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You are an honorable woman.  Just remember that those two will always be a part of his life.  If you stay with him it will be a matter of setting up house rules that are deal breakers.

I think you need however to put yourself first once his mom transitions.  Find a house you love.  Make sure it's only 1 bedroom so if things do work out with Rick that the two of them can't move in again.  Make it a deal breaker with him if you need to do that.  They are adults and need to start acting like it instead of depending on dear old dad and his girlfriend to be their maids, meal tickets etc.

Big hugs

posted by Annicita on July 5, 2015 at 7:29 PM | link to this | reply

Skye08

I am so sorry for your dilemma and agree with Kabu,get your own space of mind at least. Much love to you my psychic friend, the cross still glows for you some nights, keep that faith

posted by WileyJohn on July 5, 2015 at 4:36 PM | link to this | reply

What Kabu wrote makes a lot of sense to me.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on July 5, 2015 at 5:44 AM | link to this | reply

Time to put you first after this stint. Why not sell the house and buy something small close to your lovely Son/DIL and baby boy and bathe yourself in their love.

It seems that Rick has made his choice. I am really sorry because you were so happy for a time. Maybe all this time your job has actually been to help his Mama cross the bridge with dignity when this time came around. Then to take care of you and yours.

Here for you dear one.

posted by Kabu on July 4, 2015 at 9:51 AM | link to this | reply

It sounds like life is difficult for you at this time.  I well remember when things were similar for me some years ago.  It is not easy to be care giver for the older generation and marital/divorce troubles at the same time.

posted by TAPS. on July 4, 2015 at 8:20 AM | link to this | reply