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Pat
I think everybody has this covered already. You know what to do. It actually puts you in a bit of an ackward situation. 
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on August 2, 2018 at 4:36 PM
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I agree with you. Get to know her, but stay out of it as best you can.
posted by
Amanda__
on August 2, 2018 at 1:43 PM
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yes try really hard to keep out of this pot about to boil over. probably what broke them up years ago. she doesn't love she possesses and that is sick.
posted by
Kabu
on August 2, 2018 at 9:01 AM
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Re: on further thought...
I'm suspecting that Sweetie's insecurity partly stems from the ex-husband's treatment of her - she told me he was "never there" and habitually spent weekends on the golf course, was often gone for days on business trips, etc. I think my son would appreciate my keeping my nose out of it.
posted by
Pat_B
on August 2, 2018 at 8:56 AM
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Hopefully, things work out for them this time around...It is always uneasy when other people get involved unintentionally or intentionally in a family member's relationship.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 2, 2018 at 8:11 AM
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What what I have seen a new old couple will jog along without too must thought as to the outcome. I expect she feels she would like you on her side. I suggest what you want is harmony all round and not more aggro.
posted by
C_C_T
on August 2, 2018 at 7:29 AM
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on further thought...
If she wants to call you frequently, maybe it would be useful to tell her that you can't be her therapist, but would be glad to get to know her better, and set some rules for her calls. Rules, boundaries... that she must talk about things other than her fears and doubts.
posted by
Ciel
on August 2, 2018 at 7:17 AM
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Sweetie does sound complicated, seriously self-doubting... I wonder if that it a legacy from her previous marriage. Some professional therapy does sound in order.
posted by
Ciel
on August 2, 2018 at 7:13 AM
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