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i made some calculations and you are 46 so by now you should know that a relationship is never 50-50.  it is 100%-100%.  if you had loved this woman or even thought you could fall in love with her, money would not be the most important point in this relationship.  the v in this story comes across as immature and shallow.  up to this point i was laughing and having a good time, but all of a sudden this story takes a turn to the dark side.

posted by overtherainbow on June 23, 2015 at 3:32 PM | link to this | reply


Do I have this right?....You want 50/50 because you both work...but you work one job and she works two?....and for that time working, you make 25% more, and probably had for how long? And probably will for how long? So, strictly talking finances, which paying for a date is what we are talking about.....your paranoia - I mean caution -about being taken advantage of sounds like it was based on a rock solid basis of reason and fairness to me; and I'm sure all the women you attracted thought it over and considered you would always be as fair and even-handed in all aspects of a relationship.....and gave as good as they got.(please tell me you aren't mentoring any of the young men in your family because it sounds like a great family and we want it to continue!😘)

posted by Krisles on May 30, 2015 at 9:52 PM | link to this | reply

 Hi V.        I think if you really wanted her you would have just paid and not argued. It does seem a bit commercialized. You could always have taken sandwiches.

posted by C_C_T on May 30, 2015 at 11:55 AM | link to this | reply


With me the problem has been a different one - the ones available for a date I don't find interesting, and the one I do find interesting is kinda like not quite within immediate dating distance...

posted by Nautikos on May 29, 2015 at 9:09 PM | link to this | reply

A very interesting post.  The attitude does seem to be the beginning of the ending of what could have been a great relationship.

posted by TAPS. on May 29, 2015 at 6:42 PM | link to this | reply

Vermont 01

Bye,bye Dee. LOL

posted by WileyJohn on May 29, 2015 at 5:39 PM | link to this | reply

There's Dutch, wish, and prayer for that date together.

posted by BC-A on May 29, 2015 at 2:21 PM | link to this | reply

ps....staying in for a date can certainly be anything but dull.

posted by Kabu on May 29, 2015 at 1:50 PM | link to this | reply

Times have certainly changed in today's World. Wiley and I share expenses always. but if one was running low, the other would carry the load until the situation improved...but then we are married not just on a date.

posted by Kabu on May 29, 2015 at 1:49 PM | link to this | reply

Over the years, who should pay for the dinner date has become a topic of conversation that has many of advice columnists weighing in. I myself would still pay for it all. I guess I am old fashioned that way.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on May 29, 2015 at 9:28 AM | link to this | reply

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