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w Relax and let life happen in its time that moves along better than us love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on January 30, 2011 at 3:42 AM
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Point taken
posted by
Azur
on January 29, 2011 at 1:41 PM
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Point taken
posted by
Azur
on January 29, 2011 at 1:41 PM
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Very very thoughtful wisdom to share dear P-Raye ~ I hold you in my
~ yes you speak "TRUTH" ---
~ ah to be back to the daze of --- Yes, it's important to stop any madness or torment from taking us down. Thank you P-Raye ~
~ Ely
posted by
elysianfields
on January 27, 2011 at 10:18 PM
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Thank you, Dear Shobana, I hope you do.
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 4:54 PM
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I think those ways of keeping one well is so right Raye, hope you feel a lot better. I might just follow some of those too. Take care.
posted by
shobana
on January 27, 2011 at 4:31 PM
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Re: Good advice Lady Raye..it's never too late..
Very humbling comment, Dear Ash, I thank you deeply, my talented friend..being here is really all about helping others however and whenever we can, I see and believe that more than ever now. These are the saving gifts that have been offered to me - forgiveness from those I hurt in my pre-sickness, un-well days and the sharing of stories dealing with chronic illness and the hope and peace that flows from a higher source - many kind strangers came to my aid when I was first diagnosed, so fearful and lost. I went to forums based on my particular disease and was amazed..and eventually calmed, fortified, prayed for, given good advice, practical tips, etc. I prayed, learned from their experiences and improved, just as they predicted, just as they have done...I am not cured, of course, but by interacting, being willing to listen and learn and then to share my discoveries and my faith in a power that is the quintessence of creation, life and love infinite, I feel well - I won't say I've amazed my doctor - yet - but he does admit to being a bit surprised by how much I can do and by the improvements he didn't foresee. I use and think the term "pay-it-forward" a lot, because that is what I'm doing.
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 11:28 AM
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Good advice Lady Raye..it's never too late..
Perhaps God meant to give you a higher purpose, namely, chanelling your superior writing skills to help others heal, as seems to be happening in below comments, keep it up dear friend, and thanks for all those visits & inspiring comments on my blog..I can see that you are transformed into a higher being..best wishes, Ash
posted by
ash_pradhan
on January 27, 2011 at 10:47 AM
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Well said, Rocking! During grieving for my "lost" life, through the tears I finally saw it was terribly broken, empty in so many ways, hazy and confused as far as knowing how to find lasting peace, by knowing how to maintain my faith, calm my fears and practice forgiveness..this huge change or wake up call has settled that turmoil...I have God and the power of prayer to thank. I still have damage to my health that is permanent and serious, challenging to live and deal with sometimes and could cause my demise sooner rather than later, but I no longer grieve or carry around extra weight mentally or emotionally because of those realities. Just do the best I can to take care of myself, reach out to others, speak up when I feel a need..:) and make the most of each moment I'm blessed to hold. So in many ways, it is better!
Of course, I'm always going to hope for more moments, lol and I feel encouraged by the marvels of modern medicine and the expertise of truly caring professionals.
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 8:43 AM
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Oh, how we all need to hear this! Sad to hear its too late for you, Raye, but I guess life has a different twist in store for you. Your new life may be better. Who knows?
posted by
Rockingrector_retd
on January 27, 2011 at 8:19 AM
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Re: Raye09
Oh, Dear WileyFriend, I am so sorry you have been stressing. I think you are such a very sensitive soul who responds deeply to tragedy and the tribulations of others. I know sometimes it is difficult to not dwell on such and I think that is where medications have a role. In balancing the brain chemistry so we can enjoy our own life and do what we need to do for ourselves. Then it's a pay-it-forward situation, we can be of some good to others. I slipped into a pretty deep depression after my diagnosis - believed I was useless to everybody and ready to die. An anti-depressant really did help in turning my emotions and thought processes around - once I began taking care of myself and exercising, eating healthier, I felt healing begin, still ongoing, but so much improvement in my mental state that I weaned off the medication. But if I ever fall into that again, I wouldn't hesitate to tell my doctor and do whatever was necessary to pull out of it.
I am glad you shared, please feel free to do so.
Take care, my friend - I know Dear, Loving Kabu is there to make sure you do - hugs 'n hearts for you both...
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 6:17 AM
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Thank you, FSI.
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 5:58 AM
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Re: Dear Katray, I wish I could say it's not too late for me
Dear Sunny,
Breathe easier by knowing you are strong and aware. I know I was/am. I just should have focused that strength more fully on taking care of myself, instead of allowing others to sap it for reasons that really didn't do them any good in the long run - I was pretty weak in the awareness department.
