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Reading your logic, I agree with you that Son #3 is the best choice...As for me, I probably ought to get a living will and for that matter a regular will.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on March 10, 2017 at 9:56 AM
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something we should all do, methinks.
posted by
strat
on March 10, 2017 at 6:18 AM
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I need to get that taken care of myself! I keep putting it off because none of my children want to talk about it! sam 
posted by
sam444
on March 9, 2017 at 10:04 PM
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I actually put my will, power of attorney and health care documents together this year and I'm a little younger than you. 
It's not really about age. You just never know. I actually felt alot better once I had it done.
I think it's smart that you chose wisely instead of adding all names. My mom had named me and my brother as co-executors even though we all knew that I would be handling everything. I know she did it only for appearances, but what she didn't realize is the difficulty and paperwork it caused by just having his name included. The executor is a job and should be chosen rationally by who can best perform the job. It is separate and has nothing to do with who you name as heirs. Lesson learned.
posted by
-blackcat
on March 9, 2017 at 9:00 PM
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TAPS
A remarkable post, and I admire your equanimity and your wisdom. I haven't quite reached that bend in the road yet - or maybe I'm still too busy watching the scenery...
posted by
Nautikos
on March 9, 2017 at 7:50 PM
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The best prose's your own thoughts love.
posted by
BC-A
on March 9, 2017 at 5:41 PM
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TAPS
TAPS, a truly wonderful post. My brother and I were co-executors of my dad's estate, and it is a job. My sister was fine with it and hopefully your boys will also be okay with your choice. I have been saying for years to do what you write here. You are correct, and wise. Lovely poem.
posted by
Sea_Gypsy
on March 9, 2017 at 3:58 PM
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btw, I hope you are feeling better?
posted by
shelly_b
on March 9, 2017 at 3:34 PM
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I was the chosen one for my mom. It was hard thing to do (emotionally), but I got through it, and did the best I could. I will be 50 in a year. Everyone keeps pushing me to make a will. I keep pushing back. I'm so not ready for that. But in reality, I know it would be the right thing to do for the sake of my family.
posted by
shelly_b
on March 9, 2017 at 3:34 PM
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Ah, Taps. You are wise... It will make things so much easier
when the time comes in 8 or 10 years...
posted by
Pat_B
on March 9, 2017 at 1:19 PM
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Yes I agree it is not morbid. It's best to let everyone know ahead of time instead of a lot of bickering or shirking...
posted by
Annicita
on March 9, 2017 at 12:29 PM
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posted by
Ciel
on March 9, 2017 at 11:48 AM
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Re: CCT
Yes, people will pop off. LOL
posted by
TAPS.
on March 9, 2017 at 11:10 AM
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Well it is better to do it while one has the marbles. Do it and forget it Taps`I did many years ago, but folk keep popping off and I expect it is a shambles now.
posted by
C_C_T
on March 9, 2017 at 11:04 AM
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I believe in taking care of business before it gets emotional when the end is coming. For years I was optomistic that other people die but not me. Then I realized that the odds were stacked completely against me and I had better get used to the idea.
Anyay I made my will and Son #1 has power of attorney so that he can look after my affairs in Australia and when the time comes it will be easier.
posted by
Kabu
on March 9, 2017 at 10:57 AM
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