because they are only going to hurt you. Do not speak their names. You must forgive them for your sake first. I am so sorry. I wish I could talk to those two! I love you and the most important thing is that Jesus loves you.
posted by
Justi
on February 21, 2012 at 12:42 PM
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It boggles my mind when family can be so malicious. Firstly, what purpose does it serve and secondly even if everyone agrees to disagree why not just get on with life in a more constructive, caring manner. I’m very sorry you were the recipient of their angry ramblings. Hit “delete” the next time an email comes in.
posted by
Troosha
on February 21, 2012 at 10:18 AM
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It's ashame that she sent such a nasty e-mail to you. Hopefully blocking future e-mails will do the trick.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on February 21, 2012 at 9:46 AM
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as a parent and grandparent i know and understand why you try to tolerate it....the thought of losing contact with the grandchildren.....best to just say ty and put a smiley and leave them wondering WTH?
posted by
Annicita
on February 21, 2012 at 8:19 AM
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I hope they are not covering things about themselves in being preachy and rough. I think you are right to block the attacks, and still think of your granchildren. I hope someday they come around.
posted by
mariss9
on February 21, 2012 at 8:02 AM
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You've taken the best decision in the circumstances.
posted by
Straightforward
on February 21, 2012 at 6:44 AM
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oh my I dont know how I could handle that if one of my kids treated me like that
yes just block them and I would do it so they knew you were blocking them.
posted by
Lanetay
on February 21, 2012 at 6:41 AM
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I can imagine how hurtful it is, but as you rightly say, count your blessings, and pray that some day they see sense. God bless.
posted by
Nita09
on February 21, 2012 at 6:32 AM
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I'm so sorry. How very painful for you.
hugs!!!
posted by
hazel_st_cricket
on February 21, 2012 at 5:52 AM
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People are different(like Tap's post mentions why is ugliness lurking behind the beauty...difficult to answer yet this is how things are)and since you so firmly believe in counting your blessing i know you have already moved on....
posted by
shamasehar
on February 21, 2012 at 5:47 AM
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Kabu, I will say that when my children hurt, I hurt with them! You are hurting and so am I for you. Move on and keep counting your blessings for in this, you will find your strength & peace. 
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on February 21, 2012 at 5:24 AM
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I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with that nonsense.
Family can be the hardest to deal with sometimes. I've
had fight with friends and coworkers and the ones I
really like or like me we get past it and go on and sometimes
to be great friends. Family holds grudges forever it seems.
posted by
Samantha39
on February 21, 2012 at 5:16 AM
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Oh, Kabu, I'm sorry your son is such an ingrate.
Two other comments have covered the subject, so all I'll say is -- his loss. And to quote my old friend Spock: Be well and prosper.
posted by
Pat_B
on February 21, 2012 at 3:55 AM
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I can only imagine how that makes you feel. So sorry.
Family misunderstandings and problems hurt the worst of anything.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 20, 2012 at 8:43 PM
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forget it
as you well know, the "judge not - lest ye be judged" is so very true. and what comes around goes around, 'yada yada yada. and quite frankly i would bet u dollar to donuts that the DIL is behind all this nonsense. Let me take a guick guess,, in her mid years in life, has recently probably looked in the mirror and thought,, "IS THIS ALL THERE IS??"
not to mention that jealousy on her part is the biggest trigger to all this bull. YOU' my friend, are a very beautiful person, and I would bet u that she is just trying to control her hubby and this is her way of doing it.
And since I am a true believer,,, uh what's that verse,,, " He who casts the first stone,,,,,,
stay beautiful and remember we all love you a bunch and I bet your son and the grandkids do also and she darns well knows it,,,her problems probably go far deeper than you could handle,, even if you smothered her with all kinds of showers of love,,
posted by
jesse_jean
on February 20, 2012 at 8:42 PM
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We cannot burden ourselves with the shortcomings of others! It is obvious that you can never do anything to please your son or her! So why the hell bother! The important thing is that you thought of your grandchildren and thankfully they have enough sense to allow them to have the gifts! It is a horrible situation but I think I would fire back an email and tell her that if she cannot treat with due respect it would be better if she did not write at all! And, those who throw stones should not live in glass houses! I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around and when it gets back in her face she will not be a happer camper! I know this is painful for you because you love your son unconditionally and love your grandchildren but truly this is not worth the grief it is causing you! I am glad you posted to vent, it should help you get a good night's sleep, too! Also, I am leaving Adnohr's smile for you! 
When folks on Blogit have a difficult time, and I have been one of them, Wiley leaves a comforting thought behind and it says: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” I hope it helps! sam I posted twice today but mine was simply out of boredom! LOL! Take care of yourself, please!
posted by
sam444
on February 20, 2012 at 8:37 PM
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