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Not for awhile please, Dear TAPS!

I too feel you want your remains to be buried with your family but, in my view, they are simply your earthly remains. The real you will be where and with whom the heart of your soul desires.

posted by Katray2 on November 1, 2016 at 10:32 AM | link to this | reply

I prefer locally owned funeral homes and cemeteries love.

posted by BC-A on November 1, 2016 at 10:00 AM | link to this | reply

TAPS

As you'll probably recall, I never give advice in matters of the heart! That applies to burials as well...

posted by Nautikos on November 1, 2016 at 7:10 AM | link to this | reply

TAPS

Quite a dilemma, and a bit unusual. I tend to think that your family would be the better choice, and that you are somewhat more comfortable with that idea. But not yet, please, not yet. 

posted by Sea_Gypsy on October 31, 2016 at 9:18 PM | link to this | reply

Re: Ciel

My uncle donated his body to science also. After a few months the family got a call that they were finished and make arrangements! They then had to proceed with a funeral service. Unbelievable! Never heard of the seed and the tree. Interesting.

posted by Sea_Gypsy on October 31, 2016 at 9:16 PM | link to this | reply

What it boils down to is what you want, and from what I have read about your family, I believe that they would honor your fina wishes, even if they did not agree. I believe that during the rest of your life, they would still support you.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on October 31, 2016 at 6:20 PM | link to this | reply

I'm with Ciel - it's what I want and you and I both love trees, TAPS. I'm also with Pat-B. Wait a bit, will you please?

posted by adnohr on October 31, 2016 at 5:48 PM | link to this | reply

My aunt-in-law arranged well ahead of time to donate her body to science, so that no one would have the expense or trouble of dealing with it. She was very practical.

I rather like an idea I've seen recently of having one's remains incorporated in a biodegradable container with a seed of a tree, and buried in fertile earth, for a tree to be one's monument.

posted by Ciel on October 31, 2016 at 2:28 PM | link to this | reply

Re: CCT

What does brother want if he dies last? 

posted by TAPS. on October 31, 2016 at 11:33 AM | link to this | reply

Re: BC-A

I think they do that a lot these days.  In KC, there is one small cemetary where everyone is buried "standing up", caskets interred on end.

posted by TAPS. on October 31, 2016 at 11:32 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Pat_B

How true it is that you can't please everyone.

posted by TAPS. on October 31, 2016 at 11:29 AM | link to this | reply

Re: Annicita

I think you are right about my preference, except for a stupid feeling of abandoning my sons.  LOL

posted by TAPS. on October 31, 2016 at 11:26 AM | link to this | reply

I say go with what your heart tells you.  I think you prefer to be buried with your family and not with your ex.  He is your ex for a reason (which we don't need to know).  Bottom line the grave is just a repository for our suits what lasts is our soul which crosses over and is greeted by all of our loved ones.

posted by Annicita on October 31, 2016 at 11:01 AM | link to this | reply

Well my brother Arthur said he wanted to be cremated if he died first and I said ,I am not going to mess around like that, so I bought two plots from the Council and told him one was his. I know it makes no difference and one can have ones ashes buried in a casket. It is just a small thing but it seems sometimes no one knows what to do with the ashes. I know a lady who took her husbands ashes out to a spot where they camped sometimes.

She sprinkled them under a stately tree, but when she revisited the place a year later the Ashes were still under the tree. My sister said in the village where she lives the rows of gravestones are all of her past neighbours in one certain row. I suppose that seems friendly in a way. Its your last day and you can do what you want to. 

posted by C_C_T on October 31, 2016 at 10:27 AM | link to this | reply

Well, I wrote the perfect solution to the dilemma and as I went

to click on "Add Comment" it all blinked into the ether. So, here's another try. You can't please every one. If you care to spend eternity with the kids' dad, then go for it. But not for another ten years or so.

posted by Pat_B on October 31, 2016 at 10:18 AM | link to this | reply

My paternal grandparents are buried on top of each other love.

posted by BC-A on October 31, 2016 at 9:44 AM | link to this | reply