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I would just introduce them by name...It's no one's business their relationship or relationship to you unless you choose to disclose it. Either of them can elaborate if questioned if they so choose. Wonderful that you consider her a daughter...I feel that way about my dil's as well.
posted by
Annicita
on November 22, 2015 at 12:50 PM
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TAPS
You are a most beautiful inclusive loving soul to those who have the honour to know you. You are simply, love.
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 22, 2015 at 12:33 PM
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Just say I guess you know each other and walk on to the next introduction.
posted by
C_C_T
on November 22, 2015 at 11:55 AM
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I feel that she is your daughter-in-law. I imagine that when most people hear that explanation, they see it that way, too.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on November 22, 2015 at 4:31 AM
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TAPS
I'm sorry about your son, Betty, but glad and not surprised you were blessed with wonderful remaining connections with Melissa and her second husband. I'm sure Peter is smiling from Heaven over all of you. It sounds to me like she is much more than a daughter by law to you and in most cases that is how I would introduce her and, then, if further information were warranted by people who might know you hadn't actually birthed another daughter, and you felt like giving it, you might explain all the rest. But, of course, Ciel's suggestion is the proper one....I'm just a rebel! LOL!
posted by
Krisles
on November 21, 2015 at 6:47 PM
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Sorry for your loss, Dear TAPS..
I say call them what your heart calls them - family. And if the wise-a$%$es don't like it, let 'em stew..
posted by
Katray2
on November 21, 2015 at 5:03 PM
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Yes Ciel's answer seems to hit the right note
posted by
adnohr
on November 21, 2015 at 4:49 PM
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Re: Ciel
Thank you again. That makes sense.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 21, 2015 at 4:38 PM
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"This is my daughter-in-law and her second husband."
It's told that my sister-in-law used to introduce her spouse as, "...and this is my first husband." He was, too, if you don't count the sailor.
posted by
Ciel
on November 21, 2015 at 4:27 PM
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TAPS
A pedant might want to come up with a special 'category' - but really, what would be the point? If I were you I would completely disregard the wise-a$$es and continue introducing them the way you want and always have, and invite the wise-a$$es to kiss your a$$ if they have a problem with that...
posted by
Nautikos
on November 21, 2015 at 4:24 PM
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I'm sorry you lost your son, but it's wonderful to read about your
daughter-in-law - wonderful to see a family strong together. Keep introducing her as you wish - the protocol should follow the way it is. There's no such thing as too much love in this world.
posted by
Pat_B
on November 21, 2015 at 2:27 PM
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