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yes i studied about the peter pan syndrome ... and have lived with someone like him....not fun in the least....very good writing....look forward to reading more
posted by
Annicita
on January 29, 2012 at 8:48 PM
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Randir, I don't always know how to answer you.
Knowing your poems, I know you know about this. Whichever role you have found yourself playing, I hope you are ready to move on out of Neverland. It is easier for Wendy, she is by nature more adaptible. Peter, though, as long as he can't tell the difference between winning and losing, he will probably stay the same.
posted by
Ciel
on January 13, 2012 at 1:17 PM
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Myrrhage, great comment!
Ugliness or simply failures... and knowing them for our own, that we ourselves have the power to change--but this is not much if we don't use that power and, as you say, do something about it!
posted by
Ciel
on January 13, 2012 at 1:01 PM
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Great Post!
Ah yes... Alas, I was married to a "Peter", and was a "Wendy" through and through.
Things are different now. It's beautiful to be in a relationship where both parties enhance/complete aspects of the other, where there is symbiosis. What most people don't realize is that it takes work, and compromise, on both sides to achieve this. Not to mention a willingness to look our own ugliness in the face and actually do something about it!
posted by
myrrhage_
on January 12, 2012 at 6:28 PM
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I don't think Peter Pan is evil.
He is just shallow and about as alone as any hermit can be. He is a control-freak who clings to his rules for other people to live up to, in order to keep them away, and be able to pretend it is their failure and not his that keeps him safely alone.
Wendy just has to grow up and give up the idea that pretty people are nice people and that she can take everyone at face-value and trust what they tell her just because it sounds nice. She can't ignore the clues of other lrss nice things just because she doesn't want them to be there.
They both put their hopes and expectations out like an image hanging in the air, and pretend that some real person show up who will wear the masks Peter and Wendy have designed, and play by the character-role that Peter and Wendy invented because that is what they want to play off of. Peter and Wendy are not able to see real people because their own plans get in the way. When Disney made them all into cartoons he wasn't that far off-mark.
posted by
Randir
on January 5, 2012 at 4:34 PM
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Thought provoking and educational.
posted by
jollyjeff
on December 30, 2011 at 12:42 PM
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Wow. So.... So.... So sad that I know one.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 30, 2011 at 8:53 AM
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Re: Naut,
yet, some do play out the scenario very very close to the type. A person may be quite rational in many areas of life, but when dealing with romance, with the man/woman thing, go totally into these types.
And there are plenty of both around, who adopt it as a primary life-style: perpetual children, who are often the adult offspring of addicts, for instance: the avoider of all responsibility, the professional dependent...
posted by
Ciel
on December 30, 2011 at 8:01 AM
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Ciel
Very perceptive and interesting. Of course, Peter and Wendy are archetypes (not necessarily in the Jungian sense), and in that respect present in all of us, to varying degrees...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 30, 2011 at 7:50 AM
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Kabu,
Wow, that sounds like a sociopath, not just a perpetual child.
posted by
Ciel
on December 29, 2011 at 6:59 PM
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brilliant...truly brilliant read.
I knew a Peter Pan once...and evil is all I can say. He turned out to be a Pedophile....he could really play with children like a peer......suck in a whole family.
posted by
Kabu
on December 29, 2011 at 6:30 PM
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