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I think your Mom is doing wonderful. I'm sending blessings to you and your Mom! I had three aunts who lived to be 100, and they lived at home. My one aunt was on my Dad's side, and the other two were on my Mom's side. I will say they were always involved with their church and believed in God. I believe that was a comfort for all of them. As they grew older, they watched the Sunday church service on TV at home. I loved them all. My Aunt Hilton, Aunt Mary, and Aunt Ann. My aunt Nelly lived in an assisted living and she was in her late 80s. She did just fine.
posted by
Goldiec
on April 9, 2026 at 10:15 PM
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Some folks need to get back in their lane and let your mother live her life. Nothing takes away living quicker than someone trying to run another person's life. Great on your mom for doing the things that keep her enjoying life!
posted by
sam444
on April 9, 2026 at 7:42 PM
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It’s apparent how much you care about your mother and she sounds like she is doing just fine. God bless her.,
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on April 9, 2026 at 5:51 PM
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She is doing more than me. I am coming up 81 and feel I have the capacity to be my own person and do what I want without being supervised. I think some people after their children grow up and move on get lost, so they think, ah yes mom, well she must need us now she is old,
posted by
Kabu
on April 9, 2026 at 4:38 PM
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It is the health thing, One cannot be the same as when one is sixty. Perhaps your Mother is alert for her age, sadly many families do not show your amount of care.
posted by
C_C_T
on April 9, 2026 at 11:52 AM
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I'm on the opposite side of that equation. I'm 90 and my adult kids worry about me, even though I still drive, do my own shopping, cooking, etc., and stay in touch with the news, distressing as it is. Yes, I forget things now and then, been doing that since I was in my 60s. Even oldsters have lots of details to keep track of, forgetting something doesn't mean it's time for the old folks' home and 24-7 supervision. You're doing fine unless/until the situation changes.
posted by
Pat_B
on April 9, 2026 at 9:30 AM
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Family can be really good at complicating your mind when there is a difference of opinion. Stay true to the path where your own mind is taking you. It sounds as though you've got this as does your sweet mama.
posted by
Sherri_G
on April 9, 2026 at 9:25 AM
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My dad has a 92-year-old cousin. He worked for us until he was 89 to take care of his wife, who was battling dementia. He ended up moving in with one of his daughters. She convinced him that he was old, and now he lost a lot of his independence. Family can be so frustrating.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 9, 2026 at 9:19 AM
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