It sounds to me like you are a survivor too, now you should build upon that by putting the past to rest, in the best way you can - if that's not entirely possible, you must make some kind of peace with it, either with acceptance and/or forgiveness. And fashion a life that revolves around your well being - this is not selfish or narcissistic - it is imperative for good health, both physical and mental. If you fall ill, who will be there for those depending on you? I am lucky, if it is possible to feel lucky in the midst of grappling with a very serious and potentially fatal disease, that my children are adults - well, they are of ages where they
should be adults...:)
I wish you all the best, my friend.
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 5:58 AM
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Re: Just don't stop blogging Raye!
Oh, Thank you so much, Ginnie. I plan on being around for a good, long while!
posted by
Raye09
on January 27, 2011 at 5:40 AM
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Raye09
This is a wonderful post luv and I shall save it to look at every day. I have been on that road myself, even up until last week when I kept a doctor's appointment and told him I was in trouble and I cried over everything. I read a story just before going to see him when I read a story from the Montreal Gazette of an elderly man and his wife, but younger than I am, that froze to death in their home in Longeuil, QC. It just broke me down. So the doc doubled the strength of my anti-depressants, and life is a little easier now but still not perfect.Time I got out of here I think.
posted by
WileyJohn
on January 26, 2011 at 9:27 PM
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Wise advice for us all to consider with our busy lives.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on January 26, 2011 at 7:09 PM
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Dear Katray, I wish I could say it's not too late for me
I have known very active stress over quite a period of years, and it had it's toll on me as well.
It took years after I stopped working before I could actually "learn" to relax again, if even for brief periods.
I will never be the same and will never look at working for someone else the same way again.
A true tragedy to have your mind and spirit broken. All I can do now is try to stay away from this type of situation, and keep my mind from it also.
Good advice here for anyone with still time to listen. Hopefully some day I will find complete peace if the treat of danger ever subsides... but I'm not going to hold my breath. 
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on January 26, 2011 at 6:56 PM
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Just don't stop blogging Raye!
You have many admirers and friends and we all need ya here too!
posted by
ginnieb
on January 26, 2011 at 1:44 PM
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I know people who have OCD, it does require taking stock of your lifestyle and improving things wherever and whenever you can. I never give up, move slower at times, but still going (a bit faster nowadays - consistent exercise, eating healthier and maintaining a positive mindset are the reasons)
Thank you, CC!
posted by
Raye09
on January 26, 2011 at 11:45 AM
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Re: great advice and I'm still praying for a miracle for you!!
Thank you so much, Ariala. I believe in the power of prayer..
posted by
Raye09
on January 26, 2011 at 11:40 AM
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Re: Raye, you are so "right on" in what you say....
Work out as much as possible, I now say, Rumor! I do throughout the day, monitoring my vitals, per dr.'s instructions. It builds our immune system and strength. I ride a stationary bike, work out with hand weights and walk laps inside. I have a yoga dvd that I've yet to pop in and enjoy...:)
Thank you for visiting.
posted by
Raye09
on January 26, 2011 at 11:39 AM
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It is natural to worry about our children, Dear Sam, but don't let it overwhelm or wear you down. I am so glad to have been of some comfort; sharing with dear friends help us too. Thank you.
posted by
Raye09
on January 26, 2011 at 11:33 AM
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Re: I am sorry that your body has become so stressed....I had years of horror
You were meant to journey to Wiley, Dear Kabu! And yes, faith, embracing loved ones and meaningful work play a big role in dealing with stress. Thank you..
posted by
Raye09
on January 26, 2011 at 11:30 AM
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It just burns one away Raye, I had OCD it was so stressful, I was so relieved to be able to crawl out of that mess, but l actually thought you had given up and then you came back which was really great, you really should be proud of yourself and hopefully it will give strength to others.
posted by
C_C_T
on January 26, 2011 at 11:27 AM
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great advice and I'm still praying for a miracle for you!!
posted by
Ariala
on January 26, 2011 at 9:22 AM
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Raye, you are so "right on" in what you say....
In a stress-filled world we need to take care of ourselves before we do anything else...eat, sleep, and exercise are the three "musts" on more than one fitness dvd (I know, because Liz is slowly collecting a set by Jillian Michaels).
...
posted by
Rumor
on January 26, 2011 at 7:41 AM
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I think you are very correct in that we must appreciate who we and take care of ourselves! I take this to heart for I know I am creating much more stress than is necessary with my son's deployed and it will only adversely affect me in the long run! I can't believe what you are going through and I am consumed with worry for probably nothing! I like how you have taken the bull by the horns so to speak and I admire your determination! You are a great testimony for me Dear Raye! And thank you for your comment at my blog, you help me tremendously! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 26, 2011 at 7:09 AM
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I am sorry that your body has become so stressed....I had years of horror
but there were things that helped me until the end. My career my grand babies and my Faith. Eventually of course I had to resolve the abuse and walk away but through those years I must have kept my eyes on what mattered most. Be blessed, feel peace darling.
posted by
Kabu
on January 26, 2011 at 6:43 AM
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