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Good afternoon

This is a great topic. I am sure that many women can relate. Moving so far away from your friends kind of left you to the wolves, or in your case, the wolf dressed in mother-in-law's clothing. Talking about what goes on in the bedroom is a private issue, but the world has blown a hole right in the middle of private matters, even back in the mid-50s when television viewers caught sight of Elvis gyrating his pelvis. Music and magazines both opened up new avenues of how people felt towards and saw relationships.

posted by Sherri_G on November 14, 2021 at 12:06 PM | link to this | reply

I actually admonished Mother when I returned from my Honey moon. " You never told me anything." I accused her. Of course I had some idea because we girlfriends did whisper 'things" to each other , but still ......... " Poor Mother, she was sorry but found it so difficult to speak about and big Sis was no help either.

posted by Kabu on November 14, 2021 at 11:32 AM | link to this | reply

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Goldiec, I was not educated when I met my first husband. Abandoned by dear old dad, I had no concept of what men were like, mother never remarried and we weren't around our extended family. What I thought I knew about marriage I got from those family & women's magazines - what I took to heart was pure bull.

 

posted by Pat_B on November 14, 2021 at 10:24 AM | link to this | reply

Thank God those days are over! Or well they should be...some still think like that.

posted by Annicita on November 14, 2021 at 9:42 AM | link to this | reply

Pat I once managed to get a copy of a small book explaining what would happen in marriage. For some reason, it was banned and I was just able to get one before they were taken off the shelves.  I think the best advice I could give is to see if you like the parents of your intended.

posted by C_C_T on November 14, 2021 at 9:14 AM | link to this | reply

Good Morning

Pat, great topic this morning!  I'm glad things have changed since back in the day.  Women have careers and can take care of themselves.  They are smart, well-educated, and their own person.  I think when a man respects his wife they make a strong bond with each other and no outside influence will come between them.  I have to say some in-laws are wonderful and then there are the ones that want to control everything.  They are the dangerous ones.  I know you were smart and educated but you were conditioned to do what your husband wanted even if you lost yourself in the process.  That thought sends chills down my spine.  Life can be hard but the strength of a woman will win out in the end. 

posted by Goldiec on November 14, 2021 at 8:24 AM | link to this | reply